Is this selfish?

**wanderlusting** · 09-25-2011, 01:10 PM

I haven't read the other posts, but Ummm...yeah, I'd demand DH to be with me from the time I entered the hospital.

**shoiji** · 09-25-2011, 01:12 PM

So good to hear you were able to work things out. Having your husband there with you will be comforting. He is in provider mode but I am sure his company understands the need for being there.

Keep us updated.

**Telephus44** · 09-25-2011, 01:16 PM

Glad it worked out for you. I sure wouldn't "demand" that my DH be there, but I certainly would want him. Sometimes it's just hard to talk with your partner so you can both explain your feelings. After DS was born, DH took a lot of contracting work and was gone a lot - I felt kind of abandoned, but he was just worried since I was also recently laid off and with a new baby about money.

**heartofmine** · 09-25-2011, 06:24 PM

Glad he's going to be with you.

**mndtrp** · 09-27-2011, 09:31 PM

Interesting. Communication between spouses helped to resolve differences, and the relationship turned out for the better.

Hopefully, other couples can see how talking to each other is one of the best things you can do for a long lasting partnership.

**Menifeemom** · 09-29-2011, 02:05 PM

Just thought I'd update everyone. Ben was born on Monday afternoon. The delivery wasn't as easy as my others had been and there were some decisions to be made. My husband was so grateful he had been there and was able to help me through it all.

**brenda67** · 09-29-2011, 03:53 PM

Congratulations..Welcome baby Ben to the world! I'm swo glad your dh was there to support both of you..HUGS..

**frugal is fun** · 09-29-2011, 04:03 PM

Congratulations and so glad that you and baby are okay and husband was there to support you. Yeah!

**oheoh's momma** · 09-29-2011, 05:57 PM

Congratulations I am happy that he decided to be there with you. And he is know longer an ass. hugs

**ml2620** · 11-16-2011, 06:23 AM

Maybe this is a weird guy thing, but my husband did/said the same thing!

I went to a regular doctors appointment and they said they were admitting me and inducing me. I called my husband (he was moving his mom out of our house that day) and he said he'd come over to the hospital at noon. He came, they started the induction meds and then he told the midwife he'd go take care of a few things at home and come back.

Of course the midwife told him he wasn't going anywhere and she was right, I had a fast labor and he would have missed it.

I chalked it up to total denial on my husband's part, fear about a new baby and how he was going to handle it all. I'm sure the fourth is no less stressful to a man worried about his job and supporting a homeschooling at home wife and four kids. I'm not saying he's right, I am just guessing he's not shifting gears fast enough.

I'm guilty of that myself. I looked at my email history from when DD was born and I was sending work emails twenty minutes before and an hour after her birth!