I am really trying not to get discouraged (Way too long)

[IamBlessed]

but the devil has been trying his best to rock my world lately.

Most of you are probably aware of the situation that we are dealing with over my oldest son and my gks. Well, except for the fact that my son still hasn't heard back on job applications and interviews, everything seems to be flowing along in that situation. However, his having a job is a biggie, don'tcha think? ~~ Downer #1, but I'm claiming him a job before next week is out.

Downer #2 ~~ My father is, how do I put this delicately????, just about psycho. Honestly, he is irascible, mule-headed, cusses like the sailor he was, ill-tempered, and a bully who stays mad at the world if things don't go his way. Not to mention he's an indiscriminate hound who has fathered two illegitimate kids with a woman who graduated with my sister! Those redeeming qualities aside, he likes to vent on my mother. He does not physically abuse her; he knows there would be an immediate reckoning from the family. He goes after verbally, pushing her buttons to try and get a rise out of her and she reacts every time. I know it's her fault in staying although she says she wants to leave. Both I and my sister have offered her a place in our homes. My son has offered to let her stay over there with him. Mother does not want to be a burden and...to be honest...I don't think she wants to leave. I can understand her staking a claim and not letting him just get the house, property etc. and let him get his way financially. But, I cannot understand why she won't see a lawyer, divorce his butt (Lord knows, she has sufficient grounds) and get some peace in her life. We keep telling her that we cannot make these kinds of decisions for her. She's gonna have to make up her mind on this for herself.
Downer #3~~ My younger son, age 19, has pushed my last button patience-wise. He is a lazy, arrogant, manipulative, smart-aleck, know-it-all who thinks his age makes him a man. Soooo, the "Man" doesn't think that he should have to contribute to the household by doing chores. He believes that he can keep his own hours, set his own agenda, and do things his way without consideration or courtesy for other people. He, in the last two days, has had the nerve to cuss me, flip me off, tell me that I'm crazy, and try to take my car keys from me because "I'm not being rational." translation- I'm asking him questions and telling him things that he doesn't want to hear.

I actually had to call my dh at work today because this 19 year old CHILD, who is obviously a changeling, was trying to intimidate me and act a fool. I don't want to hurt him, but I will do what I have to in my own household. I refuse to take anymore junk. He has gotten away from church. He's taken up smoking; which is something that I cannot support in my family because of a myriad of reasons. It just seems like he is bound and determined to flat out forget anything that he learned growing up. But, he wonders why we don't treat him with "respect" and "like he's a man."

Sorry, I've vented way too much and given ya'll more information than is desired about the continuing saga that is my life at this moment. I'm asking for prayers. I know that's all that is gonna help matters over all.

On the up side??? I can make a mint selling lemonade; I've gotten a truckload of lemons, lately.

Now I'm off to put out some fires because I'm the Nana and can handle everything...Yeh, I'm being taken advantage of somewhat. But there really is no one else to help handle these situations at this time and I cannot let family go ignored. Dh and I are going to have a loooong talk with both sons ASAP. It's "Come to Jesus Time" and we both are preaching.

Be blessed; I'm gonna be, in spite of everything.

Di

[joyofsix]

Hugs and prayers!

[starsapphire]

Hugs to you. Are you one of my sisters? I swear your father is extremely similar to mine except he's ex Air Force and my parents divorced many years ago and my father has been re-married for almost as long and he just rags and rags on my stepmom (as well as the rest of us, when he can). I can sooo relate.

[cab54]

I don't know what you should do about any of them, I have some of the same and different family types. But anyway.

[Katybird]

I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts. I hope that things get better for you soon.

[COUNTRYBUMPKIN]

I just want to give you a HUG and let you know that you will be in my prayers. Please, take care!

[suebeehoney]

Hugs and prayers, Di!

I think your DS19 and my DD20 may have been separated at birth....all except for the disrespect thing - is it possible for bald-face lying to be considered respectful, though?

[Dixie]

and lots of prayers!

[Missourimom]

You poor thing...it sounds like you sure have a lot going on. I hope everything will settle down for you soon. Prayers.

[jamie79]

[Megareader]

Wow...you sure do have a lot to deal with. I wish I had some suggestions.

[DJ1972]

Praying for some sane times to come your way soon. It sounds like your DH is on your side and is going to be helpful with your sons. I was an ill tempered know it all teen, I never cussed my mom, but I did talk down to her and she let me get by with way too much. Funny thing, when you hit your 20's and start a family of your own, your parents suddenly don't seem like the idiots you thought they were.....and as your own kids get older and more trying, your parents get smarter. amazing

prayers are with you

[Michelle68]

Sending you lots of hugs . My 37 y.o. brother was a lot like your 19 y.o. DS when he was that age. He is now a great guy who works hard and shows mucho respect to our mama. There is hope. Good luck!


--Michelle

[nuisance26]

~What a host of trials you're going through right now. I've prayed for you and your family. Hope the family discussion goes well.~

[Suzi T.]

Sounds like the "man" of the house needs HIS own house! ASAP If your "come to Jesus" meeting doesn't turn out like you want, the Sherrif's department can escort him to the edge of town......just a thought.