Am I being too sensitive?

**jettylady** · 02-08-2011, 09:23 AM

Hi all,

Just a thought and i am not really upset about this but then again I am. Yesterday was my birthday. I am lucky enough to be at my daughters, and got to spend it with my grandkids, daughter and my husband. We had a great day. I hate to sound petty, but what do you do if your best friend and one of your children don't remeber to call you on your birthday? I understand that people are busy, but your own mom??The other son called but my oldest didn't. My best friend has got some stuff going on in her personal life but really? I guess that i am just a little put out that those particular two didn't. Of course I will never say anything, and I am grateful for all the other blessings in my life as to not dwell on this, but thanks for letting me vent!!!!Have a great day and HAPPY BIRTHDAY to everyone!

**Darlene** · 02-08-2011, 09:41 AM

First off: Happy Birthday!
I can see where your feelings would be hurt. People make mistakes, do stupid things, are thoughtless sometimes and at other times are off the charts wonderful. I hope they fall over themselves for not acknowledging your birthday but even if they don't and they show their love to you on a consistent basis everyday that will have to suffice for now. Sorry they forgot the date but they could never forget you.

**mamachop** · 02-08-2011, 09:50 AM

I don't think you are being overly sensitive at all. Maybe your oldest just had things going on and forgot. Maybe they will call or something today. I'm glad you were able to spend time with your daughter and grandkids yesterday.

Happy belated birthday!

**Lady_V** · 02-08-2011, 09:52 AM

Jetty... my Mom forgot my bday this year too. That makes 8 out of 39 so far... It's not like she doesn't KNOW when it is, she was there

Her DF's bday is 3 days before mine. Hers is 3 weeks to the day after mine... think she ever remembers?

Nope... not a call, an email, a card...

The first time it happened, I felt hurt, as if I wasn't significant enough in her life for her to remember...

Now... I don't care. It's my birthday and no one can take it away from me!

** lots of hugs **

**photogal06** · 02-08-2011, 10:28 AM

HaPpY BiRtHdAy!!!!!!!!!!

I had to accept a long time ago that my birthday is no big deal to some people....like my own parents! It bothered me for a few years, but I finally had to let it go. Now I just focus on the people who do remember and am grateful for them. I understand your disappointment though---I remember it well!

**Debbie-cat** · 02-08-2011, 10:42 AM

Happy belated birthday!

It was wonderful you got to spend the day with your daughter and family. Personally I wouldn't be hurt with the BF forgetting. Mine forgets all the time butthst is just how she is.

Your son forgetting is another matter and I would be hurt too. Hugs to you and hopefully he will have a good explaination for you.

**mauimagic** · 02-08-2011, 10:58 AM

Happy birthday!! Yup it sucks when important others in our lives forget something like this. That is just a reflection on them, not on you, not about their feelings for you, but just how they choose to live their lives. Sometimes it is hard to shrug it off and focus our attentions on all the positives that have/are occuring - and we really have to because we don't want to short change the positive parts of our lives.

**HappyMama** · 02-08-2011, 11:16 AM

Happy Belated birthday!

I am so glad you were able to enjoy it with your daughter and grandchildren. No, I don't think you were over sensitive,just hurt and I am sorry for that. Maybe your oldest just got involved with life and forgot. Big hugs to you.

**madjen** · 02-08-2011, 11:39 AM

Happy Belated Birthday!

**Russ** · 02-08-2011, 11:47 AM

from a guys point of view...

Damn good thing my head is attached or it would still be in bed.

Seriously, I am horrible at remembering birthdays and heck, I even forget to eat dinner sometimes. Yes, I forget to eat.

Happy belated birthday.

**monkeywrangler71** · 02-08-2011, 12:24 PM

Originally Posted by Russ

from a guys point of view...

Damn good thing my head is attached or it would still be in bed.

Seriously, I am horrible at remembering birthdays and heck, I even forget to eat dinner sometimes. Yes, I forget to eat.

Happy belated birthday.

Ditto. I was apparently 'blessed' with a man brain. I don't remember birthdays, and only sporadically acknowledge them. It is not, in any remote way, a reflection on the degree of my affection for the person. If someone forgets mine I really don't care, odds are I forgot it myself anyway.

Do your son and friend treat you with love and respect the rest of the year, and are they there for you when you need them? If so, then don't read anything into them missing your birthday.

**pinetree** · 02-08-2011, 01:32 PM

Happy belated Birthday!

**stinkbug** · 02-08-2011, 01:39 PM

I'm weird. I could care less. One daughter remembered my b-day, the other didn't. Well, she did, but I know she is preoccupied with lots more stuff to do with her own family, so it's no big deal to me. I'm 52.....it's just another day. My mom always remembers and sends me a card and check. But really...I'm not a 5 year old, I don't need recognition about a specific day.

**OOwl** · 02-08-2011, 01:56 PM

I'm one of the guilty ones that forgets birthdays. I am ashamed to admit this but I once forgot my own husband's birthday . . . and he LIVES with me! My family knows they have to REMIND me, "Hey, my birthday is next week!" And again, "Hey, my birthday is TOMORROW!" Some people are just wired that way. And I'm usually a really thoughtful person. I LOVE and adore my family and close friends and wouldn't hurt them for all the world, but I SOMETIMES forget. It's just one of my weaknesses. Since this is something that is important to you, I'd say remind those you want to hear from on your special day. Don't set them up for failure by making it a "test" to see if they remember. Chances are they really do care and don't want to hurt you; they just got busy and it slipped their mind. Happy Birthday from one of the forgetful ones. . . .

**pollypurebred39** · 02-08-2011, 02:12 PM

Aww, Happy Birthday. I do understand, really I do. That's why I'm always deeply regretful when I forget important dates. I once forgot my Mothers, I've forgotten my husbands, I've forgot our anniversary (which he's never let me live down) AND I would have forgotten both of my boy's birthdays once if my DH had not reminded me the day before. It honestly is no reflection on how I feel about them, I adore them. I have no excuse, I don't know why it happens to me sometimes, but I am most apologetic when it does happen. But, I've forgotten my own birthday twice, so it is an honest mistake.