DH and I are invited to a casual dinner party in a couple of weeks and I really, really don't want to go. Just say "No", right? Well, we've been avoiding invitations from the hosting couple for a while now and, it seems, they're starting to take it personally. When DH got the invite, the hostess made it very clear that they really wanted us, in particular, to attend. I wouldn't care except that they work at DH's office and DH needs to keep the working relationship smooth.
In the past we've just gone to the parties and been bored out of our minds. I'd rather be home knitting or reading or watching paint dry.
Is it better to just make up (yet another) previous engagement or should I just come out and say that we're old and don't like evening parties anymore? Is there another answer I'm overlooking? :scratch:
If you have any health issues, that the co-workers know of, or food allergies you could just beg off due to those reasons.
I have several health issues that leave me exhausted by the evening, so socializing is mostly out of the question. The other issue is allergies to food additives. I'll be down for 3 days with a migraine if I ingest any artificial sweeteners. I did attend 2 church dinners last year and wound up sick after both of them. I have since found out there are a lot of diabetics in the church who cook with artificial sweeteners, so no more dinners for me.
If you don't have a legitimate excuse then I say suck it up once a year and attend, but place a time limit on it.
I understand would rather stay home and do. my phone used to ring off the hook and now it doesn't ring at all do I care no. I view friends as some one who is there when times are bad people now days are not that way. I think the closer I get to 50 the more I am not willing to put up with other peoples drama or BS.My dh is my bf and that's good enough for me.
I love staying home. It is my sanctuary. I hate going to parties and we try to come up with an excuse so we won't have to attend. If it was for DH's work, I would go but set a time limit. Then you have met your obligation but don't have to suffer too long.
Sounds like the "set a time limit and leave" vote has it. Has my vote. I'm with people 6 days a week and don't want to see them on my one day off.
BUT agree, don't go with the attitude you're going to be bored or you will. I speak from experience. If I go somewhere expecting to be miserable I always am. I guess resentful is more like it.
I'm a dedicated introvert. My home is where I am most comfortable. Of course I can socialize if I choose to, but I don't choose to lol. I rarely go to funerals or weddings and travel to town strictly for baking soda, toiletries, mail and fuel for the truck. What socializing I do is with my neighbors more so than anyone else since I work for my neighbors, but I'm not one to be a social butterfly like I use to be.
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