Divorce Advice? (long, sad story)

**larabelle** · 08-25-2008, 07:50 AM

Originally Posted by reginaastralis

Usually, but not always, you might be able to pick up a carseat at a local children's thrift store.

I see carseats at thrift stores (GoodWill and Salvation Army) all the time.

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-25-2008, 08:13 AM

Originally Posted by Mom2Many

Like I said earlier...he most likely had the time and money to get his own carseat when they split up. It doesn't make her spiteful to not want to constantly uninstall and reinstall a car seat.

She doesn't have to constantly install and uninstall, he can do it. Thats a petty excuse.

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-25-2008, 08:16 AM

Originally Posted by larabelle

I see carseats at thrift stores (GoodWill and Salvation Army) all the time.

In my state it' s illegal to sell a used car seat at a thrift store. They won't take them no matter how nice they look. If the car seat has been in an accident it's considered unusable and there is not a way to know so they just don't take them.

Also most people don't know this but your not suppose to reuse cars seats anyways. They say you should replace them with each child.

**forHISglory** · 08-25-2008, 08:32 AM

I am overwhelmed by your advice and compassion and have noted several of your references of where he might check for help. He does not live in our state, so things might be different where he is. However, this can give him a place to start.

On the car seats, he purchased them before the divorce, back when things were still "ours" and not "mine". He may have thought of them as still being "ours"; but I don't really know much more than that. He still goes to get the kids on his visitation times, but they all go walking to a nearby park and spend the time there. So he still sees his kids; he just doesn't drive them anywhere.

About his jobs: He worked for a landscape company as a laborer. This company landscaped new housing developments, commercial buildings, etc. As the building industry went down, so did his job. He said he liked this job enough to do some of it on his own, but he doesn't own any of the equipment, not even a truck, and doesn't have the money to get any right now. With his physical disabilities, it was hard work, but he said he worked with a team of guys where they all pitched in and he could do his share, despite the bad back. Also, landscaping is not a job that is year round, which is why his salary was not anywhere near what the judge said it was. He took the minimum wage night job to help supplement the day job. When the day job dried up, he held on to the night job, and hoped that it would become full time.

For those of you who mentioned that he must feel kicked around, I think you have it right. But he needs to get some help and do it soon. So when I next talk to him or to his family, I'll pass along some of your ideas. Again....... thanks for your time and concern.

**fuzzybunny** · 08-25-2008, 07:13 PM

I have never been married so I have no advice, but I will pray for your friend. It's very sad, unfortunately our "no fault divorce" society makes it very easy for such people (male or female) to cheat and ditch with little consequence or thought for anyone but themselves.

He is lucky God sent him such a good friend to help him through it.

Christine