Ugh, DH is driving me crazy!
Results 1 to 15 of 15
  1. #1
    Registered User MomToTwoBoys's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    Edmonton, AB Canada
    Age
    37
    Posts
    3,972
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    23
    Rep Power
    24

    Default Ugh, DH is driving me crazy!

    He's been out of work two months and he's driving me nuts.



    I'm not sure if it's this whole anxiety thing, but him being around the house all of the time is starting to wear on my last nerve. I come home to find him watching parody videos on YouTube and in my head, he should be out handing out his resume to people.

    *sigh*

    Anyone else's spouse drive them up the wall when they're unemployed?

  2. #2
    Registered User Rosebudget1's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Location
    Southern Coast of Maine
    Posts
    395
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    4

    Default

    Yes my DH
    He would usually try to find a project but I felt like he was in my space and time. Unfortunately it happened a lot because he worked construction. Now he is retired but got a job 3 days a week. I like my me time.
    Wife
    Mother to 3 grown children
    Grandmother to 7 beautiful grandkids


    DEBT FREE!
    (except for mortgage)

  3. #3
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Posts
    2,214
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    17

    Default

    Can he pick up any side jobs to keep him busy?
    Frugalista Mama to DD 14 & DS 10
    Crazy Boxer *Sadie*
    **Debt Free Minus the House**

  4. #4
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    1,628
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    14

    Default

    My wife did all of her job hunting online. She only went to locations when they called for an interview. Things have changed, although maybe your area is different.

  5. #5
    Registered User FrabjousDay's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Posts
    487
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    7

    Default

    My husband had a three month search between positions, and most nights I considered using a pillow to smother him to death while he slept. It was horribly stressful, even with him putting all his energy into networking/interviews and staying in contact with recruiters. I never doubted his efforts, but the disruption to our family life about did me in. I temporarily bumped my hours to full-time and he picked up a lot of my normal responsibilities/routine at home.

  6. #6
    Registered User bookwormpeg's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Dream Land
    Posts
    404
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    10

    Default

    My husband is working and I am retired. His job is not a 9-5 job. He is usually home by 3...lots of days at noon...I will start a project and in he walks...drives me nuts!!!! I feel for you...hope he finds a job soon....

  7. #7
    Registered User MomToTwoBoys's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    Edmonton, AB Canada
    Age
    37
    Posts
    3,972
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    23
    Rep Power
    24

    Default

    Yeah he's doing all of his online and he's waiting to hear back about at least three jobs that the recruiters have contacted him for. But this was Tuesday and Wednesday of this week. Perhaps I'm being a little overanxious, but he's made it his mission to clean out the entire house and catch up on ALL of the laundry.

    I don't mind that he helps, but he's been smothering me lately. I like my me time too.

  8. #8
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    9,362
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    25
    Rep Power
    68

    Default

    Ha Ha
    My DH works at home in the bsmt. He closes the door,forgets to eat lunch. Works thru dinner. Is never off. I finally had to say after 3 years,hey there are household things going on too.
    He has a microwave,tv,food stockpile and dishes,several computers. Raise your hand is you think he's hiding!

    When he was unemployed it took 3 months,2000 resumes and he finally got a job thru an old acquaintence. He said his new job was to get a job.

  9. #9
    Registered User Libby's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    8,930
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    53

    Default

    Have you shared with him how you felt about him being at home? Not in a mean/starting a fight type of way but maybe just share your thoughts on how YOU are not used to him being at home with you ALL the time. This way the emphasis is on you.

  10. #10
    ama
    ama is offline
    Registered User ama's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Posts
    473
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    9

    Default

    My dh was unemployed for 9 months and he's lucky he's alive. Meanwhile I was working ft, got a pt job so was working 7 days a week and bc my job didn't feel secure, started taking night classes. And would come home at 10p at night and have him say he hadn't had time to look for a job. ***scream scream scream. Luckily, he got called back to work, given a supervisor position and works night.

  11. #11
    Registered User MomToTwoBoys's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    Edmonton, AB Canada
    Age
    37
    Posts
    3,972
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    23
    Rep Power
    24

    Default

    We do talk about how him being at home makes me feel sometimes and it's a slow process, considering how sensitive things are right now and much stress there is. He told me I can "wave the nag flag" and I have. I did it yesterday when I was at school and instead of getting into a big fight about it, we just stopped and started talking about it at a later time.

    I do appreciate everything that he has done in the time that he has been home because it helps me out when I'm at school. It's just, I dunno, the stress of finances plus the stress of school makes it worse.

  12. #12
    Registered User Libby's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    8,930
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    53

    Default

    Would he be willing to take a 'lesser' p/t job at the grocery store or something in the short term til a FT job pans out? OR would he feel thats beneath him?

  13. #13
    Registered User ravenmaniac's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Location
    Maryland
    Age
    45
    Posts
    1,166
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    13

    Default

    To add a light note you made me think of that movie Fun with Dick and Jane.

  14. #14
    Registered User Mr Fixit's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Location
    Ohio
    Age
    54
    Posts
    298
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    3

    Default

    It sometimes amazes me how 2 married people that love each other, cannot enjoy having more time together.
    The girls and I cherish every spare moment we can spend with each other no matter what the circumstances are, and I can't see that ever changing.
    Of course I am an outdoors kind of guy, and when I am at home, I am normally outside from morning till dark tinkering around. So I am rarely ever in the way because I do not stay in the house unless it's freezing cold outside, but even then, I will stay in my man cave a lot!
    You need to cherish your time together, and discuss how to avoid getting on each others nerves. Take advantage of your time alone together if you know what I mean!

  15. #15
    Registered User
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    0

    Default

    Oh, sorry your family is going through this! Dealing with unemployment is tough on everyone, and it can be hard not to take your frustration out on eachother. But, maybe it would be helpful to set up some time when you two can get out of the house together and just enjoy being a couple again without worry about the job situation? I know that can be challenging with kids, but still worth it! Also, not sure if it would be helpful or not, but in my time at Focus on the Family I've come across a couple articles on dealing with a spouse's unemployment that you might want to do a search for on their website. Maybe it will give you some food for thought? Well, I'll be praying your husband gets a job soon! Hang in there!

Similar Threads

  1. DH driving me crazy!
    By peanut in forum Third Agers
    Replies: 19
    Last Post: 11-17-2010, 07:14 PM
  2. the raccoons are driving me crazy
    By imforpeace in forum Homesteading and gardening
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 04-07-2008, 09:36 PM
  3. My mother is driving me crazy
    By i.m.cheap in forum Family
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 05-21-2007, 03:12 PM
  4. dd is driving me crazy
    By Missy in forum Family
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 07-09-2006, 07:37 PM
  5. GAH this is driving me CRAZY! Help please
    By RuthNY in forum General Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 10-23-2005, 03:21 PM

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •