Work is killing me

**Petunia** · 10-09-2010, 06:42 PM

Bless you Jilly50. I know what you are experiencing has to be one of the hardest things I can imagine.

Just going thru divorce and such a life change in itself is more than a lot of us can imagine. I'm 58 and that alone would be hard enough at this stage of life..... for anybody. Much less having the new-to-you burden of being the bread winner after years of being a stay at home mother.

I agree, the job/work environment is a very frightening place to me too. Things just aren't like they used to be. People seem so hard and calloused and it's just 'Dog Eat Dog' in so many workplaces.

My husband is 60, and he's also still out there in a customer service oriented job. I know it is very very hard.

My heart goes out to you. May God bless you and give you strength for each day. Hopefully, something will change to make it easier.

**Luckybustert** · 10-09-2010, 06:49 PM

Originally Posted by Jilly50

Corporate America is not friendly. Multi tasking has been elevated to an absurd level, manners are basically gone

"Not friendly" is an understatement. Corporate America will chew you up and spit you out if you let yourself get suckered into all of the "do more with less, and do it faster" BS. I so agree with you about the absurd level of multi-tasking, and I'm so sick of the back-stabbing office politics I could scream. I would retire tomorrow if I could.

There are so many studies linking obesity and disease with high levels of stress and sleep deprivation, yet it's a way of life for so many in today's workforce. Me...I'd just like a little more balance in my life. Not sure how I'm going to get there.

**Momto5RN** · 10-09-2010, 07:02 PM

anytime you deal with people whether on phone in person - as a waitress- a csr -rep -a nurse or a police officer there are stressors.

and adding in new technology that didnt even exist in sci fi flicks when you were young - can really make it stressful

you really have two choices stick with it and deflect teh stress somehow or find something new.

the job i work one weekend a month as administration for a hoem care company and it is one of the most stressful jobs i have ever had and i have worked in trauma units etc -where i am juggling 8 very sick pts and their famililes needs at once .

they actually have 4 of us do one weekend each because they know its too much for someone to do more than that on a regulat basis .

we diffuse the craziness but just joking around when we are all off the phones for a minute - may be a 10 second comment about something on the radio etc - but that 10 seconds of laughing gets the stress down .

have you ever thought of companion care ?? kind of like a nurses aide but without the heavy lifting etc more of a sit and watch an alzheimers patient or elderly pt who cant make their own meals etc while family works etc .

one on one with someone no computers to worry about no quotos to make and you may get a great feeling from making a difference in someones life.

i once had a 80 woman who was the companion of a 75 yo with alzheimers - she was older but was in good health and wanted a job helping people - she loved it .

**AnW819** · 10-10-2010, 02:05 AM

Guys, this post is over 2 years old. I don't know if she still checks it

**Pemberleyan** · 10-10-2010, 07:52 AM

I just want to say I feel for you and I hope you find something else soon. I was able to quit my job in my mid-40's, mostly because of physical problems, but I found it more difficult to deal with difficult people and situations than I had, say, in my 30's.

Keep us posted!

**LuLuBleen** · 10-11-2010, 04:00 PM

Guys, this post is over 2 years old. I don't know if she still checks it

Hey, Ashley, you cold-busted me because I didn't even realize how old this thread was till page three.

Kept reading, though. Sad how relevant all the information still is. Hope the OP's situation has improved.

BTW, Ashley, what are you doing in the "old folks" section of FV? You're just a young'un!

**AnW819** · 10-11-2010, 06:02 PM

Originally Posted by LuLuBleen

Hey, Ashley, you cold-busted me because I didn't even realize how old this thread was till page three.

Kept reading, though. Sad how relevant all the information still is. Hope the OP's situation has improved.

BTW, Ashley, what are you doing in the "old folks" section of FV? You're just a young'un!

Haha thats funny!! It still is definitally relevant, just did not wanting you guys talking to the OP if shes not coming back a-round ya know? Although I am sure if she does she will be happy!!

And old folk, somold folks...I just wanted to give some hugs!!!

**mat12** · 10-17-2010, 03:54 PM

you can't learn when you have had two hours of training, but they always think they have given you enough. Don't let it get to you, hang in there and something will come along that HAS to be easier, just don't give up.

**mat12** · 10-17-2010, 03:55 PM

I hope you find something else soon.

**mat12** · 10-17-2010, 03:55 PM

people and situations than I had, say, in my 30's.

**alotofgooddeals** · 10-17-2010, 05:13 PM

Dh can't work a regular job due to some health issues...and dd also has health issues and someone needs to be able to go and get her at any given moment from school if the need arises and then she can be out for weeks while she heals so he stays home while i work... for the last couple of weeks i have sent him to the auction on saturday night and he buys lots at the end for $5 each and then comes home and list them on ebay... so far so good... so that may be an option....

**Bloo** · 12-27-2010, 12:24 PM

i do cs too-it is horrible

they just cut my hours and if i question a supervisor even slightly "i.e. why do we do it this way and not that way?" i get written up-the pay is about min wage

supervisors are rude and disrespectful-the company treats it's customers like dirt and that reflects badly on my job performance even tho it is out of my control

i have 20+ years work exp but there are no jobs out there but i am looking...

this advice in this thread has been very helpful-thank you all

bloo

**sueh** · 12-27-2010, 12:56 PM

I also work in a cs type job. I too hate it. It's pre-collections for medical bills. I have been doing cs type work since I was 16 years old and I have to say that this job is the worst by far. Why am I there? Well I was laid off in 2009 and after applying for many jobs and getting rejected and not even an interview I was excited when this company called me. I am also a single mom of 2 girls that I need to take care of. My UE ins was about to end and I started to freak out because of $$. I have only been with the company almost 4 months and I get sick to my stomach when I pull in the parking lot. My Supervisor talks at you not to you. There are 3 groups of people and she is constantly putting my team down. We have to interact with another dept and they are just down right rude unless you are into there clique. One being the bosses daughter. Right now I go in and do my job and then leave. I try to always have a positive attitude. Plus the job itself isn't something that I handle pretty well. We have elderly patients, families of pts that just passed away, patients that are very sick and when they call in and tell your their stories and why they can't pay their bills well it brings tears to my eyes. They want us to be heartless and get the money from them or tell them they will go to collections. They want you to get them off the phone quickly to take another one. It's just not in my nature to not care.
I have been looking for another job and if I had some sort of savings I would quit but that's not going to happen.

**227melissa** · 06-18-2011, 11:56 AM

Workers over 40 used to be respected and now they throw us under the bus. My Dh was a GM at Mcd's for 30 years, two years ago they demoted my Dh and cut the salary the reasoning behind this was my dh had a TMI and missed a week of work, they didn't think he was up to the position anymore.This after working 70 hours a week every week, missing family time and events, and always being on call even on vacation. Now my dh gets transfered from store to store, the franchise has 12 stores and being treated like an idiot. The only reason he stays there is they have really good insurance with no contribution. In the mean time I had a car accident in a company car was rear ended my shoulder and neck are completely messed up and my employer of 10 years replaced me in my management position. If I ever get released I'll be starting at the bottom, I've hired a lawyer and plan to sue, which is something I would never do I'm just tired of getting screwed.