Another Wedding Question?

[Katybird]

It sounds like those kids could use a copy of the TWG and a Dave Ramsey book as a gift.

[Holly]

Katy I thought of that ,but they both have learning disabilities and I don't think they'd understand it. ( she might ).
I'm thinking of giving one to th eparents though.

[Jenna]

I think my Aunt may have had a backyard bar-b-cue potluck wedding. Many of my great aunts and other relatives can cook up a storm. This was probably 25 years ago.

My Grandma was one of 13 kids - this family knows how to prepare big meals... a lot of the veggies/fruits were home grown.

Now, we have a potluck at Christmas... each family tends to bring the same dish -- lasagna, roasted beef, cheesy potatoes, mushrooms....

[happimommi]

If it was a backyard wedding with just family, asking for a potluck dish would be ok. We had a situation at our church where a bride wanted the ladies organization to cook all the food for the reception. The problem was it was stuff like lobster, seafood ect that most of us had never had experience with. This was a huge fancy wedding, they were going to supply the food but didn't want to waste money on caterers. We were also all invited guests. Our leadership declined to do the food.

[Holly]

We are catering 2 backyard weddings
this summer. We get paid for those 2
and the guests are not bringing the food.
Its just not something I was ever taught.
My wedding will be on a shoestring but we will supply our own food.
I will also be making my own wedding cake. ( something else I'm getting into ).
working on one today as practice..

[changed4life]

I think asking to bring a dish is fine for a gathering/get together or pot luck event, but when there's a reason for the celebration like a birthday, anniversary, etc. where gifts are the norm, I'd say it's tacky to ask attendees to bring food; especially for a wedding! I say if you can't afford the food for the wedding, then there should just be a champagne toast and wedding cake reception - a common way that the affluent often celebrate.

Another way of celebrating weddings I don't understand is when the bride and groom ask the guests to rent costumes or black tie wear. I think some people are stretching themselves enough to bring a gift, let alone asking them to rent clothing as well.

[larabelle]

I did this at my wedding!

My DH and I had lived together for 8 years and already had everything we needed for our home. We didn't want our guests, some of whom really couldn't afford it, to feel obligated to buy gifts (that we didn't need), or give cash. Therefore, we asked our guests to please bring a covered dish to contribute to a potluck/barbecue in lieu of a gift.

Since it was outdoors, in July, in my dad's backyard with an inground pool, I also asked my guests to please wear their shorts,jeans, t-shirts, and/or bathing suits. It was a blast! Following the ceremony, those guests who hadn't already dived into the pool were happily munching hot dogs, hamburgers and other backyard barbecue delights in their shorts and sandals.

At dark, I lit the big box of fireworks I had bought and the guests blew bubbles at DH and me instead of throwing rice.

Some might say my wedding was low class and tacky. Perhaps they're right. BUT, I'm pretty sure that my guest were more relaxed and had more fun than your average wedding guests!

You can call me tacky, just don't call me late to dinner.

Oh I love this!!! I think I will mimic this for my wedding. It sounds like so much fun compared to the super formal weddings which I have been forced to participate in.

[PaulaMM]

Oh I love this!!! I think I will mimic this for my wedding. It sounds like so much fun compared to the super formal weddings which I have been forced to participate in.

It was fun and I had people tell me it was the best wedding they had ever been to. I say if you're a casual person, then go for the casual wedding.

Congratulations on the coming event!

[rainbowgc]

Bringing a dish is bringing a gift, tough tutu's if they don't understand manners!