What makes a good neighbor?

**jilly_beans** · 04-25-2009, 05:43 AM

Originally Posted by LeeCee

a good neighbor is someone who minds their own business. enough said

Wow, I am glad you're not my neighbor. I love having my neighbors around and not minding there own business. It makes for a friendly neighborhood & extra safety when everyone is watching out for each other.

**2ndGenGranola** · 04-25-2009, 06:19 PM

I am all excited. The nest door neighbors from you-know-where just loaded their furniture on trucks and drove away. I would love to get some neighbors in like we had at our old house - you know the kind where you still email 7 years after you have moved.

**ahmom** · 04-26-2009, 07:39 AM

I'd wait some before inviting them over. Get to know their personality. Do the police show up at their place often? Look on the sex offender website to see if your neighbors are on there.
You don't want a reputation before people get to know you.

**McD** · 04-26-2009, 08:41 AM

I love our neighbors. The neighbor on one side of me, who would appear to be the really weird one, is awesome. He came and introduced himself to me the day we moved in and has become a part of the family. He is an older gentlemen who has never married, no kids, has no family. My husband and he share a lot of the same hobbies and interests, and I get to test out my new recipes on him. When Zac was deployed, he helped me immensely, he would mow my lawn or rake my leaves. If he saw my gutters were filling up, he would clean them.

The neighbor on the other side is nice too. They have always been very helpful and pleasant, and they have a son Wesley's age that comes over to play every now and again.

To us, a good neighbor is someone who you don't dread seeing, who can help out when it's needed and they are able, and is willing to accept something in return for their help (be it help or baked goods or whatever).

I think it would make me sad if my neighbors avoided me.

**LeeCee** · 04-26-2009, 11:13 AM

jilly beans

there is a big difference in someone watching out for you or your house than someone who is a noseybody and always looking to get in your business and then gossips to all the other neighbors. things aren't always in black and white.

**rebecca** · 04-29-2009, 07:44 AM

Someone who doesn't come out the door as soon as you go outside to do your gardening and talk and talk and talk. I have one neighbor that totally drives me up the wall. Everytime I come outside I have to listen to her drama! I hate this! When I go out to tend to my flowers it is very theraputic (sp) for me and I don't want to hear about her latest drama. To me what makes a good neighbor is saying hi to them and talk a few minutes. With one of my neighbors, my daughter's friend, I will have her take extra dessert over to the neighbors. I'm more of a loner. I'm not rude to my neighbors, like I said I chat for a few minutes than do what I have to do.

**Incognito** · 04-29-2009, 03:49 PM

I've lived in many different locations and have had lots of neighbours through the years.
There are good, bad and awful neighbours.
Wouldn't it be nice if we all basically treated each other the way we'd like to be treated?
No trash, dogs or cats making noise or wrecking our gardens.
No noise or neighbours passed out from drunkeness next to our rose bushes. No nosy ones; no rude, cursing ones. No drug dealers or porno tenants.
Instead, just people that have their own lives, and occasionally share a little human friendliness and kindness with us on a give-and-take basis.
I dream......
--Incognito

**FrugalWitch** · 05-02-2009, 07:45 AM

I like neighbors who are quiet and mind their own business. Luckily our neighborhood is very quiet now.

People do keep an eye out for suspicious activities but they aren't always yammering and hanging on each others doorstep.

I hate when you can't even go out and enjoy your own yard without somebody breaking their neck "popping over" to run their mouth. Thank God we don't have that problem any more. The whole street shared a sigh of relief when those two families moved.

**frugalfranny** · 06-01-2009, 12:52 PM

I have NO CLUE what makes a good neighbor......I don't have any.

I am in one of those neighborhoods where no one talks to anyone....no one even acknowledges that you exist.....sometimes not even with a wave or a Hi........but that can allow privacy too.

My house from **** on one side has broken down my back fence by pushing his junk over onto my property. I 'politely' mentioned this to his son last year and asked him to move it......not done yet, could go to court. I will make one more attempt and talk to him directly...that is on my list to do this week.

The neighbor behind me ........whom I don't know at all (had said "Hi to when I saw him outside and that was all) was BRAZEN enough last year to lean over the fence and ask if he could have my rhubarb. (had never talked to him AT ALL before this...but when he wants something...OH YEAH...) That left me in shock......that he would even ask.....FOR FREE of course.......

And just this last week the neighbor on the other side has decided that he can also pile **** against my fence and has 'bowwed it out'....when I mentioned this....POLITELY....he informed me that it wasn't "touching my fence"......I then called him over to the fence and pointed out what I meant and he was just as snotty. So...this is a rental and not only will I be writing to the landlord but the rental agency too.......and could be in another court situation.

So......what makes a good neighbor??.........HAVE NO CLUE....but I am just keeping my own nose to the grindstone and hoping I can get out of here in a year or two........at the latest. Love my house......HATE MY NEIGHBORHOOD!!!

**frugalfranny** · 06-02-2009, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by C@rol

Good neighbors are people who know their boundries but are willing to be approachable or extend themselves. They're not intrusive but are friendly and social. Good neighbors are there for each other, look out for each other and support the other neighbors on the block.

Now...when I find these people I'll let you know. :clol:

These are the type of neighbors we had growing up but it's no longer that way. People want to stay to themselves and not get to know anyone. Shame.

Think Carol is 'right on' with this one......especially the part about being "no longer that way". Truly sad that we have become such a "me" culture! Concerns me more about this than 'the environment/etc.' we are leaving our kids.