I Killed My Ex Husbands Wife

**cab54** · 08-16-2010, 01:15 PM

Originally Posted by Greebo

Get.
The.
Restraining.
Order.

Couldn't say it better.

**Judi Dial** · 08-16-2010, 01:25 PM

i agree too! Just because you know him, doesn't mean he's not dangerous. Also, just because he wasn't dangerous before, you can't assume he's not dangerous NOW. Cal the sherriff back and tell him what was said, at a minimum, that way if your brakes fail or something, they have a clue to maybe looksee for something suspicious, no matter what.

GET THAT RESTRAINING ORDER!

(Please!)

Judi

**rudypoo98** · 08-16-2010, 03:35 PM

The dummy called again was being really nice and snotty both.Told me not to cry about the dog because she was old and it was a wonder she made it through the last two winters being outside alot.He asked if he could come over for s*x told him no,all I will do is talk to you.He said that's right (snotty) you have Randy for that.I think he's just jealous is all it is and probably wants to come back.But since he knows I'm seeing someone he's being nasty and snotty.I told Randy the guy I'm seeing the things he said to me, he said he's not grieving her loss he wants to get back with you.

**Greebo** · 08-16-2010, 03:45 PM

Why are you even talking to this guy?

**Prepper** · 08-16-2010, 03:52 PM

I'm new here rudypoo98 and this is my first post... CALL THE POLICE AND GET THE RESTRAINING ORDER.

**Jamielane** · 08-16-2010, 03:52 PM

I would not be having any conversations with this guy. No good can come from it. You need to get a restaraining order and cut off communication with him. Period.

**cissylu** · 08-16-2010, 04:11 PM

Originally Posted by Greebo

Why are you even talking to this guy?

I agree with Greebo! Don`t answer his call`s anymore and get the restraning order.

**rudypoo98** · 08-16-2010, 04:32 PM

Probably because we were married over 22 years and the last 2 years we had started getting along.Would talk on the phone about our daughter and grandkids.We still have alot of the same friends so we'd be at the same social get togethers which I had avoided going to since he left.We would talk at them and got along fine, he'd loan his rider mower,chain saw things like that to our daughter and husband tell them to use them here too and leave here when done.He'd come here get them when he needed them back.I'd usually have some of the grandkids here so he'd stay awhile to play with them and talk to me.I know he probably thought we'd get back together and is jealous that I have someone now and he knows him.He did really scare me at first because he's never acted like that, was always kind of jealous when we were married tho.I'm not talking to him anymore if he calls I'm not going to answer the phone.I'm not taking him back he had his chance to come back before he married her.I begged him not to leave me and to come back after he did.Yes he's probably hurting now but the way I see it ,it's time he gets some of his own medicine and I really care alot for Randy.We like to do all the same things get along great.I'm not going to go backwards I'm going forward.I really don't think he'll call again or show up he was here in town Friday evening because him and Randy met each other in their trucks,he must have left town fast after they met because he didn't show up here.Also he knows Randy won't put up with his crap.

**Russ** · 08-20-2010, 07:06 AM

Originally Posted by rudypoo98

The dummy called again was being really nice and snotty both.Told me not to cry about the dog because she was old and it was a wonder she made it through the last two winters being outside alot.He asked if he could come over for s*x told him no,all I will do is talk to you.He said that's right (snotty) you have Randy for that.I think he's just jealous is all it is and probably wants to come back.But since he knows I'm seeing someone he's being nasty and snotty.I told Randy the guy I'm seeing the things he said to me, he said he's not grieving her loss he wants to get back with you.

WHAT?!?!?!??!? Was he serious?????????

**rissimo** · 08-20-2010, 08:44 AM

You really need to stop talking to this guy and get the restraining order against him. I realize that you two were married and have a history together and that you feel you know hime and don't think he would do anything. And don't think that your boyrfriend may be a deterrant against hime. I have a girlfriend who thought the same thing and didn't do anyhting and continued to take her ex's phone calls and she thought everything was fine and dandy. She almost ended up dead. She has gone thru alot of therapy and several surgeries and is finally begin to recover. I am not saying that this will happen to you, but you need to take matters into your own hands and get things started just IN CASE anything happens, it will all be documented. If you continue to take his calls, I would record them as well. PLEASE go ahead and get the restraining order.

**roxygirl** · 08-26-2010, 10:28 PM

I'm really concerned with the things your ex is doing, and perhaps, even more concerned about your reaction to it. Maybe I am just reading it wrong, these kind of these are so hard to convey on the internet, but it really does sound like you are brushing off these threats and making excuses for them on his behalf?

Truth is, the restraining order itself won't protect you if he does decide that he wants to hurt you. Do you have other ways of protecting your family *just* in case? Do you have a security system or items for self protection in case "someone" were to enter your home with intent to do harm? I have heard from law enforcement that one of the BEST things you can have to protect your self is a can of wasp spray at your bedside, and other strategic places in your home. It's considered better than pepper spray or mace since it can shoot up to 20-30ft away, preventing you from having to get anywhere near the aggressor. Aim for the face and that person is going to need a trip to the hospital, stat! I personally also will always have a dog in the house as I feel they provide a good deal of protection to the home. At the very least, most will alert you if they see or hear anyone approaching your home; many will give their lives to defend their family.

Still, I think you should file the restraining order right away. Sometimes, perverts and violent individuals work their way up to something really harmful. They may start with stalker like tendencies, making VERBAL threats to see how much they can get away with. Basically, they toe the line, challenge the fences, see just how far they can push one's boundries before getting confident with the idea of doing something drastic. At least by issue an restraining order, you are showing him that you will not take his crap and if he did decide to push his luck, doing things that make you feel threatened, you have made a record showing that he is a danger to you and your family and law enforcement can do more to intervene on your behalf.

I am so sorry you have to be dealing with this crazy ex. I hope you can find ways to keep him out of your lives and maintain a sense of safety and comfort.

**frugalfoster** · 08-26-2010, 11:32 PM

Any conversation with this guy is just going to encourage him to keep up the harassment. You need to draw the line...whether that is a restraining order or blocking his calls completely...whatever...just do something!!!!!

**Libby** · 08-27-2010, 12:05 AM

I vote for the restraining order as well. If not for your own security & peace of mind but to prove a point: YOU will NOT put up with his immature behaviour and vulgar mouth. As someone else already said....a piece of paper won't protect you physically but can protect you in the long run.

Each time you say you're going to report him and don't....its proof that its just an idle threat he could consider this as part of a game or you egging him on, challenging him to do more and more and could turn ugly.

Even if you do not feel threatened - please document every stupid thing he said, when he calls, when he pops by etc.