We are gonna renew our vows....got a few questions...

**coupqn1999** · 11-02-2003, 01:18 AM

Well hubby and I have decided to renew our vows.Its a long story as to why but I am really excited!!! We are thinking Aug of 2004 or 2005.Anyway I have been looking for "ettiquette" on this and am having no luck so i figure you all are so smart I needed to come here

ok if ya all can help me I would appreciate it. Do you have someone walk you down or ya go alone? Do you have the "attendants"? Do you just do what ya want its your day?LMAO!!! Gimme some ideas/pointers ladies!!! The bottom line is want to do it all....the big wedding the big reception the whole family! We got married in Vegas with some family and a few friends,it was not bad but it was not great either.We sorta gotr married cause it was the "next step" and I was not really in love then

things have cwertainly changed and we wanna a fresh start. Ok thats my longggggggggg in short

now your help please!!!LOL TIA

**Darlene** · 11-02-2003, 07:06 AM

Don't have the "correct" answers but I do have an opinion.
I think you should do what you want. Etiquette schmetiquette.
Love and happiness should be celebrated however and whenever you can.
Lifes too short to care what other people think. If you want the big wedding I say go for it.
I'm happy your so happy!

**graci42** · 11-02-2003, 08:44 AM

WOOOOOOHOOOOOOOO! Denise is gett'n married!! HEHEHEHE

Do what feels right! If you want someone to walk you down the isle...do it...if you want brides maids...do it...

The one thing I would do for a "renewal" rather than the traditional ceremony....write your own vows....with "renewal" as the theme...Share memories with your hubby and the guests as well as your reasons for wanting to get married again. It will take a bit more effort than "repeating" vows but I believe that will make the ceremony even more personal and ultimately beautiful.

CONGRATULATIONS!! Enjoy!

**couponchic** · 11-02-2003, 01:33 PM

Originally posted by Darlene
Don't have the "correct" answers but I do have an opinion.
I think you should do what you want. Etiquette schmetiquette.
Love and happiness should be celebrated however and whenever you can.
Lifes too short to care what other people think. If you want the big wedding I say go for it.
I'm happy your so happy!

Totally agree with everything Darlene said. Very good advice!

**homesteadmamma** · 11-02-2003, 01:42 PM

Originally posted by Darlene
Don't have the "correct" answers but I do have an opinion.
I think you should do what you want. Etiquette schmetiquette.
Love and happiness should be celebrated however and whenever you can.
Lifes too short to care what other people think. If you want the big wedding I say go for it.
I'm happy your so happy!

I totally agree too. You do what you want and make it the best day of your life!!

**KKCondrey** · 11-02-2003, 01:50 PM

I'm with the other ladies. You are the one that has to pay the bill so I say do what you and your dh want to do.

Congrats on your upcoming renewal.

edited to add:

have you seen this link:

http://www.gettingremarried.com/rene...ding_vows.html

**coupqn1999** · 11-02-2003, 01:58 PM

No I hadn't seen the link thank you very much!!!
Thanks to all of you!!!! I like your thinking

**Mom23boys** · 11-02-2003, 03:32 PM

Congrats! I think that is a lovely gesture to renew your vows. I think you should plan the day the way you want and forget about what others want BECAUSE it is YOUR DAY!!

**mrscornbread** · 11-02-2003, 03:38 PM

Originally posted by Darlene
Don't have the "correct" answers but I do have an opinion.
I think you should do what you want. Etiquette schmetiquette.
Love and happiness should be celebrated however and whenever you can.
Lifes too short to care what other people think. If you want the big wedding I say go for it.
I'm happy your so happy!

Yup, I agree~

**Jerseygirl** · 11-02-2003, 07:34 PM

I love Gracies ideas on renewal as a theme. I have been to vow renewals where the kids were the attendants and really turned it into a family ceremony. I think this is a great idea, enjoy!!--Kellie

**guest2** · 11-02-2003, 09:32 PM

Do what you want to do!!! It's your day!

**heavensent_7** · 11-02-2003, 09:47 PM

I hate it when I can't even slightly disagree with somebody!

It's what I do best

I do agree though - It's YOUR day, who cares what your 'surposed' to do? Do EXACTLY what you want and ENJOY!

Congratulations!

**PrairieRose** · 11-02-2003, 10:42 PM

I agree with Darlene and the other gals. The only thing that I might add is might be nice to say "please no gifts" if you send out invitations. JMHO

**frugalmel** · 11-02-2003, 11:26 PM

Congrats! I am happy for you! Do what makes you happy. If you want the whole shebang - go for it.

I am in sort of the same situation. We eloped in Vegas. I wanted to renew in a church with family present on our 5th anniversary. We couldn't we were in another country. I thought ok, how about 10th? Nope he is in another country. I think we will have to do an odd year. LOL I do want a dress though. I always dreamed of "the dress". I don't care if it looks "wrong" to other people. This is MY fantasy

**mrscornbread** · 11-02-2003, 11:37 PM

You now Denise, especially since you never had the wedding that us girls "dream" of having, now do it your way...if you are gonna spend money doing it...do it exactly the way YOU want, everyone will like it more that way. This is very exciting!