Appropriate wedding gift?

**TigerGirl1226** · 06-18-2011, 07:22 PM

I'd go with a registry item in the $30 to $40 range. Be sure if you go to BBB to use a coupon.

**OOwl** · 06-18-2011, 10:31 PM

Hey, I need a safe! What a GREAT idea! I'm getting the next person that invites me to a wedding just that. Walmart, though? Ewww, hope Target sells them, too.

**NicJean** · 06-19-2011, 05:23 AM

I decided long ago to have standard gifts. For a wedding "Mr." and "Mrs." Pillowcases - usually gotten totally cheap, but the embroidery looks fancy, tied to a pair of nice pillows. Sometimes I can be done for under $25.

**MaryCarney** · 06-19-2011, 12:36 PM

FYI - the safes are located near the office supplies.

**Ali Lee** · 06-20-2011, 12:49 PM

I would buy them a 10 or 20$ gift card to Walmart or McD's or just cash. I haven't had one returned, yet.

**Libby** · 06-20-2011, 01:18 PM

I agree that being invited to a former co-workers wedding is a bit odd however maybe your husband's dept meant a lot to this guy and had a profound effect on him?

But please do not feel compelled to give for the sake of giving to keep up with the Jones'. Just b/c they've registered somewhere, I'd see that as a guideline. See if you can find something on their registry sold elsewhere and for less or find something similar? How about giving something 'from the heart' that you know a couple could use...what did you receive that you found useful and unconventional? As MC suggested - a safe. Traditionally if you're going the cash route, you're supposed to give enough to cover your share for the meal/booze. What about giving them a gc for a nice restaurant in town - not a chain nor high end & fancy but rather a unique, small, intimate type of place? KWIM? Give the gift of an experience vs clutter.

I too dislike being invited to a wedding just for the sake of being seen as a gift or cash giver. I've turned down invitations where I do not feel comfortable attending as in the type of situation you're in.

**krbshappy71** · 06-20-2011, 02:31 PM

I'd make the hubby handle it.

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 06-20-2011, 04:13 PM

So, I'm thinking we'll end up getting a gift card. Dh doesn't want to haul a safe into a party...though, I do like the idea!

But, I want to try to get the card off of eBay or something...see if I can pay less for it??? Has anyone tried this?

**Michelle** · 06-20-2011, 05:24 PM

Originally Posted by Luv2BeFrugal

So, I'm thinking we'll end up getting a gift card. Dh doesn't want to haul a safe into a party...though, I do like the idea!

But, I want to try to get the card off of eBay or something...see if I can pay less for it??? Has anyone tried this?

If you've never done it before, I'd be wary (meaning if you don't know of a reputable seller)--especially where this is a gift.

**Hamada** · 06-21-2011, 10:52 AM

Just recently I saw on a tv show that many newlyweds would really appreciate cash. So go with the gift card.

Personally I hate obligatory weddings. And yes, one place I worked at the bride to be ended up inviting ANYONE in the department to attend her wedding. Yup, it was an open invitation, you know word of mouth - no formal invitation. Why? Because so many people cancelled to attend her wedding. I was glad I had a different wedding to attend that day. Barely knew her and personally disliked her. She only invited me when she found out what I gave someone else in the department who was getting married.

**max915** · 06-21-2011, 10:56 AM

I started this with my nieces and nephews...went to bronners.com and order them some christmas ordamanents..you can get wedding ones with their name and wedding date on them..just added a few to that one..easy didn't have to leave the house and I got them in the mail withing two weeks...