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    Unhappy Divorce really may be the only answer

    Yep its true....I think it may be it. I can not keep doing this with my DH. The alcohol ALWAYS wins and my kids are beginning to lose everyday.Hes agreed to get help but doesn't and ends up back to his old ways and i cann't deal with it. sigh...theres soooooo MUCH more to all of this for tonight but i feel drained. I just needed your shoulders as usual...THANX

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    Do you go to Al-Anon? It is for families, friends, and loved ones of those with alcohol problems. I STRONGLY recommend it!!

    Also---are you in counseling of some kind? Even if your DH won't go with you, you need to get help and you need someone with training in these matters to listen to you and give you options. If you are a church-goer, your pastor can refer you to someone. The United Way in your town can also give recommendations. Many base their fees on a sliding pay scale so you pay what you can afford.

    Counseling is VERY important right now.

    I will keep you and your children in my prayers.

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    Hugs to you, I'm so sorry. And know that this is NOT your fault. If he can't see the light and change his ways then he's the loser.

    Such sad news though, know we're here for you hun!

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    I am so sorry for what you are going through. He must be in a lot of pain to choose alcohol over his family but that is NOT YOUR FAULT. The choice is being made by him, not you if he refuses to get help.

    You need to see someone for counseling. Leaving a situation like this can have a lot of resulting guilt, which you must work through for you and your children.

    Best of luck and my thoughts are with you.

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    Drugs and alcohol are destroying so many families in our country. I'm so sorry the latter has tainted you and your kids lives.

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    ~I wonder if an intervention may be helpful. Does any of his family live nearby? I'm so sorry you're going through this. ((hugs))~

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    I am so sorry that this is happening to your family. I'm not married to an alcoholic, but there have been more than a few in my family. It is a terrible sickness. I am praying for you, your husband and your children.

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    Been there, done that hon, so I can relate. I had just left mine when he died driving drunk on a motorcycle. Be prepared for a lot of emotions. Divorce is a lot like having someone die, and the grieving symptoms are the same. You might want to go to some al-anon meetings. It will help you with the transition. If your kids are teens, there is al-ateen too. Great organizations!

    I'm here if you want to talk.

    Mega hugs!!!

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    I'm so sorry...these ladies had great advice. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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    I'm sorry that you're going through this. I will pray for strength for you and your family.

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    I'm sorry that you have to deal with this!


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    I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. Prayers and hugs to you.

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    I'm really sorry. I grew up in an alcoholic home and I know how devastating it can be.

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    I am so sorry that it has come to this. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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