Tired of materialistic gift expectations :(

[bmab66]

Muffins beat gift cards ANY DAY. Great job!

[jas]

My mil is usually off in space when it comes to gifts. I do know that she does like my homemade wheat bread and has commented that she loves homemade desserts and things. I think that is what I will be doing for her this year. A couple of loaves of hm fresh ground whole wheat bread and maybe a low sugar (kinda) sweet bread like banana nut or carrot.

[The Muse]

I was surprised to see this post after so long.

That awful woman is now my ex-MIL and I miss my ex, but I definitely do not miss her!

[LuvMyHubby]

I see that this is an older thread but it is the first time I'm seeing it. Muse I'm sorry your now ex mil was so unappreciative..........if it had been me I would have been on that basket like white on rice and literally dared anyone to pry it away from me........those looked fabulous.

[benosayi]

lol! on the mother in law, your post almost made me choke on my water... sorry about hubby.

[nodmicks]

I'm really sorry your MIL reacted like that. It was very rude and hurtful in my opinion. I personally would have loved to receive that as a gift!


LOL I just got to read The Muse's post above after I posted!

[acidcookie]

Ugh, I'm sorry she didn't appreciate it. I am so much more thrilled with a gift I know someone put time and effort into. I would have loved this gift!

[many houseapes]

I would have been thrilled that someone took the time & energy to make something for me(baking can be time consuming). You did this from your heart...if she's being a stinker about it, then she is the one who has a problem....just let it go & try not to think about it too much. *hugs*

[Debbie-cat]

Sorry about the ex-hubby but woo hoo on not having her as a MiL anymore!

[mndtrp]

Giving and receiving gifts always comes with the potential for disappointment. It's generally up to the recipient to determine how the exchange will result. Either both people will be happy, both will be disappointed, or one each way. If the recipient doesn't like the gift, it is up to the them to at least make the giver feel like the gift was appreciated.

Even if I get a gift that I don't like, won't use, or will promptly be given away, I always tell the giver that I appreciate the gift. I can't remember the last time I wasn't happy with a gift, since it's exactly that, a gift. Someone once royally missed the mark by giving me some DVDs of Larry the Cable Guy. I can't stand him, but knew that I could easily give them away to someone else. I could have told the giver her gift sucked, and I wouldn't touch them even once, but didn't see the point in making her feel bad.

[rolland]

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts.

[krbshappy71]

Both my mother and future mil would have loved it, I am sorry to hear that!! I need to give my mom more credit than I have in the past. She has always insisted on homemade everything or nothing if we don't have the money. She has never given an expectation of wanting a purchased gift especially if it would pose a problem to our finances.

HUGS TO YOU.

[oheoh's momma]

I see this is a old post sorry for your ex MIL being mean...my MIL baked cakes for everyone in the family, friends, church, neighbors... It was well recieved by some but a few did not care for it upset her she cried.....The ones who did not enjoy it wouldn't and do something else for them...I don't thimk those few will be getting a cake this year...

By the way I would have enjoyed them so

[LindaKNor]

I'm going to be a mother- in- law soon and I know I would love something like this. I think that homemade or hand made gifts are thoughtful and require something that most people have little to spare--- their time.