Update had to go to ER

**klean163** · 10-19-2011, 10:25 AM

I'm so sorry you and your DD are going thourgh this. You and DD are in my prayers. Remember take care of you also she needs you.

**Rhiamon** · 10-22-2011, 08:50 AM

DD is home for a weekend pass, if all goes well she should be discharged this week coming. We have a huge meeting Monday at the hospital with her Dr,s Nurses, Child and youth workers, me, my ex, my mom, two people from the school and her pathways worker (whom is not helpful at all and I will say as much at the meeting.) They have changed DD meds and there is a noticeable difference. She says she feels better and feels a little more control over herself. She still says though that she feels like she is on a roller coaster through out the day that gets really high and falls really fast. So I will mention this to the Dr.s on Monday.
If there is any behavioral problems this weekend I have to take her back asap. If she won't go willing I have to call 911. So I am trying to think positive that things will go well. It is hard for me to relax though all though I am trying. It has been so many years on high alert and setting the door and patio alarms that I can't seem to let my guard down. I know that sounds awful.
Thank you all for all the support and prayers. It means the world!!!!!

**auntie2many** · 10-24-2011, 11:27 AM

Hello Rhiamon, I have been thinking of you and your daughter this weekend and wondered how all went when she was home on the weekend pass from the hospital?

A2M

**peanut** · 10-24-2011, 11:33 AM

I'm hoping all went well as well.

**Rhiamon** · 10-25-2011, 04:35 PM

Things went well so DD was discharged yesterday and had a tantrum yesterday night, after the drs say she has not shown any signs here.
So at the discharge meeting I was told her ADHD is on the severe side, and that her LD and the time she takes to process information is in the 7th percent so they said that the things she hears and sees is her brains way of trying to process everything through out the day. It is hard they said because her vocabulary and her oral comprehension is on the superior side. Her pathways worker who I don't like was no help and said well you knew that. I said I didn't know there was such a huge gap. She goes we told you I said no you told me there was a gap but failed to explain that it was that large. I said okay then can we have a behaviorist come back into our home. The last time I had someone in she was 6. She goes fine but they are not going to teach you anything the last one didn't teach you. So they were the ones when she tried to stab me told me to lock my knives up and lock her in her room. (which is illegal to do in my city CAS can be called on you for that) So I am done with them and have gotten heavy into reading anything I can get my hands on. Her temper happens out of pure frustration. I have to have her on a strict schedule and very very strict concussions for behavior.
I have to basically cut out all tv, she is not allowed to hear or see the news because she can't processes it. Her new meds are helping A LOT!!! I have to give constant praise for behavior. Her teacher was at the meeting as well as the LD teacher. They are going to modify her IEP a huge amount and next year she will go half days at her home school and half days at a LD school.
They are going to put in for equipment for her to have at school that she can type and talk into. I am allowed to send her home work in typed. They suggested I get her a typing program to help her learn to type because she will need it.
I am glad to have her home and that the drs were able to help. I am so PO'd at pathways so I am going to wait a bit and ask them to close her file because they have been NO help. At the meeting she also acted (the pathways worker) like she has been this huge help and she hasn't. Since DD was 6 we have been involved with pathways and this worker has made me feel and told me the DD's (now 8) problems have been all my fault. That because I have a mental illness that I am not doing a good enough job. Where as the Dr at the meeting said she was born this way. That I am doing a great job as a mother. I even told her that when I went into the hospital DD said she didn't even know that I was "sad"
I am looking for printable reward charts that I can hang up and put stickers on every time she does something she is asked with out a fight.

I am exhausted, I have not dealt with my drs or workers since all this happened because I am not very happy with my new treatment team or my Dr. The new dr changed my meds that were working two weeks after I was discharged from the hospital and they are not working. So I called my family Dr. and have an appointment this Friday. I just want to sleep the rest of the year away. I made a great friend at the hospital and she is paying for me to have a gym membership so we go together I go almost every day and try to take my frustration's out at the gym and not on my self by self harming. So far it is going okay, and I feel good when I leave.
So I guess you could say it is still a huge roller coaster ride.

**peanut** · 10-25-2011, 07:22 PM

So sorry you're going through this Rhiamon. I, too, suffer from mental health issues. I ended up homeschooling my two girls through to university. You know it was the best thing we did for all of us. Aside from having a lot of fun and learning lots, we grew close as a family again. It certainly doesn't seem to have hurt the girls. One is a supervisor at work and the other is steadfastly avoiding the responsibility (I blame it on her age and personality).

There are many ways to learn something, and with your DDs LD issues you are right to be reading all you can find right now. It might be worth it to read some on learning styles too. [ame="http://www.amazon.ca/They-Learn-Cynthia-Ulrich-Tobias/dp/1561794147"]The Way They Learn: Amazon.ca: Cynthia Ulrich Tobias : Books@@AMEPARAM@@http://img.amazon.ca/images/I/51y18CRBBjL.@@AMEPARAM@@51y18CRBBjL[/ame] by Cynthia Ulrich Tobias is a great place to start learning how you can reach her academically and otherwise. You should be able to get the book through your library...or for 1 cent used on Amazon! If you're going to have her at home part time learning, it helps to know more about her learning style.

I hope you keep us up-to-date about how things are going.

ETA: there is also a book called [ame="http://www.amazon.ca/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1319585030&sr=1-1"]Nurture by Nature: Understand Your Child's Personality Type - And Become a Better Parent: Amazon.ca: Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron-Tieger, E. Michael Ellovich: Books@@AMEPARAM@@http://img.amazon.ca/images/I/51X2sWZYatL.@@AMEPARAM@@51X2sWZYatL[/ame] by Paul Tieger and wife that is really good on raising kids according to personality type.

**Incognito** · 10-27-2011, 10:38 AM

Here are a few charts I found by typing in "free children's progress charts":

Free Behavior Charts | LoveToKnow

http://www.goalforit.com/chore-chart.html

Free Behavior Charts

http://www.parents-in-a-pickle.com/s...rt_younger.pdf

http://www.parents-in-a-pickle.com/s...hart_older.pdf

Behavior Charts - Free Printables - Behavior - Child - Printable - Behavior Charts for Kids - Computer Printer Picture Graphics

Stickers can be found at the dollar store.

I've been reading your thread, and understand a lot of what you are dealing with in raising your daughter.
Do you have a church? I found that memorizing Scripture helped my son to cope with his own mental illness, as a child and as an adult, while we dealt with behavior mod, practitioners and meds.
Empowerment through faith gave him hope, and continues to be his lifeline.

**peanut** · 10-27-2011, 12:17 PM

I second that Incognito. Faith has made a huge difference to how I handle and cope with my mental illness. I surrounded myself with scripture in the house, Christian music and literature, and the Bible. I made sure I had lots of time to nurture myself.

**shoiji** · 11-11-2011, 01:32 PM

Really hope you are getting the help and relief you need. How is your daughter doing now?

Someone else posted on a previous thread about your daughter to check for inflammation. I have many food allergies. My world of known foods for me has become smaller and smaller. It took years for me to realize I am extremely allergic to nightshades, tomatos, potatos, peppers, etc. I do not go into shock but it affect my way of thinking and skin.

Sending hugs your way and truly hope things start to calm down for you and your daughter. Am glad to hear that your ex seems to be taking more of an active role in helping.

**peanut** · 11-11-2011, 06:02 PM

shoiji: thanks for posting that. I've been wondering the same thing. I just recently went under the care of a naturopath and it turns out I have problems with wheat, which can manifest in mental health issues.

**Rhiamon** · 11-15-2011, 04:14 PM

So it has been a while since DD has been discharged. Things have been going pretty well. A few violent outbursts but nearly as many as before. She has been listening like a typical 8 year old now, and sleeping.
I don't have a church but have found strength with in my belief system.

I have been taking it easy trying to catch up on everything I have fallen behind on.

**shoiji** · 11-17-2011, 12:24 PM

Good to hear your daughter is doing better. I hope once the old medication is out of her system she can start to really flourish! You have been through an up-hill battle trying to help your daughter. Sending warm thoughts your way. You are doing great!