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    I've been on this forum for quite awhile and have pretty much been more of an observer than a participant. Yall have made me cry, laugh, shake my head in amazement and or delight. And I have learned so much.

    I'm very quiet and reserved so this is extremely hard for me to bring up and put out there. If this gets long I apologize in advance.

    I was orphaned at 7 so never really had anyone to teach or mentor me. I've made plenty of mistakes but I did manage to get where I am today so I must have done something ok with my life. I'm twice divorced. First one lasted 10 years, second marriage 12 years. I have huge trust issues. Been single for 13-14 years so have created a niche for myself.

    I have a DD and 2 DS's, also 2 grands .My DS's are doing fine with their lives. My DD has been in a group home for 9 years (mentally challenged, etc). She was been asked to leave 2 homes because of her behavioral problems. She is 30. There is nowhere else for her to go. In November she came to live with me.

    My life has become a living hell. She has issues I can't even begin to describe. She is angry 24/7, she's a cutter, she's requires 24 hour supervision. She is in a day program but I'm afraid they are going to ask her to leave that. I've lost my job because of the time I've had to take off continually with her. I've lost all my friends because of her behavior. Financially we're ok(thank god). She starts therapy sessions next week, but she lies.... a lot.

    I guess I'm not asking for advice, just an ear once in awhile for me to vent. Yall don't realize what you mean to me. I feel I have friends here. I know I've rattled on some and I do apologize.
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    I am one of the lurkers here, but wanted to let you know that I am sending a big hug from Pennsylvania. I hope her therapy sessions help. Is there any other social service available to help both of you?
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    I'm sorry. That sounds very difficult. Does she take any medications to help with her behaviors?

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    Hugs! We are here to lend a ear when you need one. Hugs

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    Yes she takes Serzone (sp) and Paxil. She will be getting reevaluated for meds by her psychiatrist.
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    Also mainly a lurker. Lots of hugs and positive thoughts going your way!
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    I am so sorry. I wish I could just let you know of a place that could help your daughter, but I don't have any knowledge. Just keep writing in, and letting us know how it goes. Lots of caring folks on here!
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    Sending prayers up for both of you.

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    Sooooo sorry for what you are going through. Hopefully the therapy and maybe fixing meds will help. I sure hope so because all that you have been through in life; you sure don't deserve to be this unhappy. HUGS, HUGS AND MORE HUGS

    AND I also did not think you were rambling!!!!

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    So glad that you feel comfortable enough to open such an important part of your life to us. And may I add that you seem to have a lot going for you.

    Am so glad that her Meds are going to be reevaluated - definitely first on my list of ideas. It seems to be such a challenge in so many places as to support for adults with disabilities. Are there any groups in your area that could help you? Now I know that you are not looking for ideas,etc.....but you know me.....this is one of my passions.

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    Ive pretty much exhausted all resources here. With so many gov cutbacks. It is bare bones. I can't even get respite for a day or night.
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    is her father able to take her for a few days at a time to give you a break?

    this sounds so rough - i'm sorry you're struggling with this. Many, many hugs.

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    Oh my! You do have alot on your plate! HUGS to you, and please....absolutely know we're here to listen anytime. Actually, glad to do so! It makes a girl feel better to be able to talk. Hope things get better for you soon!

    Take care!

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