Early Pregnancy Symptoms

**AmyBoz** · 11-08-2008, 03:11 PM

Well, poop on them! Don't let them rain on your parade. This is a very exciting time in your life. How dare they respond like that???

p

**ritabelle** · 11-08-2008, 04:04 PM

I had to laugh when I read your symptoms -- hubby's first clue that I was pg before I even knew was when I really ripped him a new one for no good reason. hee hee.

Congratulations!!! Take some time to visit with your doctor and make sure all is well and everything looks good ... give everyone some time to adjust to the idea of you having a baby.

sounds like some of the negative reactions you're getting might be nervousness, especially from your family and friend. who knows, your friend's doctor might be giving her stories or news that's currently freaking her out a bit and she doesn't have the time/energy/mental strength to be happy for you right now. she'll come around. so will your mom.

My MIL was very anti-happy for us and we had to back off until the blessed event was imminent, when she suddenly and surprisingly did a complete 180 and threw us a shower. Now she's the best grandma in the world. People just react differently.

**Marie78** · 11-08-2008, 11:23 PM

I think you are right Ritabelle, I have a feeling my friend is just wrapped up in her own pregnancy and maybe even a little jealous in a way that I might steal her thunder, which of course wasn't and isn't my intention at all, but some people might feel that way. I plan on keeping any new news to myself until she asks me about things, that way I won't impose my happiness on her and her happiness.

As for my mom, I thought about it all day and I think she is either freaked out about being a first time grandma. Or she might even be a tad jealous that my hubby and I have things together and are older and will be able to share the joys of parenthood, in a way that her and my dad never did. They fought and argued from day one and divorced when I was 11 years old. I think she has a lot of regrets with how she raised us and maybe has her own issues to work through. I am going to try and keep my distance and again wait for her to take an interest. She seemed very excited when I told her we had started to try for a baby, maybe she had worked it out in her head that it would take us longer, and now she can't deal with the reality.

**tmffv** · 11-10-2008, 04:57 PM

First off -

What wonderful news!!!

Second, I just can't imagine a mother not being excited for her daughter's first pregnancy. Hopefully she will come around soon and share in your excitement. I'm sorry that you've been getting these negative reactions. You are handling it a lot better than I would.

**spyzvixxen** · 11-10-2008, 05:23 PM

Congratulations, that is such wonderful news!

Aren't multi-packs of tests the greatest?? I took all 3 cause I couldn't believe my eyes with the first double pink lines.

And a big 'ol

to your mom & friend, how insensitive!

**IntlMom** · 11-10-2008, 06:04 PM

WOW!! yea that you are expecting (yea, I never even got a faint line - I'm happy for you!)
I can't beleive the coldness from your mom! You just keep coming back here and sharing with us!!
We will be happy with you!!!!

**Stella** · 11-10-2008, 11:36 PM

Congrats! I can't remember having too many symptoms but I took a test just to entertain myself and surprise! I immediately went and bought 6 more tests because I just could not believe it. I was lucky and never had any morning sickness but did have the sore breasts at about 2 months. Our first one is due Dec 23rd.

I am sorry to hear your family and friends had such a bad reaction. I do hope they come around and realize that this is a great thing that is happening to you and your husband.

**janelane** · 11-10-2008, 11:50 PM

Congratulations!!!!!

I'm sorry you got such a nervous/cold reception from friends and fam. I understand they might be concerned (I've had two miscarriages) but it sucks to have someone rain on your good news.

I hope to be joining you soon! DH and I are TTC in January. Third time's a charm, right?

**Goodwin17** · 11-11-2008, 01:54 AM

on your pregnancy! Maybe your mom will come around, but if not then it is just her loss. I have a feeling my mom will be the same way when I have children. I've talked about having kids before, and she always seems to think it's nothing exciting. We'll certainly be here to support you!

**Marie78** · 11-12-2008, 07:55 PM

I saw my mom yesterday and she didn't hug me or congratulate me, she said she was happy for me though. My grandma was with her and she congratulated me and said she was excited to have a 2nd great grandchild on the way. She is going to start knitting me baby clothes as soon as we know the sex of the baby.

**mom2three** · 11-12-2008, 09:21 PM

Congratulations.

Sometimes moms have an identity crisis - how does she feel about becoming a grandma? It does mean she is aging and some don't do well with that. Maybe here pregnancies were very stressful. Maybe she's worried that you are getting your hopes up very early in the pregnancy as there is a high chance of miscarriage in the first trimester. Maybe she's just grouchy - my mom is - I am pregnant with my fourth and just as she did with my third, she keeps trying to discourage me from having more. As for symptoms, I routinely have symptoms that seem unusual. I have had the sore breasts, have craved salt, had incontinence issues, etc. so not your standard things.

Enjoy the pregnancy. I had morning sickness for this one - ginger was my best friend.

Best wishes

**always2busy** · 11-13-2008, 12:11 PM

My family didn't respond the way I thought they would either. They will get more excited as time goes on. Just don't expect anything from them.

I'm luck that my friends were really excited for me. Of course we had been praying for a year so it was a victory for them as much as for me.