Young Stay at home wives with no kids here?

**mh3rdwheel** · 08-20-2011, 07:11 PM

Originally Posted by MrsB

What I wanted to know from you all is how do you handle all the flack you get from being a housewife instead of working outside the home?

From a former SAHM, I have never asked another woman why they did not have kids, BECAUSE IT WAS NOT MY BUSINESS TO ASK. I congradulate you for your choices.

**mh3rdwheel** · 08-20-2011, 07:52 PM

Originally Posted by AGierald

hey, im a stay at home wife, with no kids, i do a phone job, in the adult industry, i hope thats okay to say here, lol...

Who is the cute little boy? I DON'T JUDGE NO ONE BY WHAT THEY DO, ONLY BY HOW THEY ACT. I know hookers, strippers,etc. I treat them as I want to be treated. I have never cared what you did for a living only how you are as a person.

**Newsnerd68** · 08-21-2011, 07:56 AM

I'm 43 and I've been a stay at home wife for nearly 9 months now after leaving my job. I never intended to do it this way, but with the job market being what it is....

Most days I am busier than when I was working outside the home. I cook every meal, am continually cleaning (we have a large house that we sort of inherited from DH's parents - long story, but it was a formerly hoarded house, and while it is far from that now, it's still a work in progress), tending 5 dogs (some also "inherited"), doing yard work, and promoting my classes ( teaching belly dance, my part-time work). I also do the grocery shopping and anything else that comes up.

Several years ago, we converted the lower level (of three) of our house to a fully-functioning apartment. Now, my son (27) and daughter in law rent it from us. It's nice having them close and I'm able to tutor my dil in her college English and Sociology classes.

Since I've been out of work, I've been able to clear out a lot of the clutter left behind by dh's parents; stop using the dryer and use a clothesline; cut our expenses by having time to coupon and shop sales, shop thrift stores for clothing, find local sources of food, and doing all the cooking; and just generally make life at home much more pleasant.

We watch less TV (no more cable), get out more, and really appreciate the rare times we get takeout or go out to eat.

Despite how busy I am, my sil and some others, think I do nothing but sleep all day and watch TV. SIL particularly thinks I should be at her disposal whenever she needs me. Just because I don't have a job, doesn't mean I don't have a life.

It would be nice to have the extra income, but we're making it, and the trade-off is pretty sweet.

**annymoll** · 08-22-2011, 12:42 PM

I have been on both ends of the spectrum and have had comments made on both . When I was a wife and mother working full time outside the home I never forgot being chastised for all the hours I put in working to make a living and help put my husband through school that came from stay at home moms. Many of them were living off of government handouts to supplement their household income. As a stay at home wife I have been called spoiled( I have business income that is generated of my own, regardless of whether I work outside the home or not, therefore I am seldom accused of leeching off my husband.) My own opinion is that staying home is much easier than the drama of working outside the home, but it can be a thankless job. I think it works well for me because I am a bit of an introvert.My own opinion is- as long as you live within your means and are self supporting then do as you wish.It is a personal decision.

**UniQ** · 12-16-2011, 03:42 PM

I lost my job in July 2011. Since then I've been taking care of my elderly mom part-time. I plan on taking care of her for the remainder of her life. I'm 45 years old, married, mother of 4 cats (no human children). Hubby and I have no debt and have saved for the last 10 years. I may not return to work after my mom is gone. I love being a SAHW. Although at times it can get lonesome, I've hardly ever bored. I'm either taking care of my mom, my household or my cats. My only gripe is with the few people that have asked me about returning to work and not doing "this" for the rest of my life and have said that I'm too young to retire. Who are they to say or judge others? This decision is ultimately between me and my hubby! My mom is okay with it (finally!) because she realizes that she can live at home as long as possible. I live next door to her. She has an excellent retirement income and quite a bit of assets. So she's been helping with my expenses in return for my help. My hubby is an electrician (in a union), so I'm able to get my medical thru him.

**Sophiasmama** · 12-19-2011, 02:47 PM

People that are secured with their own life decisions do not make comments about what other individuals do with theirs...Whatever makes you happy,do what is right for you. I work from home...and with Sophie going to kindergaten next Fall...that just means I'll be able to volunteer more,while maintaining a home and keeping the family fed. My new favorite quote is..."what other people think of me,is none of my business" Love it!!!

**bookwormpeg** · 12-19-2011, 09:19 PM

Don't know if I would count but I just retired this past June. I love love staying home...I worked most of the time when my children were growing up so this is a joy having no one to care for other then myself and my hubby. I get very annoyed at people constantly asking me "what do you do all day". Somedays I do NOTHING and others I do alot...depends on how I feel. Isn't that what retirement is all about???

**UniQ** · 12-20-2011, 12:47 PM

bookwormpeg -- So even in retirement, people will ask that stupid question!? Why does it matter what you do all day!? The only reason I can think of is JEALOUSY! They DON'T WANT to work, but they HAVE TO work. Guess it's their problem, not ours...but it's still annoying!

**93cherokee** · 02-10-2012, 05:58 AM

Im a recently married and recently jobless house wife due to my pregnancy. I only just started my career as an auto tech when I found out I was pregnant and I can hardly handle it! Lol I mean I would love to be a house wife but its harder then I thought because I love working and its hard to clean recently or even to bend over =P I wouldn't change the fact that Im going to have a beautiful baby girl but I cant see myself getting back to work any time soon because we would have no one to baby sit except my Mother and well its not a very safe option. Do you guys do anything for hobbies??? Just to keep the depression away from being alone for so long