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03-29-2011, 01:46 PM #1Registered User
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DH left me.
DH told me yesterday after noon that he is no longer happy and doesnt want to work on our marriage no more.
Then I find out (not through him but through our cell phone company) that he has been texting that girl over 3,000 times this week, and this has been on going for over a month. And the phone calls are just as bad. 1 hour conversations. Call after call everyday.
I don't know how to get through this. I have no where to go. I am back in Jersey but can only stay for a few days. I can't loose my jobs.
DH is not moving into the apartment now, but I decided I can and will as of April 14th. So until then I need a place to live. I can afford the apartment myself, now that I no longer need to pay his bills either. Everything he owns is not in my name (car, bills, etc.)
When I told DH a few months ago I was thinking divorce, I realise now, that I didnt really want that.
I am just so hurt and lost.
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I am so sorry you are going through this. Do you maybe have some friends you can stay with until the 14th?
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Very sorry to hear Ashley.
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03-29-2011, 02:00 PM #4Rude and Vile Master
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I am also very sorry about this - but at the same time, I have to wonder if in the long run, this won't be better for you.
You are still very young - you need to learn how to be YOU - and you're at a perfect age to learn that.
Hang in there, Ashley. We're all rooting for you.If you could kick in the pants the person responsible for your problems, you wouldn't be able to sit for a month.
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I'm so sorry to hear this! Things sounded like they were finally heading in the right direction for you. Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way! Please keep us posted on how you're doing.
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I am so sorry to hear this Ashley. I agree with Greebo's post. You never know what the future will bring but I think you will be alot happier.
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I am so sorry. Keep your head up, take one day at a time.
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ITA. Hugs, Ash.
Originally Posted by Greebo
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Oh godness Ashley, I so wish I could drive, fly or just run to you right now and hug you. You are a strong, beautiful, driven, intelligent, caring and loving girl. You deserve the very best, and I agree with Greebo whatever the best is for you , you will find it. I am here for you , rooting for you, if you need me pm. I will call you. Hugs to you sweet girl. Hang in there, life is good and blessings will flow to you. It might not seem it now. We are here for you Ashley! Sending up prayers, sending hugs stay strong.
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Girl, I don't know what to say except I wish it had went differently. Like Greeb said, maybe it's for the best but I'm sure you don't feel/see that now. I'm sure you are heartbroken but it will get better.
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And get a good lawyer... Originally Posted by pinetree
If you could kick in the pants the person responsible for your problems, you wouldn't be able to sit for a month.
Did you know that a 4 year student paying $20,000/year who finances their education graduates with over $103,000 in debt to start? But a student who works and pays cash and takes 6 years to graduate ends with $6,300 in their pocket! So much for "getting a head start by financing!"
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You are a strong, intelligent woman and pretty, too. I have a feeling your dh will realize this after the excitement of the other woman wears off. I can't believe I'm being so blunt, but I wouldn't take him back if I were you. You deserve better!
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I'm so sorry to hear this Ashley. You will find your happiness again.
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I have to agree with Greebo...on both posts...very sound advice.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this, but you will get past this.
I wish you well and much happiness, and the best of luck.Wife to DH
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So sorry, Ashley, (((hugs))) to you.
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