Is this tacky?

**MrsClaus** · 11-03-2007, 02:46 PM

DD will be turning 18 a couple of weeks before her graduation. We're considering combining the birthday and graduation parties into one so our families would only have to attend one get-together.

Do you think this is a tacky idea? And if not, how do you think I should word the invitations?

**Ceashels** · 11-03-2007, 02:51 PM

Both events are such big milestones/rites fo passage for a teen. I would have a difficult time combining them. Have you asked her what she thinks and how she would like to handle it. Could her birthday be celebrated a little earlier to give more time between the two events?

**MrsClaus** · 11-03-2007, 03:00 PM

Actually, it was her idea. I think she was thinking of the elderly family members and those who might travel for one but not two parties.

Considering the rifts in families on both dh's and my side, this all could be one big mess.

However, dd will only achieve these milestones once and I'll do my best to pull it off.

**mikandmari** · 11-03-2007, 03:29 PM

I think it's a great idea. It's a lot to ask of elderly relatives to come to 2 parties and bring 2 gifts. Your daughter sounds very smart and mature!

**pita1213** · 11-03-2007, 05:15 PM

i'd just word it as you're invited to dd's 18th birthday and graduation party.
nothing complicated. simple and to the point.

**JustJoy** · 11-03-2007, 05:48 PM

I don't think it's tacky and seeing that it was your DD's idea....I'd definitely combine the two

**boogiemum** · 11-03-2007, 10:01 PM

It's her big days, I say give her what she wants

I would try and make it extra special, since you are combining AND because she sounds like such a thoughtful and mature daughter.

**Darlene** · 11-03-2007, 10:11 PM

Originally Posted by boogiemum

It's her big days, I say give her what she wants

I would try and make it extra special, since you are combining AND because she sounds like such a thoughtful and mature daughter.

That is going to be one awesome party!

I like the way your daughter thinks!

**Jaded** · 11-03-2007, 10:45 PM

Sounds like she wants to share the joy of both events with everyone, so do it her way.

**missyali** · 11-04-2007, 07:39 AM

What a great girl you have! I think the idea is great! I, too, would word it as a celebration of daughter's graduation & birthday!

**Edna_E** · 11-05-2007, 06:19 PM

I never think it is tacky to be individualistic. If that is what she wants, do it HER way - it is HER party!

**pip** · 11-05-2007, 10:50 PM

Your daughter sounds nice. And, mature. If she wants to combine the two, I'd say go for it.

**Momof4cats** · 11-06-2007, 05:43 AM

Originally Posted by MrsClaus

Actually, it was her idea. I think she was thinking of the elderly family members and those who might travel for one but not two parties.

Considering the rifts in families on both dh's and my side, this all could be one big mess.

However, dd will only achieve these milestones once and I'll do my best to pull it off.

Since you mention the rifts, would it be possible to have 2 celebrations (twice the expense, I know) and invite only one side of the family to each? One closer to the birthday, one closer to the graduation. But each could be a combination party. Just an idea.

**Libby** · 11-08-2007, 08:30 PM

If your daughter wanted to combine them, I'd go for it. If the guests can not get over themselves and their own personal issues then they may as well not show up. The whole point is to celebrate her accomplishment and birthday and not focus on family politcs. If the guests act up, ask them to leave or gently remind them that THIS is not the place to start this stuff but who knows, maybe they'll get over things? OR be grown up enough to swallow their pride for a few hours to celebrate your daughter

Either way, I wish you a great party.

**fatsassygirl** · 11-08-2007, 09:30 PM

i would combine them - i don't think it is tacky at all. one party equals less expense for everyone and will still make both events special and memorable