Need cat help but didn't know where to put this.

[freyadog]

Our male cat Pogo died a few weeks ago. Pandora one of our females was his best bud. They were always together and as he hunted she sat on a stump and waited for him to come home. Those two were joined at the hip. Now since his death all she does is cry.
She won't let anyone near her. She doesn't love all over Freya. She is my bud and she won't even let me hold her nor get near her. All she does is grieve.
I have no idea what to do for her. She is losing weight and she searches the property crying constantly. It is breaking my heart. Any suggestions on what to do for her.
At this moment we are in the bedroom together with the door closed. I managed to get her when I put down some wet food on the front porch. She is at the bottom of the bed and I am sitting at the top. I speak to her and she just cries.

Barbara

[wanderlusting]

Don't have any advice- just a great big hug.

[wanderlusting]

I spent some time googling and I found these sites-

http://www.messybeast.com/cat-grief.htm

http://www.cat-world.com.au/CatGrief.htm

[auntie2many]

No advice here either. I feel for you and your cat. (((hugs)))

auntie

[freyadog]

thanks jennybeth for the links. Pandora is definitely grieving. She just paces the property. Doesnt sit on her stump the way she did and eats very little. I have been putting out wet food for her because she won't come inside unless I manage to capture her while she is eating the wet treat. I give her space in our bedroom where she loved to be before Pogo died. Then I let her outside to do her roaming. She is just about to break my heart.

Barbara

[bumplett]

give her time - she should come around in a few weeks



:hug:

[PrairieRose]

I'm sorry

We had a schnauzzer and a kitty that grew up together (Bandy and Sheba). Well years past, they were best, bestest buds like your cats. Bandy (the schnauzzer) got sick first and we had to have her put down at 12. Gripey dug her grave in the garden before we took her to the vet. When we got home we buried her. Sheba saw us put her in the ground but we didn't think to let her say 'goodbye' before we did. Anyway she did what your cat is doing. It was just awful. She would walk and call for Bandy hour after hour, not let any of us pet her (not even her chosen person our youngest dd). We would walk over to her to pet her, reach down to touch her and she would get up and move away from us, sit with her back to us and just sit there for hours. It was heartbreaking, I know what exactly what you're talking about. After a few months we bought a puppy. The puppy helped somewhat but honestly ol' Sheba never came out of it. She mourned Bandy for 6 long years. She got better by about 1/3 but never got her playful spirit back, never had that twinkle in her eye again. We recently just had her put down as she got very ill (was 14). We buried her right next to Bandy in the garden. I know she's happy now and she and Bandy are runnin' and playin' again.

I don't have any advice for you, but I wouldn't be surprised if your cat doesn't come out of this.

[Laurie in Bradenton]

When Bubba died Lady morned for 6 monthes. She wouldn't lay on his rug, she searched the yard and house for him crying. We got Blue a year ago and Lady has come back alittle she took on his training. But she still won't lay on his rug.
Give her time and love when she'll take it.

Laurie in Bradenton

[tbs727]

OMG, I'm just about in tears reading this. I'm so sorry, it's heartbreaking. I don't have advise but big hugs to you and your babies.

[JanieD]

My heart goes out to Pandora. It must be so hard not being able to take away her sadness. I pray time will help her adjust. Does she have other friends to comfort her? I would give her more time, but if she doesn't improve maybe contact your vet for help. Are you able to spend extra time with her? When we lost our oldest dog in November 2005, her best friend (our chow mix) was so sad. I would sit with him & try to comfort him as much as I could. We would spend more time playing with him & often new toys to distract him.

Our dogs had been together everyday for over 5 years & we worried how he would adjust. Our oldest had been sick & it really affected the chows personality. It was hard getting through those months when she was sick plus we had a puppy adopt us. Somehow it all worked out. Our chow accepted the puppy a few weeks after his best friend had past (this was almost 4 month after the puppy first arrived). We had to really encourage him since he wanted nothing to do with the puppy. The puppy (almost 2yo now) has had such a positive affect on our chow mix. Now they are best friends. Our chow mix is very sensitive/upset easily & has adjusted, so keep trying to comfort Pandora.

[Ceashels]

Many hugs to you and Pandora. My heart goes out to the both of you at the greif she must be experiencing. I hope you find a way to comfort her.

[pkellyc]

When our Tinkerbell died, Wendy would just stare at the door knob waiting for her friend to come home. Heartbreaking to watch but she did grieve and get over it. It was suggested to me then to take away any of Tinkerbell's blankets and toys to remove her scent and I do believe it helped a lot.

[jamie79]

I have so been there to the point that the cat that was left starting using the house as her toilet and biting and hissing us. She was so heartbroken and didnt get over it that we ended up having to put her down as I could not have her wrecking our house. It was very hard and sad

[thriftybargainmom]

Poor thing. How about adopting another one so she won't be lonely??