Stay at home wife.

**jas** · 01-14-2012, 09:48 AM

Originally Posted by June65

thank you so much everyone for the kinds words.

There is no way my company would allow part time, I have asked and they were very angry at me even suggesting such a thing!!

I have been thinking about this for several years, mostly dreaming about it, but now I really like its time for action, the stress level at my job is getting out of control, ( I am very ashamed to say that i will even sneak some nite time liquid medicine to make me sleep at night,since my mind is so full of the days activites..if my husband knew any of this he would be very,very upset with me...I am not proud of this,its embrassing even writing it).

I think its time for me to rethink about my future,and what really is important.money or health????
thank you xxxxxxxxx

June65, if you say your dh would be very upset with you for self medicating for you to sleep at night he sounds like he would be willing to do what it takes for you to feel better. If working makes you so unhappy and would make a world of difference in your health and well being and you can finacially afford it I would certainly have a heartfelt sit down with dh and tell him. You never know he may tell you to give your two week notice right away and that would be one less thing to worry about. If dh loves you (and I am sure he does) he will at least give it some serious thought about you staying home. There are benefits for sure if you do!

**June65** · 01-14-2012, 01:32 PM

good day to every one,

well......... my husband and I had very,long talk today, I told him how unhappy I have been for a long time, about the sleep aides,about how happy I was to have surgry last year since I was home for a while.
I told him I had always dreamed of staying home ,even when I was a child.
He seemed very distressed about the sleep aids, and did not realise how upset I have been..(he throught it was because of the cold weather!!!)
I explained I was at my breaking point.
He said if I want to hand in my notice then just do it when ever I feel it is ready for me, he was sooooooooooo upset about the sleep aid thing,that is what really got to him, I did not want to worry him, but he said its not healthy, and there is no way that i am to do that again.
Just knowing that I am able to do this is making monday more bearable for me.
thank you so much for all the kind words...I am truley a lucky person.

**alotofgooddeals** · 01-14-2012, 02:56 PM

hubby sounds like a good guy...sometimes just explaining how you feel to someone makes a world of difference and just knowing that if need be you can give your notice....that lifts a great burden of your shoulders...so happy for you!

**OOwl** · 01-14-2012, 04:42 PM

June, I recently found myself in your almost same situation (financially able to quit but without a really good reason to do so). I felt so guilty for not being more grateful for a high-paying, secure job in such a bad economy. My children are grown (however, one lives at home to attend law school and an elderly family member also lives with us), but I still really wanted to be a full-time homemaker. My husband ended up agreeing with me (although I do have a part-time, work-from-home job to help with wants). My last day was supposed to be Jan. 15; however, my project I was wrapping up ran late and I will be working through the end of January now. So, we'll be new SAHWs at the same time, it sounds like.

Congratulations on your decision. I know it has to have your heart feeling very light. I hope you'll be very happy. Looking forward to your future updates.

**Sophiasmama** · 01-15-2012, 10:47 AM

Well I think you could very easily stay home, have you talked about it with your DH? Go with your heart and it will not steer you wrong,GL with your decision.

For what it's worth, I work from home and raise our DD, but next year she will be in kindergarten, so I plan on volunteering w/ the school and the hospital, I enjoy being home.

**mombottoo** · 01-15-2012, 12:09 PM

June65 (((((HUGS))))) first

. Would your husband care if you stayed home? If you haven't talked to him you really need to since your decision will affect him too. As some have already said, we only have one life...and, to live our life being miserable just doesn't make sense to me. Perhaps if you could accumulate a large block of time off work and your husband sees how happy you are, it would give you an opening to approach the subject of quitting your job.

Best of luck with your decision....

**mndtrp** · 01-15-2012, 06:51 PM

Originally Posted by mombottoo

June65 (((((HUGS))))) first

. Would your husband care if you stayed home? If you haven't talked to him you really need to since your decision will affect him too.

Her most recent post said she talked to her husband, who said she should do what's best for her health.

There's always the possibility of doing a different job part time. Unless you are working in a one-job town.

**ncarr** · 01-15-2012, 07:43 PM

I'm glad your convo with your husband went well

I would look into a part time job like teaching swimming lessons at a YMCA if you want to contribute a little and get out of the house. I loved working with the kids at the Y

**June65** · 01-15-2012, 07:57 PM

hi all,
well I have decided to talk to my boss next monday,he is away all week, I will give a months notice.I know 2 weeks is the norm, but I just want to give 4 weeks,
my plan is to take the first few weeks take some time for me,
I have already contacted the local hospitable (before the holidays) they said to come in and chat when i am ready, I want to voulnter for a few hrs a week, also the food bank needs hel a few hrs a week.
I think will be enough for the time being.
If I feel that I have to earn some $$ then I will find a part time job ,hopefully in our local grocerry store.
my life is just starting...........cant wait.

**mombottoo** · 01-16-2012, 08:21 AM

That's really great news...all of it!!! May you continue to be blessed in your life and kudos to your dh for being so supportive of you, he sounds like a real gem!

**ferhoodled** · 01-16-2012, 03:04 PM

That's happy news, June65! So glad for you! May you have lots and lots of happiness in your "new" life.

**bookwormpeg** · 01-16-2012, 08:36 PM

That great June65....you are going love staying home. So glad your husband is on board...I worked 20 yrs. same place and it got so bad for the last 10 I would come home and go to bed just about every nite...had to work due to health insurance...turned 64 and retired...I have much more energy, go to bed later, and no stress!! Good luck to you....

**sunflowers*8890** · 01-17-2012, 08:59 PM

What a wonderful thread! I am so excited for you! I recently lost my job after 25 years, a job I hated but kept because of medical benefits. I'm trying to turn my hobby into a business, and I'm so much happier!

Your husband will be happy when you are feeling less stressed, I'm sure it will show. And most people spend much less money when they don't work... you'll have more time around the house to be more efficient.

Also... please let us know your boss's reaction when you give him notice. A month really is generous, because I'm sure you will be anxious to start your 'new life'

**craftypam** · 01-17-2012, 10:13 PM

I am so happy you have come up with a solution that works for you. You have a right to feel the way you feel and also have a right to be happy. Life is too short.
I think you have had 2 jobs all these years; running the budget in such a successful way and your paid job. I have been a stay at home mom; then a stay at home wife and I feel I have earned money by managing it well.