My husband is not supportive of this decision at all. I have 3 kids at home and we can easily afford for me to stay home with them. Does anyone here have a problem with an unsupportive spouse? How do you deal with it?
We are a christian family and I made the decision with a lot of prayer and took the input from my dh. I still feel that it is the best decision to come home with my kids.
Your dh is being unreasonable and so far as some posters thinking your decision is "being defiant"...children are defiant, adults make up their own minds. You talked to your dh, you obviously weren't on the same page and that's okay. Your dh will have to adjust. To expect anyone to do all that you were doing is just ludicrous.
I commend you for standing up for your needs and your children's needs. While you may end up suffering repercussions for your decision in the long run you won't regret it.
I would still check with the fair labor board and I would sue the pants off the school district because they are breaking the law...but, that's just me.
I don't have a lot to say except that I feel for you and I support your decision fully. When no one watches out for you, you have to do that yourself. I'm afraid of what may have happened had you continued to pull yourself in so many directions. My gut says there are other reasons your dh wants you to keep working - maybe he's jealous that you 'get' to stay at home while he works. Maybe he doesn't understand that homeschooling and taking care of the house is a full time job in itself? Honestly, I would suggest counselling for you both. I hope everything works out alright and honestly I really support your decision to quit.
" I guess you would have to know him, but truly he just cares about me making money. He really doesn't see why I can't just do everything. Sometimes, he would get home from work before I did, but I was still expected to make dinner, do dishes, clean the entire house, do school work with the kids, etc. He does absolutely no house work, yard work, cooking, etc. He makes enough money to have $2000 left over at the end of the month after we pay all of our bills, groceries, gas, and tithing to our church."
This says it all. I'm shocked by how many posters on here think this woman should be submissive to a husband who has so little regard for her or the children.
$2000 left at the end of the month? Sounds like he has plenty to pay alimony & child support. Wendy is absolutely right... counseling would be good idea.
This says it all. I'm shocked by how many posters on here think this woman should be submissive to a husband who has so little regard for her or the children.
Considering quite a few people posted before all of the information came to light, I don't see how you can hold them accountable for these thoughts.
I support the OPs decision, but she's got things to work out with her husband. It's apparent he doesn't think he need to do anything beyond bringing home a paycheck. If this arrangement works, fantastic, although it sounds like it doesn't.
I took the time to read all your posts and would have been able to come to my opinion more easily if more information had been included in your original post.
I think you made a great decision for yourself AND your family.
It doesn't sound as if your husband's priorities are where they need to be. I wonder if you tallied up the hours you work as a teacher, as a home maker, and the part time job he wants you to keep... he would realize that you work three times what he does. I hope he comes around to that concept as your situation can brood some resentment for both of you if not taken care of now.
Kudos to you.
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