DS possible suicide

**mh3rdwheel** · 07-29-2011, 08:36 PM

My dear son Brad left a suicide note I found it on his computer stand when I went to wake him up then went to check him to se him breathing. ( scary) and a noose by him. Most people know that I lost my son Nicky at age 3 1/2 months (20 yrs ago) but they do not know that I lost my stepson Little Dale at age 20 to suicide 8 months before Nicky. christine (their sister was born one day before Little Dale killed himself) My ex-husband's side of the family had a lot of mental issues. I am scared for my son Brad he is 18. I CANNOT LOOSE HIM TOO.

I still have the suicide note. Brad had surgery then went to Mayhem concert, I am hoping for the best, maybe I can google it.

**ladykemma2** · 07-29-2011, 08:42 PM

check him into a psychiatric hospital. tonight.

f he won't go, you need to call the police and they can make him go.

the local hospital if you turn in the suicide note and the noose can make the arrangements . they will do some sort of 72 hour observation and a social worker will help you get him admitted to the psychiatric hospital.

this is bigger than you. don't you try to fix it alone. call for help tonight.

**mh3rdwheel** · 07-29-2011, 09:00 PM

Originally Posted by ladykemma2

check him into a psychiatric hospital. tonight.

f he won't go, you need to call the police and they can make him go.

the local hospital if you turn in the suicide note and the noose can make the arrangements . they will do some sort of 72 hour observation and a social worker will help you get him admitted to the psychiatric hospital.

this is bigger than you. don't you try to fix it alone. call for help tonight.

He went after his surgery to the Mayhem concert while I was at work, I don't know where it is. I am very worried, I can't sleep.

**ladykemma2** · 07-29-2011, 09:09 PM

what surgery?

**Missourimom** · 07-29-2011, 09:37 PM

I'm very worried and concerned for your son and you. Please, update us as soon as you can and I'm saying a prayer for both of you!

**craftypam** · 07-29-2011, 09:38 PM

I agree to get him help immediately if not sooner. So sorry you are going through this.

**frugal-fannie** · 07-29-2011, 10:02 PM

I have to agree you need to take him or call and put him on a 5150 to make sure he is not a danger to himself or someone else.

**Nishu** · 07-29-2011, 10:06 PM

Originally Posted by mh3rdwheel

He went after his surgery to the Mayhem concert while I was at work, I don't know where it is. I am very worried, I can't sleep.

I would call the police and ask for help. Prayers sent for you and your son.

**bumplett** · 07-29-2011, 10:55 PM

Please, please, please get help for Brad even if he comes home and claims it was no big deal. Even if he claims he wasn't serious -

The fact that he didn't harm himself, but left a note and rope for you to find is a cry for help. He's asking for help.

Please, Please, Please don't just let it go - no matter what he tells you -

I'm sure he's fine tonight - he's out having fun - and he'll be home tonight - then you can drive him to the ER (keeping the note & rope in your purse to show them)

Stay calm. There's no need to fight or argue with him. Stay calm and tell him you, as his mother, have no choice but to make sure he's alright.

We'll be thinking of you - and Brad.

:hug:

**mauimagic** · 07-29-2011, 11:22 PM

What surgery? How can he go to a concert after surgery?

Please keep us posted - sending prayers, hugs and aloha your way.

**frugalfoster** · 07-29-2011, 11:58 PM

Originally Posted by bumplett

The fact that he didn't harm himself, but left a note and rope for you to find is a cry for help. He's asking for help.

Exactly....get him some asap...if you don't and for some reason he tries again and succeeds...you will never forgive yourself...If he gets angry let him get angry...emotion is a good thing. He probably hasn't felt anything in awhile. Do not blame yourself!!!

Although I speak from experience, it was not my biological children who tried this, but a young girl who was placed (by high school counselors) into our house (stayed for 4 years) after she tried it the first time. Many hours of talking and reaching out helped me to understand that this had everything to do with the girl having no emotion at all. They shut that part of their mind down, therefore the finality of death is surreal.

Whatever is going through his mind should be filtered by a professional. You can't do this one alone...in their mind you either are just "saying that because you're the parent" or they won't be truthful to what they are feeling because they know it will scare you. Either way, you can't win.

So get him professional help and get yourself some also, because the issues that come from something like this are very hard hurdles to jump. If you ever, ever need to talk pm me.

Oh and about the girl...she went on to become an RN in a burn center at a well known hospital...married a state park ranger and had 2 beautiful children.. something horrible can turn into something wonderful as long as your willing walk the path...:-)

**frugalfranny** · 07-30-2011, 12:56 AM

Hugs and prayers to you and your son.........so very sorry
you are going through this.

Agree with the others........get him some help....YESTERDAY!!

**Syn D** · 07-30-2011, 02:52 AM

Just last Monday, a friend of our oldest daughter commit suicide.. He makes the 5th for her in 8 yrs.. He showed no signs..

You have a couple of signs, so try to get him help ASAP..

To many have chocked it up as "no that person wouldn't" or "he/she said their fine", etc.. 2 of our daughters friends left a note, one messaged everyone right before he did it (his way was an unusual way to a point) and 2 left no notes. 3 of them showed no signs before it, and the other 2 were a possibility, but for one, the parents just ignored it..

**McD** · 07-30-2011, 08:38 AM

Call the police. They can find him, they can take him to the hospital. He needs more help than you alone can provide. I am sorry you are having to deal with this.