No more Mrs. Nice Guy

**MaryCarney** · 03-20-2010, 09:45 PM

As some of you know, we moved into a new home last week. We are surrounded by boxes, can't find the tupperware or one of the checkbooks, the kitchen is a disaster - you know, the usual moving stuff. Not life-threatening, just a frustrating couple of weeks.

My sister calls me (the one who got married in the reptile house of the zoo to husband #3 - you may remember this as the Crazy Realtive Holiday Swap thread

) and basically invited herself, her new husband - who I have not met - and their combined EIGHT KIDS to come spend the weekend at our house!!!!!

Ordinarily, I say yes and rearrange my life for a few days, silently working on the ulcer that will someday kill me. This time, I said NO, and suggested a local hotel. I then proceeded to list all the local attractions for the kids that THEY could take them to while I unpack boxes.

I only had a little, tiny twinge of guilt over this, and I've completely gotten over it.

They went to the Indianapolis Childrens' Museum, and are now back at the hotel swimming - we even loaned them swimsuits!!!! And when they made a veiled attempt to get invited for breakfast before church tomorrow, I provided directions to the grocery with the 'best donuts'!!

I would never in my wildest dreams go 'visit' someone, dragging eight kids, if that someone was six days into a new house. I absolutely refuse to feel guilty about this, either.

**Palooka** · 03-20-2010, 09:56 PM

I don't blame you and wouldn't feel guilty either!

The donut thing was funny.

**Libby** · 03-20-2010, 10:01 PM

You shouldn't ever feel guilty for saying NO to someone inviting themselves into your home. Period.

Good on you for standing your ground!

**dcompton** · 03-20-2010, 10:22 PM

I agree. Good for you.

**Contrary Housewife** · 03-20-2010, 11:18 PM

No offer to help unpack?

**mauimagic** · 03-20-2010, 11:45 PM

congrats MC!! See that your sister remjains true to form - just in case you had any high expectations of change!!

I am very proud of you!! You handles the situation very graciously - as usual!!

**craftypam** · 03-21-2010, 01:14 AM

I would not impose 8 kids on anyone for any reason except a real life emergency. Good for you for sticking up for yourself!!!!

**frugalfranny** · 03-21-2010, 01:25 AM

Originally Posted by MaryCarney

And when they made a veiled attempt to get invited for breakfast before church tomorrow, I provided directions to the grocery with the 'best donuts'!!

Love this line.............

didn't know ANY groc. store had 'good donuts'...........????

GOOD FOR YOU MC!! You have every right to say no.

Personally..........I can't imagine expecting ANYONE to put up two adults and 8 kids............EVEN IF YOU WEREN'T IN MOVING MODE!!!!

'POSSIBLY' in the summer if/when the kids can all sleep outside in sleeping bags............but that is putting up 10 people!!

.......not sure I would even have the FLOOR SPACE for that many people! enough beds??.......not a chance!

**PlainCash4** · 03-21-2010, 02:33 AM

Good for you. That would have been insane ! Especially with 8 kids ~~~ :-0

**mauimagic** · 03-21-2010, 03:34 AM

I'm impressed that you had enough bathing suits to lend them!! You are getting them back aren't you?

**NewLeaf** · 03-21-2010, 07:56 AM

Good job standing your ground. I would have invited them over for a work party (ha ha).

**fairydana** · 03-21-2010, 09:58 AM

I dont blame you at all!! Way to go on standing your ground!! Dont feel guilty at all.

**miss_thrifty** · 03-21-2010, 02:49 PM

thats good Im glad u stood up for your self. Sometimes standing up for ones self can be very hard and Im proud of ya dear. huggss to your ulcer, less stress lol

**beverlyhouts** · 03-21-2010, 03:21 PM

Good for you!

**Incognito** · 03-21-2010, 03:48 PM

I think you should feel guilty: for not telling them it wasn't a good time for them to visit. But then again, you've proved that you are much more magnanimous than I could ever be in that situation.
All the best with the unpacking.