Is turning fifty a big deal?

**Luckybustert** · 11-17-2009, 11:35 PM

50 is a major milestone and I think it's a big deal. I just turned 49 and my hubby (9 months younger than me) is already starting to tease me about having one foot on 50 and the other on a banana peel. First of all, he's not funny. And second, he's taking me on a cruise five months after my 50th birthday (mid-way between my 50th and his) so I forgive him

**frugalnana** · 11-18-2009, 04:32 PM

Hey fixer buddy. I'm 46 and when I turned 30 I didn't have the emotional breakdown some people do. I thought yes I am finally considered an adult and have experience. lol
When dh turned 50 the kids and I took him out and we had cake and ice cream at home. When they left we had a romantic evening at home. Some wine, cheese, crackers and some strawberries.
So yes I would do something special for her. I would bake her a cake and then I would take her out for a special dinner. Let her know what you mean to her after all these years. Maybe even write her a special card.
When I get to be 50 I want the same as we did for dh and then later the romantic side. But were both romantics so it will be easy for him.

**fixer** · 11-18-2009, 04:41 PM

I really appreciate all of the suggestions. I am still unsure what to do. All I know is I want to do something special for my wife. Being married to her makes each day the best day of my life.

**monkeywrangler71** · 11-18-2009, 04:56 PM

Originally Posted by fixer

Being married to her makes each day the best day of my life.

Write that on a card and give it to her, that would be enough for me.

You know her best, do something she would like. Personally, I would be disappointed if I said "get me nothing" and my husband went out and bought me jewellery, when I say nothing I mean nothing, but lots of women don't. My husband knows now that I really do mean what I say. Even so, I would love a card with a heartfelt message, a special meal either at home or at a favourite restaurant, and some personal attention. Our milestone nights usually involve a fancy snack, a favourite movie, a bottle of champagne, and a lot of snuggling. I think the most important thing, if you are worried that she is worried about aging, is to make sure she knows you still think she's hot. You know how to do that, it isn't with words or gifts.

**Nishu** · 11-18-2009, 06:16 PM

I would definitely do something special but you have to go by what she likes. I don't like my husband to spend money on my presents because if it's something I need, i buy it and if I don't need it I usually don't want it. I'm not a flower person either. I'd kill him if he ever throws me a party. Some women are just like that.

If she's low key, you can still work with that.

Just off the top of my head,

You can take her somewhere meaningful, like where you met or where she grew up.

Write her a beautiful, long letter about how much you love her and how you'd do it all over again and blah de blah. If you do this, you have to start soon and not write it all at the breakfast table the day it's due, like I used to do with my homework. Also, buy some decent stationary for it because she'll want to keep it.

A nice dinner somewhere special is always a win, and I'd try to combine this with suggestion number 1.

If she's wanted to start a new hobby or project, you can buy her the stuff and throw it all together so she can get started.

Sorry that's all I got for now.

**mabyn09** · 11-18-2009, 06:45 PM

[QUOTE=monkeywrangler71;1271073]Write that on a card and give it to her, that would be enough for me.

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I agree! I'm only 27, but if that's all I got for my 50th birthday I'd be thrilled. Then again, I'm pretty easy to please.

Sorry I don't have any more helpful advise though. I'm sure you'll think of something perfect

**Backtoreality** · 11-18-2009, 09:53 PM

I just turn 49 on Monday, and I can tell you that I hope DH does something special for my 50th.

I'm the low key type - don't get me jewels(don't wear them). No flowers(prefer live plants for outdoors), so making my 50th special is different. But DH has this ability to make me feel special, so I know he will do fine.

Just like you will be able to come up with some special because you know her best!

**frugalfranny** · 11-19-2009, 01:31 AM

Originally Posted by fixer

. Women are still mysterious creatures to me.

And THAT is as it should be fixer!

Yes, do something special. She must have a favorite restaurant. Make reservations, if needed, clear the calendar, and take her there on that day. Let her know that morning that you are going out to eat..........just someplace special. Get her a nice card and write something nice on it.

Let us know what you do.........and how it goes.

**Judi Dial** · 11-19-2009, 07:06 AM

I'm 55 next week and 50 came (and went) the same way that 30 and 40 did...with no fanfare at all.

The only reason it's a big deal is that societally women are taught that much of our value is our youth. Make sure your wife knows that you're happy with what you've got in whatever way is appropriate for the two of you...another carrot cake and a heart-felt card would do it for me.

My

Judi

**miss_thrifty** · 11-19-2009, 02:04 PM

deffently 50 is a big thing. My hubby is dreading 40, litertly and keeps looking at thw white hair. im like in men its distinguished ,so stop it, it doesnt say age it says wisdom and knowledge .
My hubby told me no way no party nothing!!! he means it, he's be mad. so Im keeping it low key and maybe by the his bday time i can maybe take him out with maybe ourfreinds and go out to dinner or night on the town. he hates cards, and no buying gifts.
What u said about your wife - deffenlty write that in a card.

**SewCrafty** · 11-19-2009, 09:31 PM

Fixer your wife and I share our birthday, we'll both be 50 next month. I agree with the other ladies, your comment about her is perfect in a card. How about give her the day off, i.e. you do all her chores? A foot and back massage would go a loooong way too.

Tell your wife, happy birthday from me!

**forHISglory** · 11-19-2009, 10:25 PM

Fixer, it's a big deal. BIG DEAL. I've been there, albeit a decade ago, and trust me........ It's a BIG DEAL.

Now I'm the type that's crazy about all my birthdays; I love getting older and seeing what the next year will bring. But 50 was special. I want to live to 100, and hitting the big 5--0 meant that at last I was middle aged!

So....... do it up right, Fixer. It's a BIG DEAL.

**madhen** · 11-20-2009, 12:46 AM

Well, I'm weird, in that I think EVERY birthday is a big deal. I treat each one as something very special and unforgettable.

That said, I'm not fifty yet, but in my mind, fifty is a big deal and should be treated as such. But "special and unforgettable" doesn't have to be a fancy formal restaurant and dancing until dawn. I suspect a home-cooked meal (complete with her not having to clean up the mess) and a nice, thoughtful present (jewelry is great if she is into that, but if not, something she absolutely does not need but will love) would go a long way. A little dancing in front of the fireplace with the lights off isn't a bad idea, either.