I'm going to rant here!!!

lucy979 · 10-20-2003, 08:00 AM

I was just on another site for military spouses. A woman was asking for advice about being married to a soldier. She doesn't have any kids and she is 30 something. She was worried about making friends because alot of military wives are young and have children, so she said. And she wanted to know if she would be able to keep her career going.

Another woman responded by saying that women who stay at home for their soldiers and families are pathetic. They don't have any lives of their own and she doesn't understand why we are always saying how hard it is to be married to a soldier. Ok, this woman who made these remarks is a soldier herself and she and her husband have no kids!!

I was livid!!

I had to stop myself from replying to her post because I knew that I would say something out of anger that I didn't really want to. How come it is so hard fro people to see just how hard it really is to be married to a soldier? I would not trade my life for anything. I am proud to be a military spouse and I am super proud of my dh.

He works hard to provide for us. He is not in his dream job but he gets up and does it everyday.

It's hard to tell your kids Daddy is in danger. Our dd was so worried about dh when he was in Iraq. I tried to sheild her from most of the news but she is old enough to know that Daddy was in the war. It's hard to hear your littel girl say,'mom, is daddy going to die?'

I may not get paid but what I do behind the scenes is just as important to our military as dh. I have always said that if your family is not happy then your soldier is not going to be happy. An unhappy soldier is a soldier that will not do a good job and will not stay in. All I want is a little respect!

Ok, I'll get off my soapbox now. Thanks for letting me rant here. I just had to get this out!

Darlene · 10-20-2003, 08:42 AM

Well Laci, I'm glad that woman isn't a mom. As a Mom you have to have many strengths, as a military wife and mother you need more. Plain and simple, she sounds ignorant and dumb and probably a bit jealous too.

. Pay no mind to her.

You keep doing what you are doing, being the best Mom you can be and I thank you and your sweetie for doing what you do to protect us & our freedoms.

SewCrafty · 10-20-2003, 08:53 AM

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Originally posted by Darlene
Well Laci, I'm glad that woman isn't a mom. As a Mom you have to have many strengths, as a military wife and mother you need more. Plain and simple, she sounds ignorant and dumb and probably a bit jealous too.. Pay no mind to her.

You keep doing what you are doing, being the best Mom you can be and I thank you and your sweetie for doing what you do to protect us & our freedoms.

Well said Darlene!

simplemom · 10-20-2003, 09:03 AM

Some people just don't understand. Don't even bother with her...you are doing the best job in the world, Laci!

baronmom · 10-20-2003, 10:16 AM

To be honest, people don't understand what it takes to be a spouse of someone that leaves for long periods of time. I can honestly say that until my dh went to Germany for 7 months, I had no clue what to expect. My family was supportive, but my friends didn't under just what I was going through. Thank god I never encountered someone with that level of ignorance when dh was deployed. I don't think that I would have been able to control myself.

You showed a lot of self control by not answering back to that person. Just remember, not everyone thinks that way, and there are people out there that do understand the sacrifices that military spouses make on a daily basis. Some people will never get it until they go through it.

paelthom · 10-20-2003, 10:23 AM

Unfortunately stupid people are just everywhere. Ignore people who make dumb comments like that. You know that what you are doing is right for you and your family. Hang in there.

AmyMCGS · 10-20-2003, 11:23 AM

Grrrr.... I'm mad just reading your post. That woman has no clue!

DH is a cop, and used to do dangerous undercover work where he would be gone for weeks at a time. So I'm not a military wife, but I can certainly relate.

People have NO CLUE what it's like to have your DH gone, let alone working a dangerous job day-to-day. Friends laugh when DH tells them he has to edit his work stories for me... but I really don't want to know all the details. It just makes me worry more.

That woman was ignorant, and clearly doesn't know the joy of being at home with your children. Ignore her.

MJsLady · 10-20-2003, 11:33 AM

That woman was a soldier to? In that case her ideas are tainted. She has a career, and $s to donuts says her career comes before her marriage.
If it was me, i would reply to the lady asking advice. She needs a friend, someone who understands her need and will not belittle her for it.
I have as much respect for military spouses as I do for the soldiers. With out the support of their families our soldiers wouldn't be the best in the world, and would be in even more danger.
Laci, you hold 2 of the most important jobs in the world, 1st as a supportive and loving wife, 2nd as a loving and caring mom.
Personally I think you are pretty awesome!

guest2 · 10-20-2003, 12:48 PM

Laci,
Please don't let that woman's ignorant comments taint how you feel about your job as a wife and mom. She has no clue at all to what she is talking about. You have one of the hardest jobs in the world, being a loving and supportive wife to a wonderful hubby who defends all our freedom and a mom who is trying to shield her babies from the day to day fears of having a daddy in danger. I'm so proud of you and your DH!!!!

Guest1 · 10-20-2003, 01:45 PM

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Originally posted by hmsclmom
Laci,
Please don't let that woman's ignorant comments taint how you feel about your job as a wife and mom. She has no clue at all to what she is talking about. You have one of the hardest jobs in the world, being a loving and supportive wife to a wonderful hubby who defends all our freedom and a mom who is trying to shield her babies from the day to day fears of having a daddy in danger. I'm so proud of you and your DH!!!!

Agreed!! This is the toughest job I've ever had....you're doing a fabu-loso job! Don't stress about others stupidity........

lucy979 · 10-20-2003, 01:48 PM

Thanks guys! You are great! I have gotten the madness out of my system now. I know that she is a minority. I know that most people don't think like she does. Thanks for the encouragment.

Katybird · 10-20-2003, 04:07 PM

Laci, I am so sorry that the woman's ignorant and crude remarks caused you pain. I admire you for all you go through as a military wife. I also appreciate all you and your DH do for our country. May God Bless you and your family.

Missy · 10-20-2003, 04:15 PM

Laci,

frugalmel · 10-26-2003, 11:55 PM

GRRRR! Stupid people need to keep their mouths shut.

Ok enough of that.

to you Laci. It is hard to keep the kids from worrying. Its even harder to answer those questions. Hang in there!

mrscornbread · 10-27-2003, 12:23 AM

Ok Laci, thank you for being the wind beneath your soldiers wings, or should I say "our" soldier. You are important remember that.