Con Artist in the Family

**buffy871** · 08-21-2010, 08:05 AM

I hate watching what's going on in front of me. My stepdaughter moves from group of friends to group of friends, using them and then moving on. They tend to be adoring males who see no harm in her until she starts the drama. Last week she cost one of them his job.

On a related note, I've informed the step-daughter and roommates that my husband and I are moving next June and they have until then to make other arrangements. I'm so tired of the drama.

**freebs** · 08-21-2010, 10:00 AM

The bad thing is there is not alot you can do about it. I have seen it in my own family by several family members, they move on and when things get to be rock bottom they will finally see there ways!

**Russ** · 08-21-2010, 10:15 AM

You do have some choices...
Stay out of it.
Tell her what you are seeing.
Have your husband say something to her...His job IMO.

**MaryCarney** · 08-21-2010, 01:18 PM

I'm with Russ - sometimes the behavior continues because they think nobody is 'on' to them, and a calling out remedies things.

**frugalwarrior2** · 08-21-2010, 02:44 PM

I think it's quite sad that she feels she has to use and manipulate people that way to get what she wants. Sounds like her moral compass is a gyroscope??

**mauimagic** · 08-21-2010, 03:16 PM

WOW - everyone has said it all. What a sad way to choose to live her life. How old is she? Can't she move out now?.....a trail of destruction in her wake.

**nodmicks** · 08-21-2010, 07:55 PM

Hugs! That has got to be very hard to watch.

**buffy871** · 08-22-2010, 02:52 AM

Everyone in my house has called her on it. It doesn't help. She was raised in a different, hateful family. The reason she's still here is we're giving her until June because of the baby. That way she should have plenty of time to get things together. It's not necessary, but I want my husband to feel better about this. He understands what's happening, but he's the type who thinks everything is his fault. I'm just waiting this out. One of her older friends actually warned one of the new guys that he was being conned, and he gave her free stuff and helped her out anyway. Some guys will shut their brain off for a pretty face and an emo story. We have a solution. It's just stressful waiting. I'm learning patience in a whole new way.

**georgiamom** · 08-22-2010, 12:29 PM

Heck sounds like a lady I work with she uses people till she gets what she wants and tosses them away like a used knapkin. With me I am still stuck with her because we work in the same building. All men that she does favors for. Work and other, but she does not have a pretty face in the least. My dad says some men dont thing about what woman looks like just what she will do. I feel for you my nephew is the same way but he is doing my parents the same way he doing you also. We have tried to get them to open their eyes. He has s son now almost a year old he is noe allowed to see because he will not pay child support, lost his license and how is with another girl who is expecting. On going cycle.