AM Ceremony & Brunch Reception - Tacky?

**Libby** · 01-17-2011, 03:10 PM

Its getting down to crunch time with regards to the wedding planning - as in its time to actually pay attention to the planning process

Just wanted to bounce ideas off of y'all with regards to what you think are the pro's & cons of having an AM wedding followed by a brunch reception. Do you think its tacky?

Pro's: it follows after the ceremony & pictures, it costs less then a fully plated lunch/dinner, less alcohol, leaves the day free to do whatever anybody else would like to do

Cons: it may not be as big of 'grand affair' as the guests would think we'd have ie bucking tradition etc but thats not really a huge concern for us, everyone attending the wedding may think they're invited to it as well (depending on # of guests invited - yet to be determined)

BTW: what time would the ceremony have to be in order to allow time for it plus photos then the reception? Approximations welcomed.

**celina** · 01-17-2011, 03:52 PM

i would have loved an am ceremony and a champagne brunch........then say an at home bbq supper for the closest to me people...

my wedding was at 2 and supper was at 6,,,catholic 1 hr ceremony followed by pictures then back to hall for dinner

**Lady_V** · 01-17-2011, 03:57 PM

I don't think an AM wedding is tacky... most importantly... it's YOUR wedding!

People will be honored to be invited. If they would think it's tacky because there isn't a 7 course meal and a free bar, don't invite them because THEY aren't worth having!

If the ceremony and brunch will be in the same location, I think a 10 or 11am ceremony followed by some fruit pickins while you get your photos done (you can also get the pics done BEFORE the ceremony if you aren't held to tradition). If it's not a large wedding party and you dont have to travel for pics, 30 mins should be more than enough time.

**bonnotsm9** · 01-17-2011, 04:34 PM

A friend of mines daughter got married earlier this month. She had a 11:00 am ceremony with a reception immediately afterward.

**ilovechocolate** · 01-17-2011, 05:06 PM

I was a member of the wedding party at a 10:00 a.m. ceremony with the reception following. The caterer served things like little ham 'n' biscuits, fruit, etc. It was very nice, and many people came in spite of the relatively early hour.

**forHISglory** · 01-17-2011, 05:38 PM

Tacky? NO!!! It's creative and elegant. How about a 10:00 ceremony, with brunch following? Have the pictures done earlier. The brunch idea is wonderful: light on the budget, light on the tummy, and you can have such wonderful little sandwiches, tapas, appetizers, etc. The only drawback I can see is that sometimes people have problems with work schedules during the day. Let us know what you decide!

**Ceashels** · 01-17-2011, 05:47 PM

I love that idea.

**mndtrp** · 01-17-2011, 05:49 PM

I don't see how it could be tacky. I wouldn't do it any earlier than 10, and would prefer 11 myself.

**imagine** · 01-17-2011, 07:15 PM

Originally Posted by Libby

Cons: it may not be as big of 'grand affair' as the guests would think we'd have ie bucking tradition etc but thats not really a huge concern for us, everyone attending the wedding may think they're invited to it as well (depending on # of guests invited - yet to be determined)

I could see how this would be a con. If you aren't inviting everyone to the reception that was invited to the wedding then you will need to include a separate invitation to the reception in the wedding invitation or limited the guests to the wedding to those you want at the reception.

**sunshine** · 01-17-2011, 07:20 PM

My parents got married at 10:00 AM --- ON NEW YEAR'S DAY! It was the only time the church was available, during mom's college break. . . .

So what you want - when you want

**mauimagic** · 01-17-2011, 07:22 PM

What a perfectly wonderful idea!! Never could understand why all weddings weren't in the morning. As brunch is my favorite meal, I think that your idea is brilliant!! Looking forward to hearing all your ideas!!

**arnie** · 01-17-2011, 07:35 PM

I agree. It sounds like a great idea. I would say a 10 am wedding is a good time, could do a 30 min ceremony- 30 mins for pics and be ready for brunch by 1130. I am actually going to suggest the idea to my daughter when the time comes.

**Debbie-cat** · 01-17-2011, 07:42 PM

Not tacky at all! I think it is a great idea.

**Debt Ninjette** · 01-17-2011, 07:51 PM

I don't think it's tacky at all!! It sounds lovely.

Maybe we'll do the same. There's a gorgeous botanical garden here that does weddings for 20 guests for $100.

**Contrary Housewife** · 01-17-2011, 09:29 PM

No, it's not tacky. It's just traditionally a more casual affair. Formal attire is not required, "dress casual" is appropriate for the guests.

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