When has a relationship run its course?

**shoiji** · 08-17-2011, 12:07 PM

I would suggest a contact a womans shelter. The reason being it sounds as if you are going through emotional abuse. They would be able to help you or atleast point you in the right direction concerning counseling, moving, housing, etc. You just do not sound happy. I am not saying life should be all light and easy going. Because there are ups and downs in life. Living in a situation that is toxic is just not a away to live. Also, it is difficult to know what you child is learning through all of this.

I hope you find someone to talk to about this. Let us know how you are doing.

**kita** · 08-25-2011, 04:11 PM

Originally Posted by Judi Dial

So my family and I are "estranged" by my choice. I can't change the PTSD, I can't change that I get flashbacks. And I am MUCH happier without them in my life.

Judi

I just wanted to note that you can CAN change the flashbacks and PTSD with counselling and lots of work. Of course, if your family is still toxic, the healthiest thing you can do is cut off contact. But if PTSD and flashbacks are happening in ways that hinder your life, go to a counseller etc.

**Lora88** · 08-25-2011, 04:30 PM

Its interesting you posted this today I was just having this conversation with a friend who is having martial troubles She knows that i have been where she is miserable with kids and scared not knowing what to do. She asked me How I knew it was time to end the relationship I told her when it hurts more to stay than to go you will know its time . May you find peace

**HelloK** · 08-26-2011, 12:23 AM

Originally Posted by Debbie-cat

I agree that friendships run their course and need to end. I think alot of it is due to the fact that people grow, change and their interests follow different paths. Although it is sad, it is time to move on. Hugs. I had to leave one friendship a while back and do not regret it at all. I still wish her the very best and a happy life but we didn't have anything in common anymore and her negativity always brought me down.

I agree with this. This happened to me with my first very best friend. I thought we'd be friends forever, but unfortunately she wasn't in for it. Love her to pieces, but don't need her in my life if she doesn't want to be in it either. Hold your head up girlie

**cheryl65** · 08-26-2011, 12:46 AM

You mentioned going back to school and going back east but that he denied you. Is there a way you can not let him control you and just make those choices to go back to school or to travel back east? Take control of your life whether you stay or leave. Make yourself happy. Do not let him control your life.

**Lady_V** · 08-26-2011, 06:47 AM

I don't know if she is watching the thread anymore.

I do know she is an American living in Canada. She has mentioned a few times that she can't gain legal employment there, They have 2 sons, one with Autism. Her returning to school would take money and time. It would also take a commitment on both sides since he would have to step up. Something he isn't willing to do.

**Droppedonmyhead** · 11-10-2011, 09:56 AM

I had 2 best friend relationships end in the past year. The 3 of us were best friends for over 10 years. Friend #1 ended because she stole money from me and refused to give it back. Friend #2 was because she had known Friend #1 since childhood so she considered Friend #1 to be a better friend to her (even though she was not and admitted that she wasn't). So she sided with Friend #1 without even asking me about the situation. Friend #2 could not understand that you choose friends based on the quality of the friendship not the length of it.

Ironic thing is that a few months ago Friend #1 sent me an email wanting to be friendly again. I guess she wanted another opportunity to steal from me. I ignored her email and never answered back. I figure they both made their own decisions to end our friendship. So be it.