Clearly he's decided it's over - so I'm sorry but you have to let hope go that the relationship can be saved. This is not the time for recriminations about who's fault it is either, though I really don't believe it's *all* yours.

And this is coming from a person who initiated his own divorce for many of the same stated reasons your to-be-ex gave. My ex failed to listen to me when I said things weren't working too - but that didn't make it all HER fault either.

So - now it's fight time - and I'm sorry. Make sure your attorney is a pitbull. Even if you keep it out of court, you want a pitbull on your side making sure you at least HEAR the extreme advice. You can always say no to the ideas he or she may have, but if you never hear them you can't decide on them.

The good news is - he's hearing your complaints. Leverage his sympathy and guilt NOW - it won't last long. The KIDS are top priority - make sure they are cared for and protected. You CAN get through this and come out the other side stronger, better and wiser. This is the part where pain happens - but this part will end and then you'll begin to move on.