Stupid things people say..

**imagine** · 03-16-2009, 03:10 PM

Originally Posted by cheriede

~Don't you know what causes that? --no, would you like to tell me.

One of my friends when she is asked that answers "Yes and we like it very much. Thank you" in the most pleasant matter of fact tone. Generally shocks the asker in silence or laughter.

**angelbumpkin** · 03-16-2009, 09:20 PM

Originally Posted by 2ndGenGranola

Since you first child has special needs, why did you risk having more kids?

I've heard this many times.

I have a set of twins one is a boy other a girl...I have had people ask.Are the identical?

**cheriede** · 03-16-2009, 09:40 PM

Originally Posted by angelbumpkin

I've heard this many times.

I have a set of twins one is a boy other a girl...I have had people ask.Are the identical?

Too Funny!
I bet the other inquiry that you receive is whether or not you used fertility drugs? I've had friends with twins that have told me about some of those comments.

**McD** · 03-16-2009, 09:52 PM

People ask me a lot, "Did you know you are really short?"
I just want to reply, "WHAT?? I"M SHORT??? OH MY GOD, FOR 23 YEARS I"VE BEEN WONDERING WHY MY PANTS WERE TOO LONG AND IT"S ALL BECAUSE IM REALLY SHORT!"

Seriously.

**LynnLC** · 03-17-2009, 01:26 AM

I am in the process of quitting smoking. Nonetheless I still get- "You know that's bad for you- right?

I reply with " So is not minding your own business. " hehe

**tigo** · 03-17-2009, 07:21 AM

We have foster children and sometimes a child will have just joined us or it will be one of our kids' friends out with us and people that know us will ask "you know you have an extra (or two) today?". I just put on a panic face and say "oh crap, grabbed somebody else's kid again....."

**craftypam** · 03-17-2009, 08:34 AM

Originally Posted by Momto2Boyz

Ok, I'm guilty of saying this! I have a friend who has 5 boys, and when I met her, I'm pretty sure I said something to this effect!

And it's not that I meant to be rude or say something stupid...it's just that I have 2 boys, who are like absolute tornadoes in my house, always wrestling and fighting and yelling and playing...I couldn't imagine multiplying it to 5! I'd end up in the looney bin!

I have a friend who has 3 boys and I do too. They are now adults and we still get together and laugh at all the things they are STILL doing.

**cheriede** · 03-17-2009, 08:38 AM

Originally Posted by Nishu

I think that any comment can get annoying if you hear it all the time- but regarding the OP I don't really see any of those things as stupid. It's not very polite to ask if you know what causes though. I suppose that would depend on how well you know the person that said it. A stranger in the grocery store- yeah that would be crass.

People say that I have my hands full all the time. When they ask me how I do it all I just say "very badly."

Perhaps stupid is a little overboards, but it does get pretty old when you hear comments day in and day out about family size from complete strangers. As another person mentioned, it is all about how it is phrased and their tone.

The other comment that I hear is "Are you Catholic?".

**joyofsix** · 03-30-2009, 07:37 PM

My least favorite question, asked by complete strangers. "Seven kids! Do they all have the same dad?" What possible difference would that make? Are they calling me a skank? I also hate "Do you take welfare?" The nerve. This also makes me wonder just how pathetic we must look? Is it the ancient (but paid for) van?

**fernykins** · 03-30-2009, 11:41 PM

I had 6 kids......people would ask me Why I had so many. My husband would reply we are stating our own army.........It worked for me......
Fern

**many houseapes** · 04-09-2009, 09:36 PM

Here are a few: "Don't ya'll have a T.V.?"...sure we have a T.V., but if we were to watch it during prime time,we might wind up with more kids due to all of the garbage on it.
......"I don't know how you do it".........By the grace of God & the seat of my pants.
........"I'm glad it's you and not me".....yeah, so am I.
........'God bless you!"....He already richly has
........Haven't you heard of birth control?".......Absolutely! And I have the scars to prove it(tubal ligation & a tubal reversal). Been there, done that,only I never got a t-shirt.
........"Why do you have so many kids?"......We're trying to breed out the idiots.
........"Don't you know what causes that?".....sure,don't you??

My parents used to give me a hard time about having more than 2 kids....they finally backed off when I finally heard enough of their negativity & I told them...'Hey, I am having the family that you denied me as a child".lol........I would have loved to have had a brother or sister *sigh*

**mandk** · 06-03-2009, 08:34 PM

I typically get the "boy, you have your hands full." Then, they always do a double-take at my twin girls, and I get the following:

"Are they twins?" No - we bought look alike dolls

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"Did you plan that?" No - unless it's in vitro - you can't PLAN twins (that one always makes me giggle.
"Are they both girls?" No, I dressed the boy in pink and a hairbow too

At some point along the way, I try and shift the attention to the fact that there is another child standing there too - my son. But, most of the time they remain blissfully unaware of his presence - poor guy, at least he's proud of his sisters and still only 2.

But by now I've learned, I just work in an extra 15 minutes for the grocery store, and laugh it off. I've said stupid things too when I'm caught off guard. And I'd probably be caught off guard too if I was watching the rolling entourage trying to make their way down the grocery aisles without losing any children

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**frugalwarrior** · 06-03-2009, 11:22 PM

My husband wears an eye patch and I can't tell you how many educated adults have asked if he is playing "pirate". After 16 years of this, sometimes my patience and his wear thin. When they ask me what happened to his eye? Once in awhile,if I've had enough, I say I poked it out because he asked me too many stupid questions. Sometimes, I simply say "why"? I had one old man get indignant because I wouldn't "tell" him. Please, curiosity on your part does not legitimize rude behavior. Mostly, I'm patient but It is kinda gutless and tacky to ask me behind his back. They don't want to make him uncomfortable but don't mind if I talk about him if he's not there?? Them knowing will not heal his eye or help them in any way.

**frugalwarrior** · 06-03-2009, 11:37 PM

To all w/ large families: We aren't all critical. I stare because I am fasinated. I wish I could insert myself for just one day or be a fly on the wall. The interaction,the organization,the zany antics that are "normalicy " to you are mind boggling to me.Not in a negetive way. My mom was told she wouldn't have children. She waited 10 years for me. My brother ws a surprise 5 years after that. We were like "miles" apart. Raised like two seperate families. I still don't relate to him. I hardly remember him from my childhood. We were in seperate schools, had seperate friends, my parents believed I shouldn't watch him because it wasn't my job. Even now my kids are grown (almost), his are in elementary school. We wouldn't become friends if we met on the street. No animosity,just very little in common. So when I stare...

**annymoll** · 06-04-2009, 09:45 AM

One of the dumbest things I was ever told was that I should not use the microwave because of the potential for radiation, not to use hairspray because of the ozone, and that burning my trash contributes to pollution.Why, why, why. All this....... from a friggin smoker.Sigh.