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    Well, my dh and I are officially separated and working on getting a divorce. It's been a long time coming, although everyone else is surprised. It's kind of been that whole you put on a front for others and then behind closed doors it all falls apart. I just haven't been happy for a long long time.

    So, we went to Cancun for 9 days. I was hoping it would cement my feelings one way or another. It sure did...I guess for him too, because the day after we got back, he was out and rented an apartment. He moved out yesterday, so last night was my first night alone at the house. It was hard, but I know it'll get easier.

    Thanks for listening. It helps to talk about it. I've been keeping it all in for so long.

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    Big hugs to you! I will be praying for you!

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    Becky,

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    Wow what a big step...Take things day by day and do not get overwhelmed.
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    Sorry to hear and yes it is hard, but it will get easier!! You will be just fine.

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    Hugs, Sweetie! My soon to be ex and I have the same problem. So sorry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beks37 View Post
    So, we went to Cancun for 9 days. I was hoping it would cement my feelings one way or another. It sure did...I guess for him too, because the day after we got back, he was out and rented an apartment.
    beks...sorry to hear about this but it sounds like you two are going to to part ways amicably. Good on you for not staying and suffering through trying to keep that front up for others and slowly killing yourself inside while building resentment. I think its great that you're calling a spade a spade and seeing this situation for what it really is so you can both move on with your lives. Embrace your future BTW: Love the new avatar pic - hot hot hot lookin!

    (Remember - we're all here to help you talk through this if you need us)

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    Your in my thoughts.

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    Hugs to you beks.

    It is a big change but could be for the best in the long run.........take care of yourself.

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    Hugs to you. I am sure last night was difficult, but it will get easier and you can do it. I went through the same thing a few years ago.

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    Sending you Huggs and encouragement I went through this 25 years ago It is hard but you will come out happier and stronger
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    I remember that first night and no its not easy but you're right it will get easier. It will take time over a long and bumpy road but it will get easier, it will get better and you will be happy.

    I know, I'm speaking from experience!

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    Thanks all for the kind words. We filed with the lawyer yesterday, so it will be finalized on or about December 20th......just in time for Christmas. I'm sure the holidays will be hard. But I'm glad I've got a lot of support from friends and family.

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    Sorry to hear about the split beks but if you were not happy, it is for the best. It will get easier and you will be happy again. Hugs to you!
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