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    Ok so the past two months my soon to be ex sent me a whopping $300 each month. Well his amount is to be $840 a month. But I am greatful for every penny I can get from him. I still had a hunch something was up. He either wanted his license back or wanted something. Well today he calls me and tells me that he passed his contractor's license but there was a problem. So I told him, well fix it. lol He said it was up to me to fix it. He said that if I close the child support case, he can get it and provide for the boys. I told him that I know he may have trouble understanding my trust issues, but not giving me any c/support for 9 yrs and all of the sudden giving me two months and then asking me to close the case, makes me uneasy! DUHHH does he think that I am that stupid? I know for sure that I won't get a penny from him now.
    He tells me I was young and made stupid mistakes and I am trying to correct them. So you grew up in a couple of months? No, now you need something, and so now your willing to co-operate as long as you get what you want. Sheesh.

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    Don't do it.

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    Is he a joke or what????? ABSOLUTELY NOT.......

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    no way! Tell him to get a job working nights at McD's, pay you what you're owed then it won't be a support case. Obviously he hasn't grown up that much. Good for you for being the responsible parent!

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    Oh I don't plan to close it. I just hate that my gut feeling was right and it wasn't that he was concerned about his boy's needs, it was that he wanted something in return for paying me those two months! So follow your gut feeling and if you do get something use the money wisely. Pay off a bill, it will make it easier for you to provide more things for your kids if you do that. If you use it on buying the kids extra things that month, then that's all they will get that month. Well that's my plan anyway lol.

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    DONT DO IT! He's just using you once again, dont let him do this to you and your children.

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    I wouldn't do it. You were right to think he was up to something. They are so easy to figure out aren't they?
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    Don't trust him as far as you can throw him.

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    I wouldnt do it, even so most states will not close a case unless all arrears are paid in full and the child/children are grown or custody has been changed.

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    Oh how I am hoping your "CA" is Canada... a 2 for 1 Lynching... I'll get your ex as soon as I am done with Karen's!

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    I wouldn't do it. You're smart.
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    Go with your gut, don't let him use you!!

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    I would tell your case worker what he tried to do. Esp since he supposedly said he can't do what he needs to do to get this job. They can also check to see if he has applied for employment or what w this company-esp if you can get the company names. Otherwise he could be doing fraud.

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    Actually what he wants to do is to get his contractors license. He is here this week to visit the kids. Every single day he has been asking me to close the case. I blew up on one of those days and told him I felt he was not here for the kids, he was here to try to persuade me.

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    Don't do it. Technically he is attempting to blackmail you. Report it to your caseworker and have his wages garnished. If you garnish him you will get your money! Best as I understand it the statute of limitation for back child-support is 20 years. (could be wrong, not positive)

    If he works "under the table" he can also get caught for tax-evasion in addition to non-payment of support. The IRS has no sense of humor about not paying taxes. Just a helpful hint.

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