*sigh* I thought I was

**kellydoeshair** · 04-20-2008, 04:28 PM

okay so technically we're not trying
we're actually still preventing
but this past period was over a week late
I was SOOOO excited I want to start trying asap but we DID agree to wait till january etc
but I was really hoping it had happened on it's own...
I feel kind of bad about being so irritated about this
but SOOO many people get pregnant on accident all the time
why does it always seem like it is either CHILDREN or people who don't want kids at all
I know it's not doing me any good
but why can't it once be a married person, with enough money, and WAY enough desire for kids who gets pregnant on accident
oh well
end rant:-(

**StartingOver** · 04-20-2008, 05:14 PM

Awww Kelly, sending you a great big hug. I don't understand it either, sometimes it seems so unfair.

Give it until January like you both agreed upon, and then see what happens when you really try to start your family. It will happen. Don't get discouraged.

I always wanted a lots of kids, but we were blessed with only 2

**MomK** · 04-20-2008, 05:23 PM

I don't get it either. I teach in a jr. high and kids are having kids there. Keep your chin up. Babies are worth the wait.
Don't get discouraged!

**kellydoeshair** · 04-20-2008, 05:25 PM

thanks ladies

I always feel so bad about getting upset about these things
but I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who feels that twinge in the background...

**dianne9106** · 04-20-2008, 05:34 PM

Well, I had my first at nearly 20, then waited 14 years to have my second. You have loads of time and yes it doesn't always seem fair. Perhaps you and your partner could talk about just letting it happen and not using birth control. My a real accident (waiting to happen)?? LOL

**Telephus44** · 04-20-2008, 09:22 PM

I know how you feel. When I wanted to start trying (DH wasn't ready yet) it was just when the Hollywood baby boom started - I can remember being in tears one day thinking "Even Brittany Spears is having a baby! Everyone else is pregnant but me!"

I ended up talking to DH, and he agreed to starting to try about 5/6 months earlier than we had initially discussed (we had said May 06, and in Oct 05 we agreed to start trying in Dec 05). I certainly wouldn't do anything like "forget" my birth control, but maybe you can ask DH about moving up the "trying" date. And even if it's not feasible (we picked out dates based on when we'd have debt paid off, and what our job situations were, so we could be financially ready), then I'm still sending you a big hug - I've been where you are before, and it's no fun to be there.

**kellydoeshair** · 04-20-2008, 10:27 PM

Originally Posted by Telephus44

I know how you feel. When I wanted to start trying (DH wasn't ready yet) it was just when the Hollywood baby boom started - I can remember being in tears one day thinking "Even Brittany Spears is having a baby! Everyone else is pregnant but me!"

I ended up talking to DH, and he agreed to starting to try about 5/6 months earlier than we had initially discussed (we had said May 06, and in Oct 05 we agreed to start trying in Dec 05). I certainly wouldn't do anything like "forget" my birth control, but maybe you can ask DH about moving up the "trying" date. And even if it's not feasible (we picked out dates based on when we'd have debt paid off, and what our job situations were, so we could be financially ready), then I'm still sending you a big hug - I've been where you are before, and it's no fun to be there.

yeah I know what you're talking about
dh still isn't THERE yet
although I think he thinks he'll be there
and there's no such thing
I doubt he'd agree to move up the date
and I've told MANY girlfriends that I REFUSE to "forget" pills
it's just wrong
*sigh* but yeah
everywhere you look people are pregnant
you say wackjob brit get pregnant
I have to look at her jailbait sister being pregnant
oh well
I don't really mean it as MEAN as it sounds
it's just depressing

**Michelle68** · 04-20-2008, 11:26 PM

((Hugs))

--Michelle

**Jessesbride** · 04-21-2008, 10:24 AM

I'm there with ya sister!

My dh & I've been trying/letting nature do it's thing & so far a big fat NOTHING! I figured we'd get preggers around honeymoon... nope, then last summer I got preggers *JUST KNEW* and then miscarried not even a month later! still trying & nothing!

It kills me when I see people all the time that can't afford, accidently got preggers or end up killing their kids b/c of abuse or whatever & what about the rest of us that REALLY REALLY WANT THEM & are having trouble just to concieve them?

AND of course, everyone in the world seems preggers at the moment!

sorry off my soap box now...

However, my dh's aunt is JUST now preggers (they've been trying for about 15? yrs & his Uncle is 48 or 49 & the Aunt is 35 ~ & due to an accident in her teens was told she'd NEVER get pregnant... she's had miscar's plenty but this one is almost here) so it still reminds me that doctors don't know everything... can we say HOPE springs eternal? Kudos to you for "not forgetting" your b.c! get involved with other things that can help take your mind off "the baby syndrome" or at least help to keep it under control! It'll come for us we just have to be patient!

Best wishes
Kim

**wanderlusting** · 04-21-2008, 04:11 PM

I hope your DH feels ready to start trying sooner!

I know how you feel- DH and I have been trying for #1 since August. It's frusterating when people tell me they conceived the first month of trying or they had an "oops" pregnancy. I'm excited for them- but I still feel sad.

**kellydoeshair** · 04-21-2008, 04:26 PM

Originally Posted by jennybethg

I hope your DH feels ready to start trying sooner!

I know how you feel- DH and I have been trying for #1 since August. It's frusterating when people tell me they conceived the first month of trying or they had an "oops" pregnancy. I'm excited for them- but I still feel sad.

yeah you're like that's awesome for you
not so awesome for me:-(

**Cricket1** · 04-21-2008, 04:50 PM

Oh, honey, I hear you! DH and I tried for five years and it never happened. At that point, we proceeded with adoption and now have two great boys that were absolutely meant for us.

I know how frustrating it is. I used to never go to baby showers (that seemed to be surrounding me during those five years). I wanted to be happy for people, but I was too sad about not being pregnant. I babysat a lot during that time just to be around little ones. Do you have any neices or nephews you could have for the weekend?

Anyway--it will all work out for you, don't worry! I know--easier said than done, but keep the faith.

**always2busy** · 04-21-2008, 05:23 PM

DH and I have been trying since august. I've been over a week late about 4 times but nothing. Everymonth the let down has been a little easier. All my friends either have kids, or are pregnant. My cycle has been crazy too. I never thought getting pregnant would be so hard.

**mom2bobsarah** · 04-24-2008, 08:29 AM

You mentioned that you are on the pill. I just wanted to mention (in case you didn't know) that it usually takes several months after you go off the pill for your body to get back to normal so to speak and able to conceive. Just figured I would mention that because if you wanted to actively try in Jan. you might want to go off the pill sooner and maybe switch to condoms for awhile. I know this does not apply to everyone but I thought I would throw it out there. Good luck.

**hippytreehugger4ever** · 04-26-2008, 06:08 AM

I was diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) in December and was put on metformin and prenatel vitamins. The gynacologists was telling me that I would likely be preggers the first month

Well, it's now April and all I have is a period that's been going on for over a month straight now and insomnia from all the pills I'm taking.

Been trying for 3 years now