Feeling yucky and terrified:(

**littlemotherhaywood** · 09-07-2007, 06:10 PM

All along I've been putting off getting ready for this baby. With moving and dh being in school and working all of the time, I just had other things to do. Now it's looming so close and I'm starting to get scared. We don't need a lot per se, but we probably should have it set up and ready. I'll be 35 weeks on Tuesday and while it's possible I could go all the way to my due date, it doesn't feel like it's going to happen. I'm so emotional lately. Dh isn't around, the house is a mess, the kids are chaotic as usual, and nothing is set up. Am I the only one who puts off such important things? I found a great diaper co-op to order from, but since I was too slow in making up my mind, my order won't likely be here till after our little guy is. Dh just seemed so on the fence about using cloth and I was just too tired to argue. I finally just put my foot down and he said that's great

But...now I have to get the stuff. I know it's basic and it's not a lot, but it's just one more thing on my list of things to do. I still have a few boxes to unpack from the move....three months ago almost. Sorry to rant...I'm just a hormonal pregnant woman going insane here

**Odilia** · 09-07-2007, 06:48 PM

((((HUGS)))) The baby isn't going to know or care if things aren't set up perfectly for his/her arrival.

I know it feels good to have things just so before baby's birth, but it truly doesn't matter. Baby is going to be just as happy being put to bed in a clothes basket as a perfectly turned-out crib. Disposables will be great until the order from the diaper co-op shows up. Unpacked boxes don't matter a bit.

You do what YOU need to do to feel rested and happy.

**Missy** · 09-07-2007, 06:49 PM

Ahhhhh the joys of pregnancy. I was hormonal and stressy too. Comes with the territory as you know. I hope everything falls into place for you soon. Big hugs!

**momto6** · 09-07-2007, 07:04 PM

I understand how you feel. I am only 15 weeks but I am tired all the time. And this is the first pregnancy since my first one that I had really bad morning sickness all summer. It is finally getting better but there are still days when one little smell will set me off lol. Just take one day at a time and pick one thing to get done that day extra and leave it at that. I agree that the baby won't care if things are set up or not. We keep the baby in our room for the first few months anyway so I don't have to keep walking down the hall every 2 hours. Just try and enjoy the last few weeks of getting some sleep lol. Good Luck!!!! Amy

**missyali** · 09-07-2007, 08:22 PM

Give me the email addresses of friends/neighbors/family members who are nearby and need to be doing stuff for you as you are doing the WORLD'S HARDEST WORK so I can rough them up for you

. You are growing a person inside of you! Take it easy on yourself. Pamper, pamper, pamper, you've earned it.

Okay really:
1. Disposables are better initially due to ouchy belly buttons.
2. keep the baby in your room the first few weeks anyway b/c of frequent feedings.
3. Nesting will kick in, so, have a priority list for when it does and knock out the really important stuff.

Don't beat yourself up! Relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I am going through "baby kicking in my bell" with drawl, if you can believe it. This really is a wonderful time. No stress allowed!

I'm done now, for real!

**lisettelovebug** · 09-08-2007, 01:49 AM

I've been feeling the same way. My emotions are way out of whack! I'm almost 31 weeks. We don't have much for baby either, but that is because dh is on strike. Since he's been on strike, you would think he would help me out with housework a little more, but he doesn't. I'll try and talk to him about it and it's like it goes in one ear and out the other. I think the only time he pays attention is when I'm b****ing about his lack of helping and then of course he gets all mad. It's just really hard right now. Not only am I pregnant, but also trying to keep the household running during this trying time. I don't think he understands how much I do. He 'works' at the union hall twice a week and that is it. I would just like him to do a little extra. We're having people over tomorrow and I had a list of stuff that needed to be cleaned (I got behind - it's been a very hectic week) and he sat on the couch watching the Mets game and then watching the tube. All I wanted was a little help - he told me he would help tomorrow. But the party's at 2 and I'm not waiting til the last minute to get things done - NOPE NO WAY!! I guess I'm just feeling frustrated and overwhelmed.
Ok. Enough with my rant. But I can definitely feel for you feeling yucky and terrified - that's for sure. Once that little one is here you won't have time to feel anything except tired! lol. Keep your chin up.

**littlemotherhaywood** · 09-08-2007, 12:19 PM

Thanks for the encouragement ladies. Some days are just so lonely. I know everything will be alright and we'll get it all done, but I hate rushing. After I practically bawled on the phone about it, dh said he would help with some stuff tomorrow. I'm on a serious sleep deficit so that's not helping my emotional status, lol. I'm not sleeping now and I've yet to be blessed with a kid that can sleep through the night. Even my almost eight year old wakes up regularly

I feel like everyday I'm just trying to catch up and then I'm overwhelmed and then I end up doing nothing.

**baxjul** · 09-08-2007, 01:30 PM

Awwww, take it easy on yourself, just try to relax everything will fall into place!

**Scattymum** · 09-09-2007, 06:15 AM

((hugs))) I think I could have written your post, I am 33 weeks today and the last couple of weeks i have been in stress out mode, the slightestn thing is setting me off, the house is a disaster but I just cant manage to get anything organised or tidy, I really feel I wont go to my due date at all. we have been putting off buying a unit to put all of babys stuff in but rnough is enough and I am going shopping today to buy it so I can at least get babys things put away ( not that we have an awful lot at all)!

ah well, everything will fall into place!!!

**AmyMCGS** · 09-09-2007, 09:36 AM

Both of my kids were so early that neither one even had a room yet, let alone a nicely decorated one. I had a bassinet and a pack and play... both of which work fine for a newborn and take almost nothing to set up in a corner of the master bedroom.

**littlemotherhaywood** · 09-10-2007, 02:08 PM

Well, dh helped me unpack a few boxes from our room and set the crib up. I used the bassinet with the last two and even though we're short on space, I'm hoping putting him in the crib from the get-go will make him a better sleeper, lol. Of course, now our bedroom is really cramped for space

I also laundered all of the baby clothing, blankets, etc.... I only have a few items to pick up for our hospital bags. I asked dh to install the carseat base, but it was pouring yesterday so he didn't do that. Last time he was installing it at the hospital, lol. I can't do anymore shopping until Friday (payday of course) and I don't really have any time until then anyway. I just need the essentials now. We have probably a week's worth of disposables...they keep coming in the mail too

I need to place my co-op order and figure out which covers I want to use. I never knew there were so many choices and it's really overwhelming. I've considered getting one of a few different kinds, but I hate to waste my money if I hate some of them. Of course if I just choose one kind and get six and hate those....doesn't matter much I guess

I know we didn't really get a lot done, but I am definitely feeling better and more prepared.