Tinkerbell

**pkellyc** · 09-24-2005, 10:07 PM

Our cat Tinkerbell was put to sleep yesterday. She had cancer. I can't help but mourn our loss, she was a beautiful and well behaved cat. Her companion's name is Wendy (cat #2) she is lost without her. She has been sitting next to the door waiting for Tink's return and it's breaking my heart. Has anyone had this happen? Dh thinks I am nuts but I really believe she is missing Tinkerbell. Do you think cats bond and mourn?

**Missy** · 09-24-2005, 10:17 PM

When we lost our male cat our female kept going to all his favorite places, places she would normally steer clear of. they were brother and sister. She'd make this low mewling sound going from place to place, she repeated this search a lot of times before eventually she stopped. I am sure they bond and mourn.

I am sorry for your loss

**forestdale** · 09-24-2005, 10:20 PM

How sad. I'm sorry you had to have her put down. I do beleive animals grieve and mourn. I have two Airedale Terriers that have been together most of their lives - they are aunt and neice, when one of them dies I'm sure the other one (and our entire family) will be devastated.

I hope you can comfort Wendy.

**nodmicks** · 09-24-2005, 10:35 PM

I'm so sorry you had to put you cat down. I know animals grieve/sense something is wrong. When one of our dogs died the other wouldn't eat for a while.
Hugs!

**SewCrafty** · 09-25-2005, 07:52 AM

Oh yes I fully believe they sense their friend is gone. I'm so sorry for your loss, but know in your heart you did the right thing for Tinkerbell.

**Darlene** · 09-25-2005, 08:10 AM

I agree with the ladies and want you to know that I'm sorry you had to put Tinkerbell down.

Our family went through that with our dog Tucker and it really did hurt so much but was the kindest thing to do.

**baxjul** · 09-25-2005, 09:00 PM

I am so sorry that you had to do that for your cat, but it was the best decision. I had to do that with our dog that we had before.

**seadream** · 09-25-2005, 09:08 PM

sorry about your loss and I too believe our pets know when the others are gone

**Valerie in WA** · 09-26-2005, 12:45 AM

When our cat died 6 months ago, the vet told us to wash anything we could that had her scent on it. Removing that scent would help the other cat to move on, the vet said. If he (the 2nd cat) kept smelling her around the house, but she wasn't there, he would grieve more. We did follow that advice, but *I* missed her smell on her favorite blanket. The second cat has always been easy-going, and he seemed to do okay.

I'm sorry for your sadness. After six months, I still cry when topics like this come up.

**Julia Kimber** · 09-26-2005, 08:48 AM

Julia

**pkellyc** · 09-26-2005, 02:35 PM

Thanks for the advice Valerie I have been doing just that. I will be shampooing the carpets and furniture in the next month and that should help. I cry at the drop of a pin also. I had given her a bath last Monday and we took pictures of both cats all soaking wet. I came across them last night while I was downloading the camera.

**trying to be cheap** · 09-26-2005, 04:08 PM

I'm so sorry for your lost. A big (((((hug))))) for you!

About your other cat mourning the lost, I heard somewhere (can't remember where now) that if you have more than one cat and one cat dies, you should leave the body out so the other cats can see what happened. This way they can accept it and move it. Otherwise, they don't know what happened and keep waiting for the other cat.

I don't know how true that is, but just thought I'd share.

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 09-26-2005, 07:24 PM

Our cats have definitely mourned. When we lost our last dog to a stroke, her best fur buddy (our cat) was lost without her. He wandered around the house for DAYS calling and looking for her. It took him almost a month to get completely over it.

When YOU are ready, get your other kitty a new buddy. There will be an adjustment period, but s/he WILL appreciate it. Hugs to you and your fur baby.