Feeling a bit uneasy...Updated further down, pray please!!!

**guest2** · 03-07-2004, 12:00 PM

My hubby just left to take the twins to church with him and I'm home with Jaysn who is feeling ill. Hubby will be gone until about 2 p.m. or a bit later. The man who had been causing problems lives not too far from us. He will be done preaching at around noon. Hubby and I are both a bit worried that he will call or just show up here at the house when he learns that he has been caught in yet another lie by the other family that is also involved.
He is NOT going to be happy at all that the other family and ours have come to a decision that is not in his favor.

Please pray that this guy will just leave us alone. Hubby has said that we are not allowing anyone in their family in our home for awhile until SM apologizes and admits to what he and his son have done. I just have this nagging feeling that this guy is going to try and pull something today....

**Heather** · 03-07-2004, 12:02 PM

Praying that you do not hear from him!

Sending you big hugs Debbie!!!!!

**Katybird** · 03-07-2004, 01:01 PM

I have the cape ready

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I will be lifting in prayer today. I know that God will protect you from SM and his family, (but if needs a little earthly help, remember the cape, LOL).

**guest2** · 03-07-2004, 01:24 PM

Thanks Ladies!!!!

These are the times I wish I had a big dog like Gypsy!!!

**KKCondrey** · 03-07-2004, 01:37 PM

Debbie.

You can borrow Speedy if you want. She may be a bassett hound but she scared off some door to door carpet cleaner salesman yesterday afternoon

**guest2** · 03-07-2004, 01:57 PM

Send her on over Kat!!!!

I do have a rather vicious cat I can throw at him if he shows up.

**voodidit** · 03-07-2004, 05:54 PM

What did Speedy do...lick him to death

**canadian gardener** · 03-07-2004, 06:11 PM

Praying Debbie, been praying all weekend for you and for this situation, just got back, and checking up to see you are oK actually.

Love and a big hug. You don't have to open the door to him. He is not a person who is welcome in your home right now, due to behaviour problems, so you aren't being mean or awful if you just don't answer the door or come to the door.

If he persists, call police.

**guest2** · 03-07-2004, 06:47 PM

Hubby got home and we have had no call or has SM shown up here. We know that he had a potluck or something at his church after service so that kept him busy. I'm relieved that he was busy!!!

We talked to the other family that is involved and they have not heard from him even though they left a message for him and his wife yesterday morning to call them. They are pretty fed up with everything too. They still have some things they would like to discuss with him and his wife, but we do not need to be there.

Thanks for all your prayers and support. They and you mean so much to me and my family!!!

**guest2** · 03-07-2004, 07:23 PM

UPDATE: SM called the other family at 4:40p.m. saying he wants to meet this afternoon. The hubby in that family called here and I had Jeff return the call. They both feel that this is really short notice and Jeff told them that since SM said "I don't want to talk to Jeff, why would I want to talk to him" with Jeff standing right there on Thursday night and since SM refuses to apologize to me, we are done. SM will not listen to us and Jeff said he will not put me through any more. Jeff also pointed out to the other hubby that since he (other hubby) is a elder in a separate church, we are praying that SM will listen to him since he considers DH "below him". The other hubby completely understood and said they were going to run with that and they'll let us know how things went. I think SM is in for a rude awakening tonight because this other man does not mince words and won't put up with nonsense.

I'm just praying for their protection and ours as well. I have no idea how SM and his family are going to take this and if we either get an angry call from them or they show up here later tonight.
DH said if they do show up, they will be asked to leave and if they do not we may have to call the police.

**BlessedMommy** · 03-07-2004, 08:52 PM

((((HUGS)))) and more prayers, Debbie!

**canadian gardener** · 03-07-2004, 08:56 PM

I'll keep praying Debbie. It'll soon be done with, and they'll stop bugging everyone. People who throw tantrums...

Oh well, they won't be running your life or even be part of it much longer.

Their loss. and your gain, plus you come out of this with a much better working knowledge of boundary issues. When you re read the book Boundaries, you will have experianced it first hand.

I'm willing to bet, you wouldn't have opted for first hand experiance but once you've got it, you will have wisdom etc forever from this.

That's how I feel from our problem time with the problem person.

I gained a richer deeper understanding of human nature, what I will and won't allow from the get go,

and even more--- the knowledge that I won't fall apart and nobody will hate me if I do challenge and deal with someone like this in future.

I fought the bully, and I won. It's not a bad feeling to take away.

(To the tune of "I fought the law and the law won)

**guest2** · 03-07-2004, 10:20 PM

Ladies!!!!!

**lucy979** · 03-08-2004, 03:43 AM

I hope it all works out for you guys! I know you are sick and tired of dealing with this guy.

**Katybird** · 03-08-2004, 09:46 AM

Debbie, I am so glad to hear that you and Jeff are through with SM and his family. They have caused your family so much pain and suffering with their antics and you will be so much better off without the stress of the SM and his family.

I will continue to lift you and your family up in my prayers and to keep you close in my thoughts and heart.