Step-dad lost his battle to cancer

**Mom23boys** · 09-06-2009, 07:16 PM

My step-dad lost his battle to cancer on Monday morning. I was with him all weekend and did not want to leave because I knew it would be any minute. We finally left late Sunday night and my niece woke me up early Monday monring with the news. I know he is in a better place, but I am selfish and did not want him to go. He was only 61 and had lung, bone, and liver cancer and 1t was just too much for one man to bare. I will miss him as he is the dad I never had. Don't get me wrong, my sister and I do have a dad, but he signed his paternal rights away when I was 4. I do see him from time to time because we live in the same town, but it is not the same as he had no part in raising me and being there for me when I needed that fatherly figure. My step-dad was an wonderful man. There will never be another one like him.

The sad thing is the vultures are already hoovering over my mom ready to swoop down and take his possessions. I can't believe people are so greedy! Before he was even buried, they had their trucks backed up to the front door. Of course, my uncle did not let anyone come in or take anything. I am now worried about my mom. She isn't just grieving the loss of her husband; she has to worry about who will try to come in and 'rob' her. He did have a will and left everything to her, except a few personal items. Hopefully once everyone gets what he wanted them to have, they will leave her be.

**AmyBoz** · 09-06-2009, 08:21 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

I'll be thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.

**mauimagic** · 09-06-2009, 08:26 PM

I am so sorry for your loss- he sounds like a wonderful person. Take care of yourself and your mom.

**Brighid** · 09-06-2009, 09:13 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss! I know friends who've experienced the same thing with family, after a death.

They say that weddings and funerals bring out the worst in people. That seems to apply here.

I hope she deals with them easily and doesn't let them interfere with her time she needs to grieve the loss of her husband.

Thoughts out to you all.

**Dixie** · 09-06-2009, 10:09 PM

I'm so sorry.

**frugalfranny** · 09-07-2009, 03:25 AM

So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

Take care of yourself and watch out for your mom during this trying time. She will need you there.

**Monner 1** · 09-07-2009, 08:00 AM

I am sorry to hear of your step-dad's passing. Take care of yourself and your Mom and make sure the others don't take advantage of her during her grieving period. Blessings being sent your way.

Monner

**TheRootedNomad** · 09-07-2009, 08:56 AM

I am sorry for your loss.

**Lora88** · 09-07-2009, 09:03 AM

So sorry for your loss hold on to the good memories and know that he is in a better place. Having lost my own dad in june I know how much this hurts try to remember the last thing he would want was for you to be unhappy Stay strong and keep your chin up

**pinetree** · 09-07-2009, 03:08 PM

I am so sorry for your loss.

**miss_thrifty** · 09-08-2009, 09:13 AM

hugggsss sweety. Im so sorry .I feel for you all during this time.
I know sometimes it brings out the worse instead of them being there physically and emotionally. I do understand how u feel and what your going through. I also lost 3 in my family to cancer and pain of missing them bur knowing that they aint suffering anymore.
I know that He's watching over you right now and hugging you all and thanking your mom for being apart of his life.
Huggsss dear for what's ahead of you and your family. Stay strong Michelle. Were right here with ya.