Sometimes I feel like a fish out of water

**cab54** · 07-17-2009, 03:44 PM

Ever feel like that? I remember thinking that the 'older' generation (when I was young) was sooooo out of touch and sooooo not with it.

Now (I'm 54), I realize that they just didn't CARE whether they were 'with it' or not. They were happy in their own world with their own age folks.

I have noticed more and more how young people my sons' age (20's) seem to live in a different world in a way. They see movies I would never care to see, have a culture all their own.

Teen even more so--I noticed this when BIL and his family came up here to visit. I mentioned that DH's 3 deer heads on the wall (hold the slams please) were called Larry, Moe, and Curly. (MY names for them). They were, like......WHO?? LOL!

I said OK, name them after the Jonas brothers if you want. LOL! (My niece clued me in on how cool the Jonas bros are).

In listening to them talk while they were here, I realized I had no idea what they were talking about at times. Ah, well.

I am happy living in my own little 'raised in the 60's, not up with the times' kinda world. I don't worry about the fact that I don't know how to get my voicemail, or know who's popular now, or what is in fashion to wear.

Do you??

**frugalfranny** · 07-17-2009, 03:55 PM

LOL...too funny.....I believe it is/was called 'generation gap'.......yep, we all get there.....if we are lucky!!

I remember my mom grumbling about the 'styles'.......and now I think if I see ONE MORE CRACK hanging out in public I will walk up and pull the pants down myself! I can go the orange/green/whatever hair.....the tatoos....well, to each his own......but the pants WAISTLINE hanging to the knees I have a problem with!!!!!!!!

**savvy_sniper** · 07-17-2009, 04:32 PM

Cheryl,

I am the same age as you and I notice the same things.

FYI - They are getting ready to make a Three Stooges movie with Jim Carrey as Curly and Benicio Del Toro as Moe.

**dcompton** · 07-17-2009, 05:56 PM

Completely. At work I rely on my college student assistants to deal with the technology for the most part. I learn what I have to so that I can function reasonably competently, but thank goodness I work with the younger generation! Honestly, I just don't want to know or be bothered with all that. And this urge to be totally connected all the time to everyone is quite beyond me. I think some of them must have been born with cell phones and other gadgetry attached.

And pop culture? Clueless.

I like my quiet, disconnected, old-fashioned world very much, thank you, and I'm perfectly content to be practically antediluvian.

**Karen1** · 07-17-2009, 06:10 PM

I hear ya!!!

I think it is a just an age thing for most people. I am 48 and I could care less about the younger generations music or what they are "into" nowadays...HA HA

When younger, I cared about it all of course, my parents could care less about it!

I think at some point we shift from "caring about stuff" like bands, new technology stuff, etc. etc. and start worrying about quality of our lives and how we live it day to day. at least for me.....I put more energy into living stress free and easy and fun and not clutter my head with what band is the rage.

I have a 4 year old daughter (and me 48)--my one and only. Had her late in life and I know I won't have a clue what she is "into" when she gets older..HA HA HA

**Monner 1** · 07-17-2009, 06:19 PM

Oh Lordy I have to agree with all of you girls. I just loved the Beatles and such but I have definitely gone to the other side of the hill. I have tried to keep up with the computer and now I have a GPS that is so much fun to play with and a cell phone but rarely use it. I don't give my number out to many people. I like being in my own quiet little world out in the country and I don't need head banging music to go along with it. Sometimes it is 4 days before I leave the property. I don't need the frustration in my life. Bless all of you and live your life the way you want to because you only live once.

Monner

**Jamielane** · 07-17-2009, 06:24 PM

You know I am only 40 but my kids are 10 and 13 and I hear all the time how "uncool" I am. Now mostly its because the music they like sounds like verbal garbage to me and do you have any idea how hard it is to buy clothes for girls that dont look like we went to "hoochies are us"? Then they say thats the style Mom. My DH is adamant they are not wearing clothes with words across their butts like "juicy" or "hottie" . He said it is not advertising space. My Mom and I were just saying yesterday how kids dont talk on the phone anymore (unless its a cell phone) . My Mom said no they are on Facebook , or im'ing or texting. Its a wonder any of them can hold a proper conversation really.

Also I love the old tv shows from the 70's and early 80's. Thank Goodness for Tvland. My kids are appalled by all those shows. The (gasp) corded phones , no computers, tv's without remotes etc. I like them because they make feel young and remind me of a happy time in my life when there was very little to worry about.

It seems to me now that most kids are so anxious to grow up they arent enjoying being kids. I was never in a hurry to grow up really .

You know my daughter was watching the TODAY show with me one day and Bruce Springsteen was doing A concert. Of course I was singing along and knew most of the words and she just shook her head and said I dont know who that guy is Mom but he's never gonna make it in the singing business. I laughed and laughed at that one. Thats when I really felt old the first time.

**frugalwarrior** · 07-17-2009, 06:49 PM

I am right in the thick of 2 teenagers.
-Doing a paper does not require either paper or pencil. Get a laptop,edit,paste,cut,edit,download to memory stick. Send it to yourself at school. Silly mom.

-my DS in "writing and collaborating" music w/ people he has never met on the internet. They will never meet or play together. They already have enough for an album.

-my DD plays games w/ people all over the world. Language barriers not a factor.

-my DH works from home and speaks w/ people from all over the world. They dial into a meeting. Hedoesn't have an office he goes to.

-I belong to several internet groups that help me w/ weightloss,saving money and can call up any info I need in less than 2 min.

-I never have to leave my chair to go shopping. It comes in a nice truck w/in a few days.

-I haven't been in an actual bank in at least 3 years. I applied for a loan online and use atm's and check my acct. daily

-I can pay most of my bill online. Cards and stamps are almost obsolite too.
Goodbye '60's.

**Sassyclass** · 07-17-2009, 10:53 PM

I feel this way just reading AOL "news" every morning. It seems they have something about someone I've never heard of but they are always some young "rock star", "movie star", "top model", or "star athlete" in some country I've never heard of. Then I go to work to hear these young guys talking in some foreign language and they are talking to me as is I'm fluent in their language. Usually they are talking about those people I read about that morning.

Give me a book to read, some paper and a pen, a muscle car, blue jeans and a t-shirt and I'm happy. I can handle just about any music except opera, and rap is not music, nor is that crappy thrash scream because you can't sing noise. Geez if I screamed at my kids like that when they were little I would have gone to jail for mentally abusing them.

Cat

**mauimagic** · 07-17-2009, 11:02 PM

At 63 I am very happy with my life and glad that I grew up when I did. Wouldn't want to be a teen now - but then didn't and don't all parents say the same? Had our only child at 40 and loved the whole experience - tough and definitely worth it.

Yup - it all comes together as we age - thank goodness!! I am glad that I teach in an elementary school since it keeps me in touch with the young ones!!

**cab54** · 07-18-2009, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by savvy_sniper

Cheryl,

I am the same age as you and I notice the same things.

FYI - They are getting ready to make a Three Stooges movie with Jim Carrey as Curly and Benicio Del Toro as Moe.

I saw that! Sean Penn was supposed to play Larry, but backed out to straighten out family stuff. I just can't see him as Larry, anyway.

**cab54** · 07-18-2009, 11:13 AM

Originally Posted by dcompton

Completely. At work I rely on my college student assistants to deal with the technology for the most part. I learn what I have to so that I can function reasonably competently, but thank goodness I work with the younger generation! Honestly, I just don't want to know or be bothered with all that. And this urge to be totally connected all the time to everyone is quite beyond me. I think some of them must have been born with cell phones and other gadgetry attached.

And pop culture? Clueless.

I like my quiet, disconnected, old-fashioned world very much, thank you, and I'm perfectly content to be practically antediluvian.

YES!! What is the DEAL with constantly texting and constantly having a phone up to your ear, and ENDLESSLY being connected to all your 'mates' (as we call our DSs' friends) by some sort of techno device???

I could sit by a quiet stream for weeks and never need to talk to anyone. I do NOT get this. WHAT are they saying to each other every minute of every day? "I just put on my blue boxers, and now I'm about to get into my jeans and tee shirt."

**cab54** · 07-18-2009, 11:19 AM

Originally Posted by Jamielane

You know I am only 40 but my kids are 10 and 13 and I hear all the time how "uncool" I am. Now mostly its because the music they like sounds like verbal garbage to me and do you have any idea how hard it is to buy clothes for girls that dont look like we went to "hoochies are us"? Then they say thats the style Mom. My DH is adamant they are not wearing clothes with words across their butts like "juicy" or "hottie" . He said it is not advertising space. My Mom and I were just saying yesterday how kids dont talk on the phone anymore (unless its a cell phone) . My Mom said no they are on Facebook , or im'ing or texting. Its a wonder any of them can hold a proper conversation really.

Also I love the old tv shows from the 70's and early 80's. Thank Goodness for Tvland. My kids are appalled by all those shows. The (gasp) corded phones , no computers, tv's without remotes etc. I like them because they make feel young and remind me of a happy time in my life when there was very little to worry about.

It seems to me now that most kids are so anxious to grow up they arent enjoying being kids. I was never in a hurry to grow up really .

You know my daughter was watching the TODAY show with me one day and Bruce Springsteen was doing A concert. Of course I was singing along and knew most of the words and she just shook her head and said I dont know who that guy is Mom but he's never gonna make it in the singing business. I laughed and laughed at that one. Thats when I really felt old the first time.

LOL! 'hoochies R us' LOL! too funny, Jamielane!

Yep, the Boss is goin' down. He'll never make it.

I'm lucky. I have two sons ages 23 and 25, and they LOVE our music from our 'time'. (Think Led Zeppelin/Stones). They are always saying to us (me and dh) 'You guys definitely had the best music.'

**Pemberleyan** · 07-18-2009, 11:30 AM

I'm 46 and I can so relate! Thankfully I'm not exposed to it much, though, except bits and pieces on television. I don't like texting, video games, about 98% of popular movies, television, and music (a term used loosely these days, baggy pants with underwear showing, pierced noses or ears or belly buttons or tongues, etc. I'm just not interested in the latest youth trend.

**dianeeileen** · 07-20-2009, 07:22 PM

Hi,not having children I have been living in a false utopia that I at 46 was still "with it", I can use a computer, Google with the best of um. Drive a cool car, have a cell phone, pay my bills online and like kid rock (some of his music) and have cable tv. HAHA well one weekend with DH's nieces and nephews have let me know I am so not cool, and so not with it. My phone dosen't have text messaging and I don't have a clue how to text. My phone can't send pictures or reach the internet. I would not let my niece"s buy shorts that showed their butt cheeks, when one complained I told her I didn't think her mom would like it, she pulled out a picture of her mom, umm well mom dresses like she shops at hootchies r us too. She still didn't get the shorts. I found out most of today's music is not something I ever want to hear and I don't have a clue who they are. I found out I don't know jack about today's culture and I don't really care. But a small part of me feels bad that I don't care. I never wanted to be my Mother but I think I won that and became my Grandmother

I am so not cool and that's ok. Diane