Anyone coming to the time of empty nesters?

**homesteadmamma** · 01-19-2009, 09:12 PM

We are getting there once again. The first time, we ended up adopting. This time it's mighty scary because 2 of our kids will be moving to group homes.

Anyone coming close or are empty nesters?

**sunshine** · 01-19-2009, 09:30 PM

My last one is in college -- but still living at home. I think she'll be here through the spring of 2010, then probably get married and move to another state, to finish her college studies.

**redeme** · 01-20-2009, 12:44 AM

My youngest is a senior in high school this year, but is about a year and a half into community college. So, I don't know what she'll be deciding to do this fall. Transfer to a 4 year college in fall or risk not getting in if she finishes at the community college. There's lots of cut backs in admissions here at the universities. But, somewhere in the next while, I'll be having an empty nest.

**fernykins** · 01-20-2009, 12:55 AM

Lots of luck guys........ It didn't happen for me.........When I throught it was going to happen son#2 moved back with his 2 kids........Well he moving out to get married and son #3 is moving in with the wife and kids,,,,,, I think they talked among themselfs saying can't be by myself because of my health........and yes its bad but let me tell you I want to be alone ... Its not going to happen for me.
Fern

**Dave'sGirl** · 01-20-2009, 04:35 AM

About 5 years ago I completely emptied my nest. My two kids had moved on, leaving my husband at the time and me alone about 6 years ago. Ex DH & I found we really had nothing in common to the point of "what are we doing?" and I moved out. NOT a move for the faint of heart, let me tell you. It was a horrible year.
That's extreme, I know, but all has worked out. 4 years ago I met Dave and we have a wonderful new life and I couldn't be happier.

**thefrug** · 01-20-2009, 05:56 AM

We're ENs. But not by the usual methods. Both our kids died back in 1999 and 2000. This year is 29 yrs we've been together. Still going strong. We have hobbies that we both enjoy and we're not bored with one another. I think thats because the #1 thing on my list for a hubby was that I wanted someone who I could just hang out with. That I enjoyed their company. And I found him! It's a lot easier with no kids ( I hate saying that but it's true), and we can go more places now that we ever could before. I think it will be easier if it's a gradual thing and not abrupt like it was for us.

**SweetPea** · 01-20-2009, 06:29 AM

Our son moved out into his own apartment this past April, and is planning to get married this June. It helps that he's only about 15 minutes away, and I see him regularly. But it was very hard those first few weeks.

Now I'm looking forward to his wedding and getting a new daughter!

**joyofsix** · 01-20-2009, 06:39 AM

Well by the time the now 1yr old moves out (20 years?) I'm sure I'll have grandkids here all the time or I'll be enfeebled, LOL.

**Patty A** · 01-20-2009, 06:50 AM

They don't call this generation of kids the "boomerang" generation for nothing!! Fernykins, I so understand what you are dealing with!! My son has done this three times now, once with a wife and two children, and twice just himself. Its hard, adult kids moving back home after being on their own is a whole new set of problems and ideas that you don't have with kids that have never been out on their own. I know with the cut back in hours and jobs being few and far between that its hard to do it on your own now. But its also hard when you have adults kids moving back home. I am so glad we can help our kids, but I do look forward to the day that they can make it on their own and do well for themselves.

Hang in there!

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**Thevail** · 02-13-2009, 05:12 AM

Our daughter turns 16 this weekend, and just turned in her first job application...I am SO freaked out.

It'll be about 2.5 years until high school is over, and she wants to be an electrician so no college for us to pay for.(whew!) Is that an evil thought?

She was 2 when DH and I got together, and so we're both terrified of when she leaves us alone..together.

DH and I get along really well, and have a lot of fun, but I've often wondered what we'll do without her. We've never just been a couple before so it's bound to be odd at the least. Our whole life together feels as if it's always revolved around having a kid to take care of, transport places,teach, feed, clothe, discipline, love, and schedule around.
On the other hand un-interrupted sex would be really nice...

What do people do when there isn't anyone to make a mess everywhere, and spoil even the most carefully laid plans anymore? Not that she's a bad kid, she's great.
Children, in wonderful and horrible ways, are just so..intrusive..like the roots of beautiful ivy, worming their way into every crevice of the wall of your life until you're afraid that if it's removed the whole thing falls down.

**onencgirl** · 02-13-2009, 06:48 AM

I'm a single ENer and have come to love the freedom that comes with it. After raising three kiddos pretty much alone it is nice not having the worry of them. My #2DS had been back and forth until he met and married bout 3 years ago. My DD is special needs and moved to a group home. That was hard at first but now proves to be the perfect arrangement. We are all happy today.

**jamie79** · 02-13-2009, 10:19 AM

Ods is at college and lives here part time. Yds is a junior in high school so we still have him. But I see our time with him is coming to an end soon. I figure another 5 yrs and they will be both gone totally.