I am so disappointed -

**kimmee** · 12-10-2004, 11:15 PM

I have been busting my butt to generate income - I have sold my things, I have been selling crafts , now my mom is here and she is putting in to our fund - I kill myself to keep the houseclean and take care of the animals, and keep the kids and mom out of Bruces way - I bust mty ass to keep things from setting him off  and he (and his mom) always make me feel guilty about not working out of the home to bring in money. well tonight we totalled stuff up to see where we stand on bills and I am generating more income than he (with absolutely no say at all) so he made a remark ( I can't  even remember what it he said ) and I said - totally with a laugh in my voice - hey at least I am bringing in as much as you or maybe more - and he freaks out slams his beer and says maybe you should try getting out and actually working for a living!! I said - why are you mad and I keep the house clean - he threw his chair stomped out of the room and said I am F'ing done - you don't even know HOW to earn money...

What the hell?? I know he was drinking - but he went from talking to pissed in a flash and just said a bunch of bull shit hurtful things - I am so confused...

Right now I just hate people - Bob was a complete Ass for no reason when I dropped the kids off - he was rude and condescending.

My mom has been pouting and saying "what about me??" ever since the kids got home from school (she actually had the cajones to say tonight that she thought she was the only person she knew who wasn't self-centered - LOL) and then Bruce acts like this...

I used to think that his masculinity was "in jeopardy " if I did something better than him but now I realize - its something else he truly feels (like Bob did) that I don't earn my way. You know all he does all day is drive from one stop to the next - he never lifts a box or even gets out of his truck - he eats lunch out and he sleeps for 1 1/2 hours everyday on his shift. He thinks I just eat Bonbons all day (no really he thinks I just sit on the computer) he never acknowledges that the house is clean, the laundry is done, dinner is made, the animals are fed, the kids homework gets done, I make my crafts and read at night, I don't watch tv cuz it wastes time  and now I am caring for my mom. I actually rode along with him a couple of times to see how his day went and why he likes his job so much. I volunteer at school and work the cafeteria when called in. How can he assume I don't work?? Granted I enjoy my life - but I enjoy just about everything and everybody - until today...

and now I am worrying about those of you awho are saying I told you so, Kimmee, you bullheaded idiot - and yeah maybe you are right but I could not see another option...

Its the same thing with me always - OH I don't want to offend anyone, I don't want to say no, this isn't for me  (this situation, this relationship, etc.) I just go with it and hope for the best... 

**Dixie** · 12-10-2004, 11:18 PM

**niceday** · 12-11-2004, 06:15 AM

Lots and Hugs and Love to you Kimmee, now take a deep breath and count to 10 and tell yourself its gonna be a better day, a better day........a better day. You are one strong , tough and motivated lady Kimmee remember that. linda

**COUNTRYBUMPKIN** · 12-11-2004, 06:24 AM

This ones for Bruce Kimmie

And heres for you. Bruce needs to grow up and start acting like a real man and being supportive to you for all you do.

**Julia Kimber** · 12-11-2004, 07:35 AM

Kimmee! Things will turn out right for you soon. You work very hard as far as I can see!
Julia

**kaykwilts** · 12-11-2004, 08:24 AM

I don't know what to say to you except give you a big

I don't think the situation would be better if you had a job outside the home because then he would complain about all the things not gettting done like a clean house and a good meal.

**SewCrafty** · 12-11-2004, 08:47 AM

Too bad you and Bruce couldn't do a role reversal for just one day and see if he can get everything done that you do in a day!

MEN!!

Big

Kimmee

**dz_blonde_girl** · 12-11-2004, 10:42 AM

I understand exactly where you're at, Kimmee. I wish I had some advice.

**DaisyLady** · 12-11-2004, 11:36 AM

**duckduckgoose007** · 12-11-2004, 02:44 PM

I think "BRUCE" needs a little "Tune-up"

**Katybird** · 12-11-2004, 03:09 PM

Kimmee, here is a big

from Texas for you. I am sorry that Bruce feels like he needs to act like a horse's patoot

. You work hard to keep your home and family, it is a shame he does not see that. Maybe you should start writing him a bill for all you do around the house....cooking and serving his meals, doing his laundry, cleaning the house, feeding the animals, ect... . When he sees the picture in black and white maybe he won't be so ugly about what you do all day. (Or the other solution..tee hee... a visit from the Caped Crusader and the big boot in the bottom treatment for those who insist on acting like horse's patoots

)

**PrairieRose** · 12-11-2004, 03:24 PM

I'm sure he's probably already over it.....

Just roll with it Kimmee......I'm sure it will blow over soon.

**voodidit** · 12-11-2004, 03:59 PM

Kimmee, there was a a story in the paper yesterday about a mom and dad who went on strike against there kids becase the kids wouldn't do they're chores, maybe you should go on strike a few days a show him what happens when you really sit around and do nothing but eat Bon-Bons. then maybe he'll get the picture!