Single Mom Myth #: She's Irresponsible

**feibicey** · 07-19-2012, 05:13 AM

Here is myth: the idea that the majority of single moms are single because they are irresponsible, either when it comes to using birth control or in relationships. The truth is that no birth control is 100% effective, with the exception of abstinence, so failed birth control is not to blame for every unplanned pregnancy. In addition, the majority of single moms (45%) are single because of a divorce - in many cases, a divorce they never asked for in the first place.

**LynnLC** · 07-19-2012, 08:49 AM

Never even knew that was a myth. Lol. Never even thought that irresponsibility was the reason for women being single parents.

**stinkbug** · 07-19-2012, 09:11 AM

Huh??? Never heard this *myth* either.....and I was a single mom.

**The Muse** · 07-19-2012, 09:29 AM

This is a new one to me, too!

**LynnLC** · 07-19-2012, 11:37 AM

Originally Posted by stinkbug

Huh??? Never heard this *myth* either.....and I was a single mom.

I'll second that....Huh?

**cab54** · 07-22-2012, 01:11 PM

Geez, all the single Moms I've known are SUPER responsible. They have to be. They are doing everything!

**jeccyka** · 07-23-2012, 06:39 AM

This is totally new ,so what basis on this?

**GirlBoyGirl** · 07-23-2012, 08:08 AM

I've never heard anyone refer to single moms as irresponsible and of course, neither has that thought ever once crossed my mind.

**josantoro** · 07-23-2012, 02:05 PM

I would say it is the deadbeat dads who are irresponsible.

**frugalfranny** · 07-23-2012, 02:13 PM

Originally Posted by josantoro

I would say it is the deadbeat dads who are irresponsible.

OH YEAH........agree with that...........and I knew one once................wwwaaayyyyy back when there was a time limit on collecting child support.

A tough struggle but it gave me some serious training in being frugal...........and we all survived.

**QCmom$$$** · 07-23-2012, 07:16 PM

I'm a single mom because I wanted to. I'd rather to be alone instead to be with the bad partner.

And, I'm responsible for 2. I have never been as responsible since I have to taking care of two children. I work full time, do homework, schoolwork, gardening, shopping, paying bills, have a house to paid, etc. alone so, no I don't believe to this myth and never heard about it before too.

**craftypam** · 07-23-2012, 08:10 PM

I would say it is the deadbeat dads who are irresponsible.

This is more to be the truth is most single mothers I've encountered!!!

**Rhiamon** · 08-15-2012, 06:14 PM

Here is a myth I have the joy of hearing about.
That I did not try hard enough to save my marriage.
That because I am a single mother on disability that I am not responsible or I spend all my money of booze etc. I don't drink and if I do it might be a little bit of wine at Christmas.
That my daughters problems are because I am a single mother even when I tell them it they are issues she was born with and was having problems long before my ex and I were.
Another one I get is because she is an only child that she is spoiled and does not know how to socialize. Her social problems have a lot to do with her issues. Not because she is an only child.
So there are lots of those myths are out there. All I say is opinions are like a$$ holes everyone has one.

**Nana2two** · 08-16-2012, 11:17 PM

With my daughter,she was in a relationship for 10 years engaged. Had 2 sons. The dad cheated 3x's she left. His family says she was imature for leaving the relationship and breaking the family unit.. WHAT??? Now she is a single mom works 2 jobs and starts college. Not easy but she is doing it.She gets upset because the dad gets to take the kids to all the fun places like six flags and places to have, she is missing out because she is working to provide a place to live, food, electricity to stay warm,clothes, doct appointents. While he lives with his dad now married to a Illegal they now have a child and he is isn't working because he doesnt have to pay bills. My daughter has alot on her plate. Its very hard. But she is very strong.

**fernykins** · 08-17-2012, 09:52 AM

I considered myself a single parent....... I was and still is married......haven't lived with him in 8 years. Him and my ex were never there for me or the kids..... I went without. I did everything for my kids. Did I survive. yes Did my kids yes. My second son told his dad he was nothing but a birthday card dad and he knew who raised him. My youngest son had not talked to his dad in 6 years before he died. He has no respect for the man. I am not sorry I had to raised them without a mans help. My sons are fantastic fathers. I know there are a lot of single parents and couples that are not taking care of bussiness, but I have never heard of a myth like that. I think it is how they were brought up.
Fern