Question for those who adopt (general)

**stinkbug** · 02-06-2009, 10:37 AM

My neighbors are adopting a baby. The baby is due the 18th of this month and she (neighbor) is the labor coach and will be there for delivery. We are friendly, but I wouldn't say we are *friends*....but they are good neighbors. Anyway...I made a baby quilt for them and I'm not sure when I should gift it? I have no idea if she had a baby shower. They are older (40's) and have no other children but are very financially secure, etc. I'm thinking I should wait till they actually bring the baby home?? I guess I just worry that anything can still happen at this point........What would be the best option. Now or when baby *arrives*?
Thanks for any input.

**Patty A** · 02-06-2009, 11:37 AM

I think your smart in waiting, you never know what could happen. I think it would be great for you to take it to them after the baby gets here. That way you don't have to worry about the "what ifs" that could happen.

**homesteadmamma** · 02-06-2009, 01:11 PM

I would wait too. Anything can happen from now until the baby is born. What a wonderful gift once baby is here.

**IntlMom** · 02-06-2009, 01:43 PM

Another vote for waiting till baby arrives....... maybe you can take it over with a HM frozen meal, those are always appreiciated by new parents.

**Cricket1** · 02-06-2009, 02:48 PM

I, too, would wait.

**tbs727** · 02-06-2009, 02:53 PM

Speaking as someone who has had an adoption fall through, I would highly suggest waiting. We had a baby shower (I did not want to have it, but my friends insisted). The adoption fell through and I was left with a room full of heartbreaking memories. It took me months to be able to go in and sort through that stuff.

**Debbie-cat** · 02-06-2009, 02:56 PM

I would wait as well.

**ritabelle** · 02-06-2009, 04:04 PM

Why not ask if she's having a baby shower or even a post-baby shower? Sometimes adoptive parents hold a shower after the child comes home as a 'meet the baby' kind of event -- that would be a great time to gift it.

**forHISglory** · 02-07-2009, 12:58 AM

Wait. And when they bring the baby home, meet them with your gift, a smile, and a meal. They will be exhausted.

**elphie** · 02-07-2009, 10:37 AM

If I am unable to attend a shower (either because there isn't one or just scheduling) I generally wait until after the baby arrives whether it is an adoption or not. Besides, parents generally love the opportunity to introduce the little one to everyone and sometimes really need some adult conversation.