Our 2012 Self Image Challenge

**frugalwarrior2** · 02-07-2012, 05:05 PM

Vanilla -sorry to hear your dog is sick. Watch out for dehydration.
Tervs- i offered,I meant it.

Well,dropped DD and went to animal control. Renewed Old beagle and Yogi,took Gooddog off as she is deseased(sp)
Didn't have Mackeys papers so I didn't do him,they don't know about him yet anyway.
So i take Mackey over there and get a weight and a rabies cert. I ask them to look at his leg as he's walking stiff. He examines him and says he may have a ligated patella? So we take xrays. I leave as they have to put him out. 2 hrs and $300. later(that I don't have). He has a broken leg and will need to see a specialist. ($150.) and see if he needs a plate or wire for the fracture! I have to wait to hear back ,he is on antibiotics and pain meds. I feel like terrible pets owner. He is currently stoned and squeaky. I am not having a great day! and obviously neither is he!.

**oheoh's momma** · 02-07-2012, 08:08 PM

hug star
fw poor puppy
U need a mental health day sofa , tea, cookies, and life time..... hugs still feel wiped

**Momto5RN** · 02-07-2012, 09:32 PM

hi everyone wow what alot to read .
this is long sorry .
worked this weekend .

we had a 15 yo birthday party here sat night my dd threw it for her BF and she was surprised - yeah !

oldest dd got caught in a lie on FB re her work schedule and going to younger dds cheer competition like she promised . she told us a story to cover it that she outed herself on responding to someone on her FB page and megan and I liked it to make her know we knew .

well then i get evil texts non stop for about an hour sat night ( she thinks she is a great liar well no shes not and i guess getting called on it set her off )

i told her to leave me alone .
well apparently she came here sometime sunday night and slept over as she was on dd2 floor monday AM - i had no plan of waking her like i usually do if she hates me and i am such a horrid mom why would i do that?

dh gets ready to go to his first day at new job . he notices a huge amt of oil under dds1 car- he checks it its empty he telles her she needs to go straight to pep boys well she went to her appt and then to work with no oil . while at work i got texts that dh wasnt answering his cell duh i told her Sat he had no cell - it was his work # that went back on friday - his new job hasnt given him a phone yet told her to call him on ds2 cell which he was using she texts me " too bad too late cya" .
i had to text dh who cant even text back on sons cell to call her. he took his lunch break . and went bought oil went to her work and put it in car . by now she had been texting me crazy texts so much i just stopped reading them when she gets mad suddenly everything in her life that isnt right is my fault and she goes on and on and on .

at pep boys we get the 680$ news that the oil pan is cracked along with something else- damage seen from going too fast over speedbumps which we have several of in the town nearby where her friends live . this is not the first damage caused by that - sh ehas knocked the front under the bumper stuff loose twice before.

i was livid - its one thing to maintain it while in school like we did fir ds 1 for normal wear and tear but for being irresponsible
i told her that she just stole her little brothers b-day present $ and our food money for month because she wont slow down

she texts back to me " budget better " and continued with name calling - i was on millisecond from hoping in my car going down to pep boys and beating her - i was so angry - i basically told her i was done with her and i didnt want her in my home . blcoked her from my cell blocked her from my youngests FB page because she texts him and says i am crazy.

i wasnt able to get him his b-day gift at walmart today as planned - i ordered it online because my one CC i have for emergencies is MIA and the one i bent up i could still get #s off of but the poor 11 yo isnt getting a bday gift today because his sister is selfish .

i just lost it and was crying hysterically because i literally worked myself sick this past week into a flare and any extra $ i made to cover us thru this rough month is gone . and wthout a thank you or a care from her

i told dh that if she did one more thing to that car because she wasnt being responsible i wanted to take it away - well Mr used to always say that and then blame me for not going along said HE will decide that - said that maybe he will take over the money so we can fix the car - well now i am not speaking to him either because how does he doing the bills make the money grow ? and as soon as we know what his new pay checks are and we refigure the budget i am handing it to him . let him try to make money come from where there is none .
and i will pay for my car payment and work on paying down the debt with my pay . no idea how he will pay car insurance or food since that comes from me too .

worse was he just tells me to ignore dd1 well she goes for the jugular for the most hateful mean things . i paid for her to have a dr appt a RX for a rash and a xray last week and
even took her etc and she says to me

" it sickened me to fake i liked you so i could get you to pay for the dr for me "

how does one ignore that and pretend it didnt happen ?

and guess who is here tonight - came by with a bunch of candy for ds 3 11th birthday - i am sitting in my bedroom dh acts like mother teresa has arrived with blessed holy water and tells me to come see . helllllll nooooo.
i am tired of her saying things and acting like she does and then pretending like it never happened just to keep things calm .

she is on MY desktop computer - without even asking and i am not leaving my room until she leaves . i have nothing to say to her and she sure as hell better not sleep here.

shes my kid so i love her but i hate her and how she acts and right now the hate part is way over any love . i am not even 100% sure she hasnt killed the last part of any love this time.

**Momto5RN** · 02-07-2012, 09:32 PM

FW happy birthday !!!
Re the grocery store incident - forget who it was sorry- is there any chance the woman was talking to the lady with a few things and you thought she was talking to you and thats why she took her first ? i dont think i would have left my stuff over that -i would have been saying a few choice wiords on my way home but i dont have the time to go elsewhere and re do my shopping and if i like the store i would be embrassed to go back in case i was now deemed the crazy lady who left her cart and ran out and no one knew why . in the end it didnt teach the clerk a thing -and wasted your time . If the boss asks why that cart is there even if she knows why shes not admitting it.

QM glad you decided the way you did for work - i was really worried how the child would take it - something we say or do that doesnt seem like it should can stick in a kids mind for a long time of what ifs and whys .

FW and Tervs - so lucky to meet up !!!

MM prayers for your health issues ..

debc- hope you are feeling less stressed and everyone is getting healthier
Omamma prayers for your 14 yo relative

Star- hope car repair isnt too costly
looks like we have a few movie watchers - wich i could find some quiet time to watch one

**tervsforme** · 02-07-2012, 09:46 PM

Good evening all. So much turmoil going on lately, with a lot of us, it seems. I cetainly hope it calms down for us all.

FW - I know you did and I appreciate that, very much. So sorry to hear about Mackey. You are not a bad pet mom.

star - Sorry to hear that Murphy is visiting, kick him to the curb!

Oheoh - please take care of yourself and get some rest.

Momto5RN - So sorry to hear about the issues with your daughter.

I need to go vacuum real quick. I made some muffins tonight for breakfast for the week. It's chilly in here, I can't seem to get warm. I'm going to go make a cup of tea. Have a good night all.

**madhen** · 02-07-2012, 09:59 PM

FW2, Oh no!! Poor puppy! They are really good about hiding their pain, so don't feel like a bad dog mom. At least you took him to the vet, which is more than some would do!

Madkat, congrats on your first washcloth!!

Vanilla, hope your little pup is feeling better. Bad day for dogs!!

Starsapphire, maybe it is the universe's way of telling you to go out and do stuff, rather than sit hunched over your keyboard like the rest of us!

QM · 02-07-2012, 10:18 PM

I've had a crappy day. To say the least! I won't go into details, but just pray pray pray for my DH. He is stressed out about work right now and seeming to take it out on me. He sent me a nasty e-mail today about (in more words than this) how stressed out he is about work and me, how terrible of a person I am (never used those words exactly) and about how we might need to go back to our marriage counselor. I am more than happy to go back. He was the one who wanted to quit going because he said, "I was frugal!" I never said that I didn't want to go pay money to get help for our marriage. Honestly, I feel that he was using that as an excuse not to take a good long look at himself and what he's adding to the marriage.

My SI is extremely low. I thought we were on an upwards road in our marriage, but after today I see he's hit another valley. And because of that, he has taken me with him. Personally, I believe that he suffers from some form of depression. His mother is on anti-depressants. I think he needs personal counselling for the "issues from his past".

We were supposed to go on a date night challenge thing thru Focus on the Family at a nearby church on Friday. DH wants me to tell the couples we were going with that we can't go. I'm going to let them know on Thursday in case he changes his mind...unless he REALLY wants them to know sooner than that. I don't see why he'd really care. Either way we have to fork out $10 for the "date night".

He's just stressing ME out in general. I'll never get rid of my cold thinking about how crazy he's making me.

I have to look to God. I know I do. Only He can give me the strength I need to go on. Only He can be the true light to guide my feet. Though the storms around me seem wild and out of control, I know Who can calm them and is in control of them. No burden of mine is too small for me to take to Him. He cares for me and for that I am so thankful.

**oheoh's momma** · 02-07-2012, 10:27 PM

hugs and prayers to all
mom25rn so sorry about your daughter I understand how u feel. prayers for u
thank u for all the prayers for me I am not well right now
Please continue to pray for my cousins daughter the doctor only gave her a 20% survival rate with the chemo and radaition.... so my heart is broken praying for a miracle..hugs and good night

**frugalwarrior2** · 02-07-2012, 11:51 PM

Sounds like everyones having quite the week and today esp.

As of now Mackey will prob. have surgery on the 21st or 22nd of this month. I spoke to the specialist. He is on the internet-experienced and well known. Apparently the recovery time is 3-6 months w/ the most critical time being the first 2 months. the second possibility is a congenital defect. I just feel so sad for my baby and stressed out. $1350. is the magic number currently.
Kinda downhearted today.

Talked to Dbro during this in Kmart today while i wandered aimlessly wasting time while Mackey was getting xrayed. His wife is still mourning heavily for her dad and my Dbro is way under employed. At least the house fiasco is over. I laughed because his 13 year old has hatched into the gloomy/no one likes me stage. Don't miss that.

DD and i got into it over Dbfs' total lack of manners. Leaving the bathroom door open,ignoring any requests to use more polite language deviod of cuss words and endless discussions about baxxs. I told her i needed a break. I made an off hand comment about circus life. Apparently his mom is or was a carney? Like i'd guess that. And now I am a snob? Really? Tired just tired. You'd think when you get up specifically to drive someone to school and use your car and gas they could at least shut it? Maybe next time I will pull over on the highway and just sit there?

thinking about you all but I need sleep so comments to follow later,

**ladytoysdream** · 02-08-2012, 08:32 AM

Momto5RN .... (HUGS)

Your daughter sounds like a challenge. From what I understand she has her
own apartment, vehicle, and a job.
So she abuses her car, and your budget has to fix it.
And then she abuses you verbally.
And your household has no grocery money for the month.

I would not have given up my grocery money to bail her out.
If your hubby wants to give you grief also, then let him have a go with the
budget. Use your money for what bills you have to. Put a password on your computer.
I think it's called tough love. She has to learn to stand on her own two feet.
Just say NO.

QM · 02-08-2012, 09:37 AM

Even though my heart is aching in so many ways, I'm going to try to have a good day. I swung by my grandparents' graveside again today. The sun is shining today, and as I was driving by it's like the graveyard was calling me in to visit their plot. Today was the first time I whispered and "talked to them". There are so many things I wish I could say in person...ask my Grandma...and just hug them both. I wish I could ask my Grandma if there were ever times her heart was aching because of things my Grandpa said. (Neither of them suffered from depression, so I'm not sure how much she'd understand in the way of how my DH is acting.) How did she deal with problems? Or was life just 'perfect' for them in their marriage. I wish they weren't gone. I'm not sure if this hole in my heart will ever heal. I so want to see them again.

That being said, I'm going to continue to talk to God and try to walk/work thru it with Him. He never gives us more than we can handle. God can do all things.

So I look to Him to have a better day. I'm going to try to get some stuff (housework) done around the house. DH set out about 10 shirts for me to iron. I think he thinks I have all this time on my hands or something.

Anyways, I'm going to try to get them all ironed and start into cleaning all the bathrooms. That is my goal before he gets home on Friday. If I get anything else done above and beyond that, then that'll be a bonus.

BBL!

QM · 02-08-2012, 11:19 AM

I'm so frustrated with myself right now. I can't get anything done without the teardrops falling.

**tervsforme** · 02-08-2012, 11:29 AM

Morning ladies. Worried about all of you who aren't posting. I woke up with a sore throat and the sniffles today. Didn't get a cold last year, looks like I will make up for it this year. Probably this crazy weather, warm one day, cold the next. I wish it would just be winter, then spring. This is crazy...

FW - Oh man, so sorry to hear about Mackey. You aren't a snob, I can't imagine someone coming to my house to use the restroom and not shut the door!

QM - You will get through it.

Ladytoydream - I hope all is well with you!

oheoh - perhaps you should go to the ER if you aren't feeling well! Prayers for your cousin's daughter.

Well, I'm on phones today, taking customer support calls. Gives me a new appreciate for the people who have to do this all the time. Luckily the phones aren't very busy today. Well, I'm going to get back at it. I hope everyone has a great day! Hugs and prayers to all...

**oheoh's momma** · 02-08-2012, 11:45 AM

qm hugs to u .. please take care of your self...
mom2 5rn u have the Patience of a saint... Don't it is not healthy for u.. do not let your daughter abuse you just becasue u gave birth to her does not give her that right.. as far as the boy friend geeze....
.hugs and prayers to all
I am feeling better so I am cleaning house but I am going to take my time with it...
told hubby last night that he needed to take more off of me... we will see we have had that talk before and it goes in one ear and out the other.. hugs

**frugalwarrior2** · 02-08-2012, 12:08 PM

QM-let them fall. Heal in your own way. I still would like to tell my gram stuff and she died when i was pregnant w/ DD! I never got to tell her that this baby was ok after 2 that were not. You'll be ok in time.

Well,I got the mess w/ the college mostly straightened out. They are crediting $2650. back to my CC today. They still haven't cleaned my Ds's machine so $50. will be held back until then. Which means eventually I should get everything back. No dorm fees or computer fee. Finally,yeah! I figure it should be off the charge balance w/in another 5 days?

Also the mortgage mess is resolved. That did cost $50 in a stop payment but Oh well on that one. We are back to the correct balance.
Ran to the C.U. and dumped my bday check and CC points reward to cover the hamb and cat food I got yesterday. Really juggling lately!
Getting frazzled already trying to keep all the dogs seperate so Mackey and Yogi don't make the leg swell. Haven't made the appt. for surgery. I need a day to chill and formulate ALL my info needs,my head is swirling from yesterday.
Got sidetracked getting fur off the furniture,need to mop places so i can get the 2 new pieces in. 3 days in enough to have the neighbors talk?
Playing w/ the idea of dying the mop still. Such a nasty job when its long not to mention smelly. At least its free as i have the dye.

Heres a kind funny one (as in oh what a dork I am?). Our snow had all melted except for these few snowballs in the back corner and on the side back of the yard. Odd? So it snows and melts and they stay the same again?hmm. Then I realize I do need to get better glasses than just readers. The "snowballs" are tufts of plush batting from stuffies Yogi has snuck outside and shredded. Now I will have to set aside some time to go pick them all up.lol Duh? Dum,dum,dum,dum dum!