Engaged! Planning a wedding dinner only. Wanna help? (long)

[oheoh's momma]

hi hon congrats!!!!! love always find a way. It is June most of your family and friends have flower beds so cut them this is FREE!
second I love the idea of flameless candles they are so pretty and not expensive and work for people who can't stand candles.
third Yard sales are coming up buy used wine glasses as long as they are clear does not matter if they match.
a lovely white table cloth will be beautiful
your friend will probably be delighted with the cake espcially if she can decorate. A cake for ten will not be hard to bake or expensive. Use flowers for the cake topper or those wedding rings decs.
Have a nice punch bowl for punch if you like. I think they are pretty.
Set your mp3 or ipod or internet radio Commercial free on soft music.
Your family and friends love u and they will be glad to help.....

[krbshappy71]

Good news, SIL agreed to make the cake, I asked her in person, in private so I wasn't putting her on the spot. I showed her my Pinterest but assured her those cakes were daydream cakes, not what I was expecting from her.

So should I provide her with an specific cake design or let her come up with one? She is creative but I didn't know if that would be overwhelming for someone to make a wedding cake off the top of their own head.

I am leaning towards a light beach theme since I am moving to the east coast. I have seashells from my visits there to place on the table.

I am wanting a wedding dress off and on but trying to stay strong and stick to the summer dress I already have.

I bought the wedding ring for fiancée and might have it engraved. Every time I want to do something special like that I remind myself that I don't need a wedding dress, to use that money for extras instead.

Maybe if I get the dress ready, hang it up where I can see it, it will help. I think if I took it with me to buy shoes once the summer sandals hit the shelves I will be more inclined to stick to the dress I already have.

Good point about the flowers, maybe my daisies will come back this year, those are such happy bright flowers for a table vase! Very summery.

[Lady_V]

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[krbshappy71]

I just realized that I wrote 10 people but if you count on my list its 13. Ha! I typed it out correctly but added incorrectly.

Update:

My sil is making the cake in lieu of a gift, she was more than happy to! She makes a 3-layer chocolate ganache that is delectable.
My fiance' bought the cake topper I wanted, it is a bride standing on a light brown suitcase kissing the groom, how cute is that. If you are on Pinterest, you can see it there, I'm Granny Sue.

My mom is sewing the napkins, she is a great seamstress! Royal blue satiny fabric that we found on clearance. We are going to see if we can find the fabric again and make a runner to match.

We scored a beautiful ivory tablecloth on clearance after Christmas. $8
We scored napkin rings that I wanted, I saw them in Bed Bath Beyond for $3 each (ouch!), but did NOT buy them, later that week I found an entire sack of 13 of them for $5 at Goodwill. BOUGHT THEM! No joke they were the same ones that I wanted!

I found a pattern for making/folding tiny suitcases out of card stock, I am going to make these as place cards at each setting AND we are filling them with butter mints. (my daughters love butter mints) so they are doubling as a "party favor" as well. Cost will be free except for the butter mints which I am pretty sure are cheap.

I found a cute "Mad Libs" paper with a wedding theme that I will print off for the kids to do while they are hanging out. (free)

I did splurge on a necklace I really liked. ($50 and I plan to wear it for years)
I do plan to buy a hair accessory this weekend with my daughter who is going to do my hair. I might get my nails done before the wedding but my daughter has offered to do the "press on" ones for free. So it will either be a splurge I allow myself or I will chill out and do the press-on ones.
I do plan to buy shoes but since I want sandals/summery I am waiting until those come out for the season.

For flowers I have decided I am buying plants and moving them to the new house. My mom has a royal blue vase that we will put the flowers in for the centerpiece.

I bought an adorable outfit for the baby for $2 from Goodwill, then splurged on baby shoes (clearance from Target $9) that were very lacy-wedding-ish. My daughter received lots of cute headbands as a gift so we have a wedding-ish headband for the baby.

I found rolls of fabric ribbon (in my Christmas stash of stuff!) that I am going to use to make chair bows. One is white with a pearl-glitter, very light and very pretty. The other is royal blue with gold trim, we are using the blue and gold for mine and groom's chairs, the white on the remaining chairs.

So far I think things are coming along nicely! Pinterest has been great for giving me ideas, it has been difficult in that it brings up "wants" that I didn't know I wanted in the first place.

I do want a wedding dress. A huge super expensive beautiful ball gown wedding dress. But I will not. I have a very pretty soft yellow summer dress that I'm wearing.

[oheoh's momma]

oh it all sounds lovely and I found u on pintrest u are not old enough to be a grandma.. I commented so u can see a pic of me.... I am fatter now lol..
the necklace is beautiful.. u will wear it for years.. and all the ideasl were lovely and could be done on a budget.....congrats honey

[krbshappy71]

Thank you and hugs Oheoh, I have enjoyed getting to know you on this site! pssst....I'm following you....

That sounds so stalker-ish, Pinterest, ha!

[Libby]

HAHAHA - I was just thinking about you this am and wondering how your planning was going and voila, your post appeared! Glad you've got things moving in a forward and positive direction

*hugs*

[dinah]

it sounds like you want a 'shabby chic' wedding dinner. i would search for that.

[Rebookie]

Congrats!!!!!

Now Here's what I would do. I would go as simple and clean as possible.. You don't need all the accouterments to clog up a table and make it look cheap!

You have to decide wht type of shindig? Will you have a fancy dinner party? A laid back BBQ? Heck, what about a pot luck? The skies the limit!

Also, what time of year will it be? Think outside the box for "flowers". There are a TON of native plants you can use! Here in NC I would scrounge around and make an arrangement of Eucalyptus/Magnolia Leaves. There are NO flowers involved with that arrangement. If I wanted a pop of pizzazz I would go buy some Ting-Ting or dried baby's breath (it's notorious for being cheap!). If it's christmas time go take some cuttings from a holly bush/pine tree.

For linens I would go to a fabric store and buy coordinating remnants or to an outlet store (big lots, old time pottery, Olie's) and buy flat sheets!

Get those christmas lights out (white please)! Christmas light with gussy any occasion up!