Do you ever feel like you are being lazy???

**cab54** · 11-04-2010, 10:34 AM

I know this is an old thread, but I was a SAHM since before my second child was born. The boys are grown now.

SOME people made me feel as though I was lazy. I did a LOT of self-chastising if I ever sat down, relaxed, took a nap (even if I hadn't slept well), did something I liked, or went to lunch with my Mom, or something. I SHOULDN'T have!!!! I regret now that I put myself through so much anxiety over taking any time to myself as a SAHM After all----working Moms take time to relax!! Granted, they can't do it any time they want (but---neither can we).

I not only took care of my home and gave tons of time to my kids, but I was 'sort of' a babysitter for any working Mom who was going to be late home from work, needed someone to take her kids to hockey practice, had to work on a snow day, had to run to the store after work, whatever..... And I didn't mind! I loved it. Made cocoa and cookies for the kiddies in the 'hood on snow days, dried their winter coats and mittens and had them in my pool all summer long. And sooo many stayed the night all weekend.

But when a Mom said to me later when we were talking about kids "well, YOU only had TWO!" I was taken aback. And kind of pi$$ed. Her oldest two practically LIVED at my house when they were young. I thought NOOOO, you had two kids, I had 10 most of the time.

Don't sell yourself short because you're a SAHM. You are a hostess, taxi service, babysitter, neighborhood watch, waitress, nurse (bandaids on boo-boos), and sometimes a confidante for kids who have a bad home life. If you're not yet, you will be before it's over. YOu are AWESOME, not lazy.

**MomToTwoBoys** · 11-05-2010, 10:52 PM

I always feel like I'm not contributing enough to the household.

I could clean the house from top to bottom, but it's all within the home. I'd love to be able to get out of the house and actually feel like I'm contributing in some other way, shape or form.

Once we move to Edmonton, I'm getting another hobby that's outside of the home. I'm going back to school. Perhaps when I have a job and am contributing more to retirement and such, then I'll feel like I'm not being lazy. There are some days now to where it's not a matter of laziness; It's a matter of not having any energy to get anything done.

**MaryCarney** · 11-06-2010, 09:57 AM

I feel 'lazy' when I have some big project unfinished - but then I look at all the little steps in the process that ARE done, and the feeling goes away!

If I get the important stuff done, it's good.

**Menifeemom** · 11-06-2010, 04:33 PM

Occasionally I feel like I don't contribute enough because I don't bring home a paycheck, but I never feel lazy. I keep house, homeschool 3 kids, and spend so much time making things from scratch to save money that I am often more tired than my hubby when he gets home from work.

**zaxmom** · 11-30-2010, 01:10 AM

I do feel that way a lot. I just have to go somewhere in the morning and that helps me to keep going and get things done. I go to library story times, and it really forces me to have a routine. The days I don't go anywhere, I don't get much done.

**AspiringToBeFrugal** · 11-30-2010, 09:15 PM

I, too, subscribe to the list-making method of remedying my laziness. I have an ongoing list of things "to do". I also pretend I'll be having company and that I want people to see a clean house.

**mom2three** · 12-06-2010, 05:52 PM

Generally not. I have 5 children with special diets. I work very hard. When I sit down, it's usually to eat, pay bills, and nurse the baby. I've learned to focus on what I've accomplished instead of what there is left to do.

**krbshappy71** · 12-06-2010, 06:39 PM

Not being a stay-at-home mom anymore, I'd have to say that there's a lot of pressure from both outside the home and occasionally from family members sometimes for the stay-at-home mom to appear busy, swamped, buzzing constantly or else they will be labeled as "just sitting at home." Having seen both sides of the coin, I know that isn't the truth, but I definitely saw that attitude as a stay-at-home mom and I see it being put on my friends that are stay-at-home. Heaven forbid you should catch up on your favorite shows, curl up with a good book finally after everyone is down for their naps, because that's exactly when you'll be "caught" being "lazy".

**purplestarrynight** · 12-22-2010, 11:32 AM

Originally Posted by Kitten20

I get that feelin' quite a bit. I usually shower and dress and then do what Ann does! Turn on some upbeat music and get movin'.

Happens to all of us.

Yep. That's what I pretty much do. It's been that kind of week for me too. Although I had a busy last two weeks. lol.

**Maisiedotes** · 01-07-2011, 07:21 AM

I feel lazy alot. I have 2 kids, they just turned 1 and 3, that manage to destroy the house constantly. My daughter magically "needs to rest" when it is time to pick toys up. Grrr. So anyway, I am also pregnant and exhausted, and my son is a terrible sleeper, so I am tired on top of being lazy. I have no motivation. I am chronically disorganized which doesn't help either! Sorry- you all don't need me to air my dirty laundry, but it is contributing to my laziness and lack of motivation.

I sometimes laze around till an hour before DH is coming home from work, then I tear through the house, picking up and stuff so he thinks I was hard at work all day. I did get the urge to clean and organize all the kitchen cabinets and de-clutter the hutch, so the rest of the house remained a mess, but the kitchen does look great. I guess I feel like it is useless to clean because immediately there are more dishes to do, more laundry to fold.. it just seems endless.

**jessbernier** · 01-10-2011, 07:14 PM

I think exactly the same way as you AspiringToBeFrugal !

My husband is in the US Coast Guard and is only home a couple days at a time...I always try to switch up what is on my to do list each of the days that he is away.

Day1: Craft Day - aka projects day - getting small projects done around the house.
Day2: Clean Up! Laundry, Dishes, etc.

Sometimes the lazy day(s) just are a must...you need the extra time to relax and catch up with your favorite tv show or perhaps FV Forums