This week I was thinking about some of the lessons and concepts learned by me, my clients and friends in the process of attracting and creating great relationships. If you get, truly get,and one of these and apply it, you will see an immediate improvement in the quality of your relationships.

*It's your job to educate your partner how to treat you so that you feel loved.

*Communication doesn't mean talking.It means sharing.

*Generosity is rarely about money or things.It's mostly about heart.

*What people do to you is rarely about you and is almost always about their unresolved past – don't take it personally.

*Until you resolve your past you are not free to have a future.

*Until you realize that a great relationship is created by who you are being, you won't have one.

*Until you love yourself enough to take care of your needs, no one else will.

*If you feel empty, a relationship will most likely make you feel emptier.

*Compassion for your partner goes a long way to getting what you want.

*Sexual intimacy has very little to do with attractiveness and everything to do with emotional intimacy and trust.

*Women rarely appreciate money and assistance as a substitute for emotional intimacy.

*If your partner continuously says, "There is nothing wrong with me, out problems are all your fault," move on!

*This is not a dress rehearsal – this is your life and your relationships in progress. When will you start creating it the way you want it to be?

*You are not your parents. There is no reason your relationship or life should look like theirs.

*Rather than trying to get needs met by a partner, give yourself what you need.

*It's much easier to be yourself than being "what you think" others want you to be.

*Even when someone loves you, they will still look out for their interests first.

*Being a people pleaser is not an effective way to create good relationships.

*If you always take care of someone, you take away their power. They will resent you for it.

*Supporting men financially takes away their self esteem. Give them moral support instead.

*The best relationships are partnerships.

*If you get to be right most of the time and make your partner take all of the blame, you will end up alone.

*A relationship with a foundation of dishonesty is like a house of cards.

*Grass only looks greener on the other side, it's the same old grass.

*You may secretly wonder if there isn't a better partner out there. This is your mind's way of communicating that you are dangerously close to real intimacy with your current partner.

*If your partner says that they are willing to grow and change don't test them. Support them in their commitment.

*Emotional maturity is knowing when you are overreacting. Stop and take care of your needs so that you can get back in balance.

*What you think you want is often not what you want, but a sideways plot to get your needs met.

*If you as, very often you will receive.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

This article was originally published by Coach Rinatta Paries in The Relationship Coach Newsletter, a weekly e-zine for people who want fulfilling relationship. For singles, the newsletter will help you attract your Mr. or Ms. Right. If you're in a relationship, you will learn to create more closeness and intimacy with your mate. To subscribe, go to http://www.WhatItTakes.com