I used to kinda feel sorry for empty nesters

**PrairieRose** · 07-28-2006, 11:26 PM

I thought they were bored, lonesome, sad........Now I find that so funny. I'm never any of those things (since I got over the nest emptying out that is). Did anyone else ever feel sorry for e.nesters?

**Droppedonmyhead** · 07-28-2006, 11:39 PM

I've been an empty nester for 8 years. I had the empty nest syndrome for 1 hour. Then I got over it. People always think that just because you're alone, you're lonely. . .NOT TRUE!!! lol

**PrairieRose** · 07-29-2006, 10:15 AM

That's exactly true. We don't have near the activity in the house anymore but it's always nice and clean and so little laundry to do

. We do what we want now.....it's an odd concept, feels a little strange but we're getting very used to it.

**Droppedonmyhead** · 07-29-2006, 10:38 AM

LOL. . .I know exactly what you mean. You miss the kid(s), but it is very nice A lot less work, housework, frustration, etc. I love it when they come visiting, but it's always nice to have my house back to myself.

**fernykins** · 07-29-2006, 11:14 AM

I want to be an empty nester........lol...... My kids are all adults and have moved out ,but #2 son moved back home with If you will help me I will fight for my sons........ He did .....he won.......He doesn't trust very many people with little Brandon because of the downs....... But when they go away for a few days....... I'm in HEAVAN......
Fern

**MarshHen** · 08-21-2006, 11:01 AM

I have to say, I'm looking forward to being an empty nester as well. My sister thinks I'm just a mean ole bitty when I say that but it's true. What was so funny was the day my 13 year old daughter and myself were standing in front of the new house and she made the comment about how time seems to be flying by and she won't be able to enjoy her new room for very long. Me, without thinking, LOL, said "Yep, 4 years and 5 months." She looked at me and said "Oh, so you're counting down!" LOL, then she said I probably was secretly marking off the days on a hidden calendar.

To be honest though, I have been through this twice before. The first was my oldest son Shane, who joined the Army right out of high school, was stationed at Ft. Stewart, Georgia which was in the same county that we lived in at the time. He married, bought a home close by and they had our first grandbaby, Shanna. Soon after Shanna was born, they sent him to Ft. Campbell, Ky, where their son Raven was born. Shane then went to Korea for 8 months and was on a plane home to the states on 9-11. Within a year, he was sent to Iraq for a year and gave up the Army life when he returned. He is now working for the postal service and going to college in Indiana.

Our oldest daughter Jennifer is married and has three small boys and lives in the next county over from us. We see her and the boys every weekend. Her hubby, Fred, works at the Port of Savannah with my hubby.

We adopted our 13 yr. old daughter Mickie 6 years ago this past July. She lived with us as a foster child from the age of 6. Her father is my hubby's youngest brother, and her mom was killed in a car accident when Mickie was 6 years old. Because of personal problems, her dad could not take care of Mickie. She sees her dad on a regular basis, and she is a very bright, sweet, beautiful young lady. She wants to be a special ed teacher, and has had this dream since she was very young.

So, I guess I am preparing myself for when she leaves the nest. I know it will be hard, but it's coming so I have to mentally prepare myself for it. I have to admit, I was a total wreck when the first two took flight, but it's just part of being a momma, so you pray hard and keep going.

Well, that's enough of that, besides, I have to go mark my calendar, LOL!

**pammy** · 08-21-2006, 12:28 PM

Will be there next year. I imagine it won't be much different than it is now, hardly see the lil toot anymore. But, wait a minute... her room will finally be clean and stay that way. Woohooo!! Yup, I'm kinda looking forward to it. (one more year to go, one more year to go)

**kabin63** · 08-21-2006, 12:37 PM

Silly me, I don't want my daughter to fly the coop until I know she is ready, whenever that might be. We were talking about it not long ago and she said "Mom, I have to start getting ready to move out", I said wait, you're only twelve, she said no mom, I mean when I am 18. I said you don't have to move out when you're 18, she said "Shew, I thought I had to leave at 18" I about cried right there....I know it will happen eventually and I will probably have a hard time. I feel the tears welling already.....

**Darlene** · 08-21-2006, 01:30 PM

Originally Posted by Droppedonmyhead

LOL. . .I know exactly what you mean. You miss the kid(s), but it is very nice A lot less work, housework, frustration, etc. I love it when they come visiting, but it's always nice to have my house back to myself.

I agree. You should have seen me a year ago, I was a wreck with both of them moving out at about the same time. It's nice now, they are happy, we are happy & life is nice.

**Daisygirl** · 08-21-2006, 02:38 PM

Actually the whole concept of an empty nest makes me want to pop out more babies. Gotta find the right guy first, though! ;-)

**MarshHen** · 08-22-2006, 01:25 PM

LOL, when my oldest daughter Jennifer turned 15, I started stressing over her leaving the nest and actually wished I could have another baby. Mickie came into our home six months later at age six and filled that void. Now, even though I will be sad when she leaves the nest, I realized it's time for hubby and I to do some of the things we couldn't do while the kids were at home.

**Backtoreality** · 08-30-2006, 08:23 AM

We've have an empty nest for 8 days now - you know what, I am kind of enjoying it. We were married only 10 months before the first one was born, then the next one 6 months later (moved in and stayed) the second one was 1 year, 1 week, and 1 day behind DS#1, Then 2 years later our nephew moved in. So in 4 years 4 kids, ages (then) 11, 5, 3, &2! SOOOOO believe me I enjoy my solitude! Of course you love them, pray for them, help out occasionally, but man do I enjoy this empty nest!

**diag** · 09-11-2006, 08:07 PM

I'm looking forward to the empty nest in some ways, not so much in others. My oldest has flown the coop, but I have three others at home still. Well, two of my own and one we took in at 18. Two are in college and one in high school so I don't see any of them as much as I used to anyway. They all show up at meal time though!

**pqb57** · 09-11-2006, 09:08 PM

I've been an empty nester about 9 years, but with the kids and the grandkids, the nest hardly ever seems to be empty.

**kymom** · 09-11-2006, 10:52 PM

I have three down one to go. He will be eighteen next month. And has a year old high school left. It is nice with the girls gone! And yes i did count it down lol And I am still counting lol