Oooooh, am I in a bad mood

[cab54]

I'm very seldom grumpy, but when I am........ Grrrrrrrrr............

It seems to me like everyone in my life thinks I was put on earth to serve them. Or take care of them. From the time I get up in the morning till the time I go to bed (to hide), I am on 'the hook' to people. The instant I'm around, apparently everyone's arms and legs become paralyzed.

I don't mind 'being there' for people, I just wish they wouldn't take complete advantage of it.

Rant over.

[Moor]

Cheryl, I feel for ya!

[starsapphire]

If I feel good inside about doing something for someone else when asked, I'll cheerfully do it. But if I feel put upon, they'll get "the kitchen's that way (pointing)" or "I'm busy right now", "What, are your legs broken, go get it yourself" or just plain old NO. I had to learn the hard way that its okay to say NO without any explanations. If you try to explain they will just do their best to shoot down all your reasons why not. Give it a try, you will be pleasantly surprised. And don't give in to any attempts to guilt you, that's just a manipulation.

[voodidit]

Sorry you are feeling grumpy today! I hope tomorrow is better!

[madhen]

I'm a little more passive aggressive. I have found that saying, "Oh, yeah, no problem, it's not like I have a lot to do" in a voice that is literally saturated with sarcasm usually works.

[cab54]

madhen--LOL! I'll have to try that one. Thanks you guys.

[tbs727]

I'm seriously miffed at my husband so I'll join you here on the mad thread today. I hope things get better for you.

[Michelle]

Oh do I know just how you feel!

I declared this past summer as "the summer of independence" and had my kids do a lot more for themselves and around here.

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

[Darlene]

So ya going to go on strike? I did that once.

[Lady_V]

I'm still on partial strike... I won't do what they are capable of doing and just too lazy to.

[rosey7415]

"no" is really a complete sentence. once you learn to say it.... your life will be much easier!!

once you start saying it....... you also get better at it.......

[nvmommyx6]

So ya going to go on strike? I did that once.

I am rolling reading this....here is a pasted post of mine from a few months back on a lesson plan for my family and crap I have done because I was feeling this way!!

We'll have several lessons Today! I am in somewhat of a "mean Mommy"
Mood so this aught to be interesting!!

Lesson 1. How to teach Children to clean their rooms-

Upon several days of warnings, requests and threats, always remember
to follow through with the threats! The day before your about to blow your
lid, warn them one last time that "when I clean this room, everything you
own will be gone!"
The following morning, wake earlier than normal, eat plenty of
breakfast for the energy you'll need for the task ahead of you!
Enter room waking sleeping children rudely as such, " Getcher butts
outta bed, we have work to get done this morning and this aint taking up my whole
damned day!!!" Make sure you are yelling at this point, it comes across clearer while
they are still half asleep!
Open the bedroom window, remove the screen and hand them shovels
or just use your own! Start shoveling their belongings out the window as you would a pile of crap! Because, lets face it, to treat things that way, you'd have to be thinking it was crap! When they have to go retrieve their things from outside, they learn to pick those rooms up regularly!

Lesson 2- How to get Children to eat their vegetables-

Getting children to eat healthier foods is quite a simple task. You just let them know that what is made for dinner is what IS for dinner. Their are 3 choices for this activity. 1. You will eat what I made for dinner. and 2. You will not eat dinner!! The second option here is to gently let them know this, " You'll eat what I on your plate or I will dip you another helping" Make sure you have a spoon full of those veggies in hand when you say that for full affectiveness!!
But in all seriousness here, you could also smother the veggies with velveeta cheese, this one always woks very well too!!

Lesson 3. How to get Children to do a chore when asked-

Simply let the child know what their expected chore is to be. Give them a 15 minute head start, then enter their room, unplug the video game console and throw it out the window. This is the most effective method I have found thus far through 15 years of motherhood and 6 children!! If this method does not work, take the phone or phone jack or both, computer, television or any other distraction from their chore and throw those out the window as well! you surely will make a strong point with this one!!

Lesson 4. Getting children to go to bed on time-

This is a hard task sometimes! I, However, am on a strict regular scheduale, I sleep from midnight to 4am!! Teenagers are the most difficult in this stage but this task can be accomplished very swiftly! Purchase a air horn from the boating section of your local walmart, take it in to the children's rooms (no matter what time they chose to go to bed you must adhere to this structure) at 6am and blow it loud and clear until they are up and running!! There will be no napping durring the afternoons for this excersize!
Let them go to bed whenever they dicide to again the following evening then of course awaken them with that trusty air horn at 5am the following morning. This should prove enough for them but take teenagers into consideration here and go for 4am on the 3rd morning! This should just about do it, if you can combine lesson 1 with lesson four, you will be," Killing 2 birds with one stone." So to speak!!

Lesson 5. How to get children to pick up after themselves-

It took me some time to figure this one out myself so dont get discouraged if your not successful right away!
When a child leaves their dirty dishes, utensils and cups for you to clean for them simply take the stack of filth and set it gently on the middle of their bed. If your children like to take their shoes, socks, clothing of any kind, toys, backpacks, school books etc. right in the middle of your nice clean livingroom floor, simply pick the items up and throw them in a large black trash bag while the children are not present, take them to your camper or storage shed and hide them there. When the children run out of clothes, shoes, socks, toys and have no clue where their home work is, only then will you take them to retrieve these items they wont likely keep leaving them laying around!!

And our final lesson for today is.....

Lesson 6. How to teach your children to respect you-

After having worked your butt off all those years just to have your children turn into disrespectful young humans, follow this rule to the T and I guarantee complete success from not only your children but the spouse as well!!
1. Simply pack your belongings, move yourself right outside into your nice cozy camper, plug you camper electriity into the home and the drainage into the septic lines for maximum comfort!
2. Make yourself a sign, a very large sign to hang on the front of the camper that says this, " Mommy on strike, No children, tresspassing or soliciting aloud" Remember when your spouse comes out begging dont give in, you have to be strong on this lesson! If they come out and ask you what is for dinner, simply tell them, "I'm having (their fav dish) what are you guy's having?"!!!
3. Live quietly and peacefully in your cozy camper, showering in there, sleeping in their, cooking your own private little meals in there, right down to watching TV and playing games, all by your peacefull self in your cozy camper!!
4. Play a little hard to get when your whole family comes begging at the door with tears for you to move back into the house!
This lesson is the one that has worked wonders for my family! It has proved to be the most effective way to accomplish many difficult tasks in the home life!

Good Luck,
Mommy